When it's time...

[Tron_fdc]

Originally Posted by Grunt

Annoyingly, by ignoring them they want you even more.

just wait till you guys get a little older, and your demographics include "newly divorced moms looking to latch onto anything that moves or has any chance of being a father figure to her kids"

My advice is to stay the H.E.(double hockey stix) away from them. They're quick to jump in the sack, tell you that they only want the sex, but as soon as you fall for it be prepared for 800 texts a day about what they're up to. It's like getting a personal facebook status update every 60 seconds.

Super easy to get naked, hard as fata to get rid of.

[burn_this_city]

I can echo the hate dating thing. So many clinger when they realize you have a good job and have some ambition. It gets to the point where you wonder if its worth the effort. Most of the time I just skip the dating opportunities if I don't think they'll have a chance right away.

[Winsor_Pilates]

I was in your situation a few months back, and ended up breaking up with my GF.
A part of me always wanted to be out with the boys enjoying whatever youth I have left, doing what I want, when I want etc.
It started effecting the way I acted when I was with her, the attention I gave her and all that, and in the end she broke it off before I could even figure things out anyway.

My advice, is to decide one way or the other soon, because she will start to feel that you're in limbo. I don't know how they do it, but they can tell, and eventually being in limbo will break you apart anyway.
Also, the grass isn't always greener on this side. You will miss her, and the single life your friends are living isn't as great as it looks (while not horrible either).

[shawnjohn]

I'm suprised nobody has suggested this yet.

See other girls on the side, there's nothing wrong with making new friends... If you like one of your new friends, switch up ship.

Banging other girls is always a good way to gauge if sex is the problem in your relationship. That'll give you a taste of the single life...

Put it this way, would you quit your job without having another one lined up?

[troutman]

Originally Posted by Table 5

if only there was a way to marry them and still put your wee-wee in someone else's hoo-ha once in a while...

They built a place like that - it's called France

[BBQorMILDEW]

Originally Posted by shawnjohn

I'm suprised nobody has suggested this yet.

See other girls on the side, there's nothing wrong with making new friends... If you like one of your new friends, switch up ship.

Banging other girls is always a good way to gauge if sex is the problem in your relationship. That'll give you a taste of the single life...

Put it this way, would you quit your job without having another one lined up?

In the past this would be something that I would do in a heartbeat. However I just can't bring myself to cheat on this girl, there have been ample opportunities to do so.. I went to Cancun without her by the way..
I have had the drunken kisses at the bar with other girls but I stopped myself from doing anything more..
I know that this girl wouldn't cheat on me and I owe it to her to stay committed to our relationship.. I owe it to myself also,

Don't get me wrong your way of thinking is probably the funniest way to do this, I just don't know what I would do if I slept with a girl and she ended up having an STD and I unknowingly passed it along to my girlfriend. It would cripple US as a couple as well as her self esteem.

So far I have told her that I am taking the week off from doing anything together, I told her that I have some crucial stuff on my mind and that I would be ok in a week.. So far I can honestly say that I am miserable without her, but I am staying strong and only calling her or texting her before I go to bed.

My gut is telling me that I would be a wreck without her, but I am going to give it a couple days to be sure.. till then I say good day,,

[mykalberta]

Originally Posted by BBQorMILDEW

In the past this would be something that I would do in a heartbeat. However I just can't bring myself to cheat on this girl, there have been ample opportunities to do so.. I went to Cancun without her by the way..
I have had the drunken kisses at the bar with other girls but I stopped myself from doing anything more..
I know that this girl wouldn't cheat on me and I owe it to her to stay committed to our relationship.. I owe it to myself also,

Don't get me wrong your way of thinking is probably the funniest way to do this, I just don't know what I would do if I slept with a girl and she ended up having an STD and I unknowingly passed it along to my girlfriend. It would cripple US as a couple as well as her self esteem.

So far I have told her that I am taking the week off from doing anything together, I told her that I have some crucial stuff on my mind and that I would be ok in a week.. So far I can honestly say that I am miserable without her, but I am staying strong and only calling her or texting her before I go to bed.

