Help with women

[Rubicant]

Originally Posted by valo403

Probably not a great idea to post a giant picture of a girl on an internet forum after your first date. Unless of course you're going for the 'wow, he's creepy' vibe.

I agree.

Otherwise, congrats OP on a successful first date.

[3 Justin 3]

Post her, I didn't catch it the first time.

/dontlistentomydumbass

[Sliver]

The bro code needs to add a new rule. Any dude advising another dude to take down a photo of a girlfriend is in violation of the rule.

[Joborule]

Now I feel left out.

[Lt.Spears]

So OP is in love now (ive seen this happen a billion times)

[CaptainCrunch]

Originally Posted by Lt.Spears

So OP is in love now (ive seen this happen a billion times)

Next thing you know your dogs pregnant, somebody's stolen your change jar and your milk carton has two drops of milk in it, I've seen it a thousand times.

[undercoverbrother]

Originally Posted by valo403

Probably not a great idea to post a giant picture of a girl on an internet forum after your first date. Unless of course you're going for the 'wow, he's creepy' vibe.

[TorqueDog]

Originally Posted by saskflames96

Disregard women, acquire pokemon.

But always wear protection; one squirtle by accident can be a life-changing experience.

[KTown]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

Back to the dressing thing, for some people its a manner of confidence building.

If you don't have a lot of confidence and you dress poorly then woman who have a radar about these things will look at you as a schub that dresses like a slob, so the rejection thing is magnified 10x

Dressing well, or to impress will get you a lot of forgiveness points if you act like a dork.

First impression of dress, woman don't notice a shirt or tie, or a jacket, they notice shoes and the condition of the shoes.

Its weird.

Blazers and Colourful dress shirts is what works for me. It takes a man to wear purple and pink shirts and women love them. Slim fit clothes work best, unless your fat of course. I tend to find most women hate ball caps and most guys still seem to wear them. The more people that don't know how to dress the easier it is for me.

Confidence is also a big thing. I go out and when I seem to not care is when I've always had no issues whether I want a one night stand or to see if there is something more by going out with them a few times.

I've been separated for a year now and in that year there has not been any moment where I don't/didn't have a woman/women in my life. I just don't think I found one to settle down with again. But there has been a few close ones. I'm pretty picky about what I want the second time around. I don't really want to settle for the same result. It's not fun!

I'm not built with huge muscles either. I am actually a skinny guy. I also have baggage being a single dad.

Women can smell desperation and all the women I've come across seem to love the fact that I don't need to text them or call them all the time. They seem to hate clingy men. Perfect for me I'd rather golf and spend time with my son, when I am not working. Women are 3rd on my list and it seems to have work quite well for me to this point.

[Bill Bumface]

^ Hey playa!

[Dion]

http://cougarlife.com/dating/success...ting-tips.html

If you are trying to find a date do not post pictures of you with another girl in it. Come on guys, learn Photoshop, or find a better photograph! I know, it might just be your friend, but cut her out of the picture! I do not want to see you with another pretty girl she probably does not want her face plastered all over a cougar dating website. It screams player regardless of if you are or not, and most if not all of us women are not looking for a player!


If you thought the first bullet point was silly, remember, you should be approaching online dating from a woman's perspective, and I am just providing you my thoughts on the matters. I can get past the woman in your photo, but when I get to the photographs of your genitals I draw the line as do the rest of us classy women. Do not post pictures of your private parts! We already know what a penis looks like and no matter how great of big you think yours is, it isn’t! Girls really do not care how big and thick it is, believe it or not size does not matter. An old saying says it not the size of the hammer, but how you swing it. It will not make me want to go out on a date with you, in fact it will make me ignore you because I will think you are only looking at me as a piece of meat and not the fantastic lady I really am.


Do not make the conversation about sex. Yes, cougars think about sex quite frequently and we do thoroughly enjoy all aspects of having sex, but the majority of us do not care to talk about sex with you before we know your name, what you do for a living and all the other interesting facts about you. Bringing up sex in the initial emails will get you blocked and ignored and is NOT going to get you laid any quicker! Here is food for thought: Would you tell your penis size to a woman you passed on the street that you find attractive? If the answer is NO, because you would likely find yourself in jail for sexual harassment, so then what makes you think it is ok to bring up with me?


Read our profiles!! Act and show that you care what we are about and not just an object. We know you think we are sexy but there is much more to us than that! Countless numbers of cubs flirt with me or ask for my private pictures and I immediately know they did not read my profile! In my profile I specifically state to write me a message showing me that you read my profile, before you ask for my photo’s, so if you don’t read my profile I will quickly know and weed you out. Remember: There are lots of other cubs in the wild looking for some attention. Too many of you blow your chance and then blame it on the website for not working.


