Rate your current mental health level out of 10

[Locke]

Originally Posted by fotze2

I’d be awesome at the rape part.

No way! Children would see you coming from a mile away and run like hell!

[fotze2]

You spelled coming not as funny as you could have

[Monahammer]

Originally Posted by fotze2

I’d be awesome at the rape part.

Bad dog!

[Locke]

Originally Posted by fotze2

You spelled coming not as funny as you could have

I'm trying to keep it PG! Someone has to think of the Children!!

[BigThief]

Originally Posted by RichieRich

ok lots of talk about ADD/ADHD lately... how does one navigate the medical system from "Hey Doc I think I have this issue" to what is next. WHAT is actually next? How does the process progress? How does one self-advocate and get things moving? How long typically between the "Hey Doc" discussion to starting an actual medication? "Asking for a friend".

Talk to your family doctor directly about ADHD, tell them directly why you think you have it and how long. They'll go through a process, sometimes as simple as a questionnaire and depending on the rating will talk about the next step. Could be a medication, sometimes just knowing and having a diagnosis helps a person.

My hey doc to medication was about half an hour. It was a process after that to to find the right med and dosage but that's the first most important step. It's not different than any other issue. Gotta bring it up!

[RichieRich]

Originally Posted by BigThief

Talk to your family doctor directly about ADHD, tell them directly why you think you have it and how long. They'll go through a process, sometimes as simple as a questionnaire and depending on the rating will talk about the next step. Could be a medication, sometimes just knowing and having a diagnosis helps a person.

My hey doc to medication was about half an hour. It was a process after that to to find the right med and dosage but that's the first most important step. It's not different than any other issue. Gotta bring it up!

Thanks Titan2 and BigThief.
My "friends" doc told me..er.... them to read a specific book. Ironically although the book is excellent... the ability to actually get through the book has the anticipated result for an ADD person. Probably time to step it up. Although it's great being high-functioning, it's super frustrating too. The "smart guy who can't/won't apply themselves" comment resonates since childhood. Doesn't help mental health when compounded with several other simultaneous significant life stressors. Thankfully there's self medicating coffee and chocolate for that.

[RichieRich]

Originally Posted by Titan2

Tell your friend to suck it up and not be such a bitch. Press those emotions down, irrigate them with beer and die young.

Here is a link to the actual ADHD assessment I got from my doctor:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1xUW...ew?usp=sharing


Here is also a link

https://drive.google.com/file/d/11MQ...ew?usp=sharing

Finally, the book Scattered Minds

Best of luck and feel free to ask any questions here or pm me.

Thanks for the extra info.
The emotions part got drowned and buried in chocolate and exercise; instead of beer resorted to wine gums and bubble tea; too late for "young" depending on your idea of young.


Questionnaire done and highly conclusive. downloaded link and will work through over Christmas break. Will look for ebook of Scattered Minds.

[fotze2]

Originally Posted by RichieRich

Thanks for the extra info.
The emotions part got drowned and buried in chocolate and exercise; instead of beer resorted to wine gums and bubble tea; too late for "young" depending on your idea of young.


Questionnaire done and highly conclusive. downloaded link and will work through over Christmas break. Will look for ebook of Scattered Minds.

I couldn’t get through it. Started to get annoyed. Probably means I failed…..or passed I guess.

[malcolmk14]

Originally Posted by fotze2

I’d be awesome at the rape part.

I spit coffee onto my keyboard.

[fotze2]

Originally Posted by malcolmk14

I spit coffee onto my keyboard.

You ever come back to a thread and see a post you made and regret because you thought it might be funny at the time. Well I do that all the time.

[photon]

Originally Posted by FanIn80

There's a video I saw the other day that explains it pretty good. I understand only two things: "now" and "not now."

My son is both ADD and on the spectrum, and this describes him perfectly. One of the things we had to learn well early on after he was diagnosed was how to help him manage his time and bring things into the "now" before they're actually "now"... still a work in progress

We're looking at support for his job hunt where they also help with helping him use tools to manage this for himself and other things to help with having a job which is new to him.

Originally Posted by FanIn80

I'm pretty worried that whatever medication they're going to give me won't live up to the enormous amount of hope I've placed on it, but I'll find out (hopefully) in a few weeks!

When my son was 8-12 we went through quite a few different meds trying different things.. we went through the same cycle of enormous hope and then not really seeing anything different quite a few times until we found the one that worked for him (Vyvanse as others have mentioned, and Intuniv though he eventually didn't need that anymore). So sometimes it is a process.

Hope you find something that helps improve things!!