My gut is telling me that I would be a wreck without her, but I am going to give it a couple days to be sure.. till then I say good day,,

The most sane post in a thread with many insane posts. If you are in a commited relationship, you simply dont act like a ######. If you want to act that way, quite frankly have the balls to break up with her first. There are many attractive women in this city, if you choose to be commited with one, stick with it or else play the field.

Also, to people posting about how girls wont leave them alone. Be a man and simply tell them you are not interested. Its completely classless to act like someone in grade 5 and simply ignore them. I realize its easier to ignore them and act like you havent finished puberty but if you act like that with them, you will likely find someone who you divorce after 5 years with 2 kids.

I will just add to Tron's post. I am single and 28, and yes be aware of women with kids. I couldnt believe when this girl I met and chatted with for a while and then yada yada, and then a couple weeks later after more yadaing I find out she has a kid. Again, women need to simply be straight with a guy up front. Why would someone do that, and then try to guilt trip you. That is a huge commitment for a guy, and quite frankly it takes someone who is a better person than I to commit to someone else's child.

Just IMO of course.

[FireFly]

Originally Posted by hulkrogan

Haha, yeah, I broke up with her 4 years ago when I was 22 and she was 19



Sooooo true. It gets pretty annoying when you are getting several different "How are u?" text messages every day from girls that refuse to give up even though you have been ignoring them for some time.

I got really lucky in that at the same time I came out of my relationship I had a few friends come out of fairly long relationships at the same time. It got quite ridiculous for a little while when we were all fresh out.


We should form a CP single 26 year old alliance and have meets... haha.

Does it get to include girls? But I'm 27...

As to the OP, you're doing it right. Take time to consider what you're getting into. There is nothing worse than settling into a relationship only to discover 5 years down the road it's not at all what you wanted. I've seen too many people settle and then hate their lives.

The biggest thing I'm having a hard time with is finding someone I click with. Contrary to popular belief, I don't want a 'bad guy', but I also don't want a 'good guy' either. There's a happy medium of regular guys out there I'm sure. All I need to find is one that can put up with me and has no issues giving it right back...

[burn_this_city]

Originally Posted by mykalberta

The most sane post in a thread with many insane posts. If you are in a commited relationship, you simply dont act like a ######. If you want to act that way, quite frankly have the balls to break up with her first. There are many attractive women in this city, if you choose to be commited with one, stick with it or else play the field.

Also, to people posting about how girls wont leave them alone. Be a man and simply tell them you are not interested. Its completely classless to act like someone in grade 5 and simply ignore them. I realize its easier to ignore them and act like you havent finished puberty but if you act like that with them, you will likely find someone who you divorce after 5 years with 2 kids.

I will just add to Tron's post. I am single and 28, and yes be aware of women with kids. I couldnt believe when this girl I met and chatted with for a while and then yada yada, and then a couple weeks later after more yadaing I find out she has a kid. Again, women need to simply be straight with a guy up front. Why would someone do that, and then try to guilt trip you. That is a huge commitment for a guy, and quite frankly it takes someone who is a better person than I to commit to someone else's child.

Just IMO of course.

Good post, I agree that playing the field is the worst approach. Cheating on someone is the coldest s*it you can do to anyone. If you can cheat on someone you supposidly love, then you probably don't love anyone except yourself. I also get sick of the bait and switch things chicks with kids do. Just be up front about it.

[Traditional_Ale]

Originally Posted by burn_this_city

Good post, I agree that playing the field is the worst approach. Cheating on someone is the coldest s*it you can do to anyone. If you can cheat on someone you supposidly love, then you probably don't love anyone except yourself. I also get sick of the bait and switch things chicks with kids do. Just be up front about it.

Bait and switch?

Sorry, I've only had long-term relationships so I have no idea what this means.

[ken0042]

Originally Posted by Traditional_Ale

Bait and switch?

Sorry, I've only had long-term relationships so I have no idea what this means.

When a guy asks a girl "Tell me about yourself" or "Tell me about your day"; you would think that at some point they would mention having kids. Isn't that kinda an major part of your life?

