When it's time...

[Flames89]

Originally Posted by shawnjohn

All of you guys on the high and mighty about not cheating on girls need to get off the high road and take a good hard long look at the realistic road. It happens.

I'm not saying its the most honorable way or the only method for that matter buuutttt... it works better than your sensative guy from bedazzaled method.

And BBQsauce has already made out with a chick drunk at a bar. Ask your wives and girlfriends if making out with a girl at a bar is cheating or not. i bet they say it is 99% and for the other 1% go do it and tell them.

Get out there see what the scene is like and take'er from there man.

The problem is - comparing sex with hot random strangers and your long-term gf is like comparing apples to oranges...

As a guy you will NEVER stop thinking about sex with other women. Be they younger, fatter, bigger, smaller, looser, tighter, proper, raunchier, etc.

Fortunately (or unfortunately - depending on the day) it is more than just about the sex or the hunt. You know you have it good when you both are more than the sum of your parts.

[Bill Bumface]

Originally Posted by mykalberta

Also, to people posting about how girls wont leave them alone. Be a man and simply tell them you are not interested.

I disagree. The people that can't take the hint when they as if you want to hang out and you continually say 'no' are the same ones that will ask you 'why not?' when you tell them you aren't interested. I'm not about to get into one of those conversations with someone I've met once.

If we've gone out a couple times and I feel like they might have thought it was going somewhere, then sure, I'll let them know it's toast and not just start ignoring them out of the blue. It's pretty easy to figure out after one date if someone isn't interested in you.

[Traditional_Ale]

^ Thats a pic from a wind up party for a gay porn shoot right?

[BBQorMILDEW]

Originally Posted by shawnjohn

All of you guys on the high and mighty about not cheating on girls need to get off the high road and take a good hard long look at the realistic road. It happens.

I'm not saying its the most honorable way or the only method for that matter buuutttt... it works better than your sensative guy from bedazzaled method.

And BBQsauce has already made out with a chick drunk at a bar. Ask your wives and girlfriends if making out with a girl at a bar is cheating or not. i bet they say it is 99% and for the other 1% go do it and tell them.

Get out there see what the scene is like and take'er from there man.

I am smart enough to not put myself in those situations anymore, I started dating this girl when i was 21 so i was still in the bar star stage of my life.. I couldn't point the girl out of a lineup 10 minutes after i made out with her..

If you could seriously look your girl in the face and tell her you love her then go out and cheat on her then i feel sorry for the both of you..
Things that i thought were "cool' at 21 (cheating) are not cool at 26. Simple as that...

[kermitology]

Originally Posted by shawnjohn

All of you guys on the high and mighty about not cheating on girls need to get off the high road and take a good hard long look at the realistic road. It happens.

Erm.. as someone who's been cheated on, I refuse to do that to someone else. I'll grow the balls to break up with the person I'm with if I'm going to chase some other girl.

I also do not tolerate it being done to me in the slightest.

[burn_this_city]

Originally Posted by kermitology

Erm.. as someone who's been cheated on, I refuse to do that to someone else. I'll grow the balls to break up with the person I'm with if I'm going to chase some other girl.

I also do not tolerate it being done to me in the slightest.

Ive never been cheated on but I watch my buddy's utter devastation. I couldnt inflict that on another person. Its just too cold.

[Bill Bumface]

Common courtesy says you give your girlfriend a phone call somewhere while in progress between 2nd and 3rd base with the other girl to end it, then you may continue on guilt free.

[Traditional_Ale]

Originally Posted by hulkrogan

Common courtesy says you give your girlfriend a phone call somewhere while in progress between 2nd and 3rd base with the other girl to end it, then you may continue on guilt free.

What if 3rd base to some means she wants the back-door? Then is it okay?

[DuffMan]

Originally Posted by Muta

Nah, you simply decide you aren't gay anymore after a while. But before that, you don't have to become her best friend; when she wants to hang out with you, tell her you're busy 'hanging out with someone' or you're with family, or whatever. You don't have to feel guilty either, because you aren't in a relationship anymore.

Eventually it will just drift apart.

I've actually pulled the 'gay' card on a girl that was stalking me a long time ago; it worked like a charm. Just make sure she doesn't know everybody you know.

Apparently the Governor of Alaska can now get her church to say a prayer for you and convert you back to hetero.
So, being gay is not forever, apparently

[mykalberta]

Originally Posted by Traditional_Ale

What if 3rd base to some means she wants the back-door? Then is it okay?

Wouldnt that be the "curtain call" after you get to home

(I cant believe I just typed that)

[Wookie]

So how's the week apart going? Have you gone any more crazy?

Originally Posted by hulkrogan

Sooooo true. It gets pretty annoying when you are getting several different "How are u?" text messages every day from girls that refuse to give up even though you have been ignoring them for some time.