[fotze2]

I always wonder if I am possibly 'on the spectrum'. I guess if its a spectrum we are are all on it. Just where? I am just constantly scanning things and people. They don't recognize social cues but I hyper see social cues. If some guys eyebrow goes up when I am saying something I notice that and put it in the bank for later judging. Can you be on the other side of the spectrum? It's exhausting.

Our CEO pulls his phone out when this one guy starts talking. Because he thinks he's full of crap (which he is).

[photon]

There probably is a thing where people are more tuned to social cues, over-tuned.. like Autism being a spectrum that's probably a spectrum too, not sure if there'd be a specific cause or if it's just normal variability where 20% of people are over-tuned.

But there are probably strategies to help manage it.

[fotze2]

Originally Posted by photon

There probably is a thing where people are more tuned to social cues, over-tuned.. like Autism being a spectrum that's probably a spectrum too, not sure if there'd be a specific cause or if it's just normal variability where 20% of people are over-tuned.

But there are probably strategies to help manage it.

Why did my mind go to bullet to the head? Because thats where it went immediately after reading your post.

[Traditional_Ale]

Originally Posted by fotze2

I always wonder if I am possibly 'on the spectrum'. I guess if its a spectrum we are are all on it. Just where? I am just constantly scanning things and people. They don't recognize social cues but I hyper see social cues. If some guys eyebrow goes up when I am saying something I notice that and put it in the bank for later judging. Can you be on the other side of the spectrum? It's exhausting.

This is autism. Its not that autistic people miss social cues, its just that the 7% or so the vast majority of the population and world seem to get by on just fine don't compute well when you're also getting the other 93%. Its a sliding scale. Maybe the eyebrow thing is just something unique to you that you noticed, but if its that plus cataloging the way they adjust their posture, analyzing the timbre of the breath they take before speaking, cramming their chosen words through a decoder because everyone lies and you need things in truth form, plus plus plus plus then yea, autism.

The exhaustion you're speaking of is the mental drain of masking, where all of this is very much real and very much going on and you have to fake like its not WHILE ALSO throwing down a high level that even a neurotypical would find very challenging. In your case I'm guessing you make good dough in a situation where appearances and people skills are paramount, which in my case would be hell.

Our CEO pulls his phone out when this one guy starts talking. Because he thinks he's full of crap (which he is).

A CEO tolerates a guy who's full of crap?

[Duruss]

We are not all on the spectrum to one degree or another. You either are or are not Autistic, however if you have ADHD then you might also have Autism as they are best friends. They can often bring their close acquaintances anxiety, and depression too.

[Titan2]

Originally Posted by fotze2

I always wonder if I am possibly 'on the spectrum'. I guess if its a spectrum we are are all on it. Just where? I am just constantly scanning things and people. They don't recognize social cues but I hyper see social cues. If some guys eyebrow goes up when I am saying something I notice that and put it in the bank for later judging. Can you be on the other side of the spectrum? It's exhausting.

Our CEO pulls his phone out when this one guy starts talking. Because he thinks he's full of crap (which he is).

Originally Posted by photon

There probably is a thing where people are more tuned to social cues, over-tuned.. like Autism being a spectrum that's probably a spectrum too, not sure if there'd be a specific cause or if it's just normal variability where 20% of people are over-tuned.

But there are probably strategies to help manage it.

I would suggest this is a piece of the ADD. Just read about it in the book that y'all must think I am getting paid for. Part of ADD is being hyper-sensitive to social cues as being hyper-alert to the emotions and reactions of everyone around you because you are always anticipating a negative reaction, because that is how you grew up.

[Traditional_Ale]

Originally Posted by Duruss

We are not all on the spectrum to one degree or another. You either are or are not Autistic, however if you have ADHD then you might also have Autism as they are best friends. They can often bring their close acquaintances anxiety, and depression too.

Quick google search "how many people are autistic" shows only 1-2% of the global population, but then goes on to mention an increased awareness in recent years. Its google, its fast, but its an interesting look.

[Titan2]

Originally Posted by fotze2

Why did my mind go to bullet to the head? Because thats where it went immediately after reading your post.

1. because it is darkly funny. I would make the same joke. My buddy says he pays $0.25 for vet insurance, the cost of a .22 shell. Holy #### dude.
2. because you are feeling down. When I am doing well I hardly think of that. When I am not, it springs to mind far too often in the face of the most basic challenges. I can't open the peanut butter, #### I should kill myself.

That's all I got on that.

[Titan2]

Originally Posted by fotze2

I couldn’t get through it. Started to get annoyed. Probably means I failed…..or passed I guess.

A joke? Or the assessment? Or the book? Or the workbook? A B, and C make sense. If B it is only like one page. Try again.