[CaptainCrunch]

Originally Posted by Tron_fdc

just wait till you guys get a little older, and your demographics include "newly divorced moms looking to latch onto anything that moves or has any chance of being a father figure to her kids"

My advice is to stay the H.E.(double hockey stix) away from them. They're quick to jump in the sack, tell you that they only want the sex, but as soon as you fall for it be prepared for 800 texts a day about what they're up to. It's like getting a personal facebook status update every 60 seconds.

Super easy to get naked, hard as fata to get rid of.

At that point, you need to vanish and have your family declare you dead to get out of those messes.

Even worse is the woman who's still married, doesn't tell you she's married, jumps into the sack oh so easily. Then after 6 months of incredibly joyous times she drunkenly lets it slip that she's married and her husband is either a marshall artist or a cop.

Let the good times roll Ed.

[Muta]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

At that point, you need to vanish and have your family declare you dead to get out of those messes.

Even worse is the woman who's still married, doesn't tell you she's married, jumps into the sack oh so easily. Then after 6 months of incredibly joyous times she drunkenly lets it slip that she's married and her husband is either a marshall artist or a cop.

Let the good times roll Ed.

Three words. I AM GAY.

[CaptainCrunch]

Originally Posted by Muta

Three words. I AM GAY.

Thats a dangerous trap because the minute that you say that to get you out of a relationship, she instantly tries to become your bestest girly friend in the world, inviting you out to shop, and eat ice cream and talk about boys. Then she sets you up with her friend Marko who's a really nice guy who's a little lonely and just got out of prison. What do you say to him? Sorry, I'm into animals?

Yes your out of one relationship and into a worse one.

[Bobblehead]

Being single can suck sometimes

Being in a bad marriage sucks more than than any black hole the Hadron collider can make.

[Muta]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

Thats a dangerous trap because the minute that you say that to get you out of a relationship, she instantly tries to become your bestest girly friend in the world, inviting you out to shop, and eat ice cream and talk about boys. Then she sets you up with her friend Marko who's a really nice guy who's a little lonely and just got out of prison. What do you say to him? Sorry, I'm into animals?

Yes your out of one relationship and into a worse one.

Nah, you simply decide you aren't gay anymore after a while. But before that, you don't have to become her best friend; when she wants to hang out with you, tell her you're busy 'hanging out with someone' or you're with family, or whatever. You don't have to feel guilty either, because you aren't in a relationship anymore.

Eventually it will just drift apart.

I've actually pulled the 'gay' card on a girl that was stalking me a long time ago; it worked like a charm. Just make sure she doesn't know everybody you know.

[Muta]

Originally Posted by Bobblehead

Being single can suck sometimes

Being in a bad marriage sucks more than than any black hole the Hadron collider can make.

That's an awesome reference; I've sent out a company-wide email today letting people know about it and that it begins powering up today. It's kind of been the hot topic-of-conversation in the office this week, for whatever reason!

[Cowboy89]

Originally Posted by burn_this_city

I also get sick of the bait and switch things chicks with kids do. Just be up front about it.

Hey don't bash the chicks with kids bait and switch. Sometimes they have to lie a bit to get little Johnny a new daddy!

Also that demographic is a perfect place for someone to jump up a couple of rungs in the hotness department if that's what's important to them.

[shawnjohn]

All of you guys on the high and mighty about not cheating on girls need to get off the high road and take a good hard long look at the realistic road. It happens.

I'm not saying its the most honorable way or the only method for that matter buuutttt... it works better than your sensative guy from bedazzaled method.

And BBQsauce has already made out with a chick drunk at a bar. Ask your wives and girlfriends if making out with a girl at a bar is cheating or not. i bet they say it is 99% and for the other 1% go do it and tell them.

Get out there see what the scene is like and take'er from there man.

[Bobblehead]

Originally Posted by shawnjohn

All of you guys on the high and mighty about not cheating on girls need to get off the high road and take a good hard long look at the realistic road. It happens.

I'm not saying its the most honorable way or the only method for that matter buuutttt... it works better than your sensative guy from bedazzaled method.

And BBQsauce has already made out with a chick drunk at a bar. Ask your wives and girlfriends if making out with a girl at a bar is cheating or not. i bet they say it is 99% and for the other 1% go do it and tell them.

Get out there see what the scene is like and take'er from there man.

Classy!