I got really lucky in that at the same time I came out of my relationship I had a few friends come out of fairly long relationships at the same time. It got quite ridiculous for a little while when we were all fresh out.


We should form a CP single 26 year old alliance and have meets... haha.

CPs single club! Granted I'm 29

Went out with 3 different people this week. Nothing clicked... I miss dryspells, they're actually pretty productive.

[Ozy_Flame]

Originally Posted by Wookie

So how's the week apart going? Have you gone any more crazy?



CPs single club! Granted I'm 29

Went out with 3 different people this week. Nothing clicked... I miss dryspells, they're actually pretty productive.

I find my dating comes in waves; I'll have a dry spell for a couple of months, then BAM! There will suddenly be like 2-4 girls I like or are coming into my life. It's weird that way.

Of course, nothing ever becomes of them long-term. Perhaps I should stop inviting them out to LAN parties for a date.

[burn_this_city]

Originally Posted by Ozy_Flame

I find my dating comes in waves; I'll have a dry spell for a couple of months, then BAM! There will suddenly be like 2-4 girls I like or are coming into my life. It's weird that way.

Of course, nothing ever becomes of them long-term. Perhaps I should stop inviting them out to LAN parties for a date.

At least sleep with them before revealing all out nerd status.

Wookie, how do you meet so many girls? I can't even find 3 suitable dates a month..

[Wookie]

Originally Posted by burn_this_city

At least sleep with them before revealing all out nerd status.

Wookie, how do you meet so many girls? I can't even find 3 suitable dates a month..

They come in waves, friends of friends, gym/pool, some that have been hanging around like an old shoe come out of the woodwork here and there. Then it's a dry spell. But recently this is a bit uncommon. I'm actually losing track. I've made an effort to be more social recently and it's panned out quite well and isn't all that hard. Also I might be at the age where girls are getting antsy and it's just really really easy to get some dates? I think Hulk mentioend it above, I think guys can date up and down in age more easily than girls. So I've got a great range right now between 24 - 32. 32 being my cap not theirs and a few outliers at 22/23.

I recently joined a yoga place. I'm planning on tearing through there like there's no tomorrow. Which... after.. I'll ummm.. have to leave.

I think I always try to have one long term prospect always on my mind. With some entertainment/dates on the side in case long term prospect doesn't pan out, or maybe something better comes along.

Right now I'd say I'll know if I'm going to get anywhere with the good prospect within the next month. I'm leaning towards no, (an example would have been the lifeguard, that was a long term prospect) at which point I'll probably give someone else a fair shot or cut my losses and see if I can get some stuff done over the winter and be antisocial.

Actually, I forgot about two of the short termers that are actually pretty cool. This is where I usually make a mess of things. Go out a few times and in the process of figuring out what to do I piss someone off...

[Ozy_Flame]

Originally Posted by Wookie

They come in waves, friends of friends, gym/pool, some that have been hanging around like an old shoe come out of the woodwork here and there. Then it's a dry spell. But recently this is a bit uncommon. I'm actually losing track. I've made an effort to be more social recently and it's panned out quite well and isn't all that hard. Also I might be at the age where girls are getting antsy and it's just really really easy to get some dates? I think Hulk mentioend it above, I think guys can date up and down in age more easily than girls. So I've got a great range right now between 24 - 32. 32 being my cap not theirs and a few outliers at 22/23.

I recently joined a yoga place. I'm planning on tearing through there like there's no tomorrow. Which... after.. I'll ummm.. have to leave.

I think I always try to have one long term prospect always on my mind. With some entertainment/dates on the side in case long term prospect doesn't pan out, or maybe something better comes along.

Right now I'd say I'll know if I'm going to get anywhere with the good prospect within the next month. I'm leaning towards no, (an example would have been the lifeguard, that was a long term prospect) at which point I'll probably give someone else a fair shot or cut my losses and see if I can get some stuff done over the winter and be antisocial.

Actually, I forgot about two of the short termers that are actually pretty cool. This is where I usually make a mess of things. Go out a few times and in the process of figuring out what to do I piss someone off...

You sir, are my hero. I'm like you, but on a mini scale. Although I tend to agree, when you're in your late 20's, I think girls start to see you as prime meat, especially if you have your head on straight.

[Cawz]

Originally Posted by Traditional_Ale

I know plenty of married couples who still party hard!

Its when you have kids....

Yup. If you enjoy partying, then you should enjoy partying with you spouse. Unless you are the kind of person who only parties in order to find a mate.

The best case scanario is to find someone who enjoys much of the same things you do, so you can continue doing what you enjoy after marriage. I'm lucky that way, but it took me well into my 30s before I found "the one". But its absolutly worth the wait.

Kids are a whole nother story though. Once you have kids, thats your #1 priority.