No, I do not want to talk on the phone with you, text message, or instant message you without getting to know anything about you. Realize there are a lot of creepy people in this world and if I gave my personal info out to every guy that asked for it my phone would not stop ringing from calls, beeping from text messages, and my computer would crash from instant messaging windows, and I would never get anything done during the day. I am a successful woman and sending me your contact info in the first email shows that you did not read my profile because my profile tells you that I am not intersted in giving you my contact information or obtaining yours. Get to know these women, the less you ask for a woman's contact information, the sooner she will feel comfortable providing it to you.


While it may seem insignificant, pick a screen name that is witty, cute and describes you. Do not pick one that screams creep, rapist, or murderer (Yes, believe it or not some guys think stuff like that is funny!) Without naming specific profiles, I have seen cubs use the words "stalker", "ripper", "####", and "####you" in their screen names. This is online dating, and while it is rare, crimes do happen to girls and why would you want to label yourself like that? Even if you think it is witty and the joke of century, I promise you that we do not!


If I had to estimate, I would say more than 90% of male profiles I have viewed or have contacted me, have not filled out the basic information or had a photo! Put the effort forth guys! Those questions were put there for a reason, so us cougars can sort through the countless numbers of men countacting us. Do not put childish and ridiculous answers to questions, because we will move right on to the next cub who decided to act mature, and then you will complain that this site sucks and the women are fake! Fill in all the questions and answers in DEPTH, they are there to be fun and give us a little insight into who you are. I am not saying write a novel, but intrigue us, make us want to know more about you. You will only get out of the site what you put into it and if you put nothing on your profile you will get nothing out of it. Put a picture of yourself, I am happy that you have six pack abs, but I want to see what your face looks like, so put a picture of yourself up there! We want to know who we are talking to and potentially going to meet!

[CaptainCrunch]

Frack that sounds like way to much work and thinking.

[Dion]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

Frack that sounds like way to much work and thinking.

If it gets you an opportunity to meet some sexy cougars and get laid, I'd say it's worth it

[CaptainCrunch]

hmmm . . . . most of the cougars that I know aren't near that needy. They need several shots of Tequilla and they're good to go, and the less conversation the better.

[CaramonLS]

We need a CP bar night or something - if nothing else, CC would be the star of the show.

[Dion]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

hmmm . . . . most of the cougars that I know aren't near that needy. They need several shots of Tequilla and they're good to go, and the less conversation the better.

Names and phone numbers please

[Hack&Lube]

I hate missing pictures on forums! What did she look like?

[VladtheImpaler]

[Titan]

Originally Posted by VladtheImpaler

To quote Costanza, if you believe it, it's not a lie... If you believe you are a "player", you are... speaking from experience, it really does work... So many things - I'll throw out a few suggestions...

1) If you are shy/scared, online is your friend - not e-harmony (which is for people looking to get married) - think lavalife "casual" section (I haven't been on it in years - it's the one between "relationships" and "fataing"). Have a really good photo of yourself done for this, a dog in the picture helps... Work on your email/online communication skills - often, you can prepare the ground so well before you even meet that closing on the first date is a cinch...

2) Dress well. I know you are young, so this might not apply to you as well as to a 30-something, but still... What you need is a look that says "class/cool" without saying "dbag". Think Sean Connery, not Jersey Shore... Women really do like a well-dressed man. When you first meet a woman,drink something like a vodka-tonic or a vodka-soda (NO STRAW) - it makes you look like a man.

3) Have a set of funny/interesting stories you can always fall back on - ideally, you'd have enough for a couple of dates worth. Tailor your story to the audience - some girls like raunchy humour more than others... I had a couple of stories and a couple of jokes that I think I told on every first date, and they always laughed. Once they think you have a sense of humour, you are almost there. Plus, if you are naturally shy, having a set "playbook" makes conversation easier, as you don't need to worry about "ummm, what do I say now?"

That's the basics. The biggest thing is self-belief/confidence. I literally went from where you are at (more or less) to shooting fish in a barrel almost overnight, and I didn't get any better looking... Sure, improving personal fitness and such helps, but the biggest thing is confidence, and a few little things I mentioned above.

Good luck, my son.

Good advice. But I wonder how often it happened to come up in conversations that you were in law school/were a lawyer. Not to be crude but that can't have hurt?
I never got the benefit of playing that card, subtly of course.

[Titan]

Originally Posted by MarchHare

Mount Allison.

Is that the name or what you did!!! Ba Boom!!!!