I have my first post marriage coffee date tonight. This will be the first time I've courted a woman since I was 21. What is an acceptable greeting when we first meet? Handshake or little hug? Also what's an acceptable time for this to last? I realize if it goes well it's going to last longer but I want to wrap things up prior to the awkward pause.
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Quick little hug is the way to go if first impressions are good.
Man you just made me remember my first date after my ex and I split. It was actually a pretty cool date lined up but wow there was just no flow to the conversation for us. It worked out for the best in the end but man that was just a dull night when it should have been pretty cool.
No matter how the coffee date goes be proud that you put yourself out there.
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I have my first post marriage coffee date tonight. This will be the first time I've courted a woman since I was 21. What is an acceptable greeting when we first meet? Handshake or little hug? Also what's an acceptable time for this to last? I realize if it goes well it's going to last longer but I want to wrap things up prior to the awkward pause.
I have been married for years (I can't believe my wife's poor life choices).
But honestly, why not come out the gate honestly.
Just tell her your situation, tell her you might be a bit socially awkward with this but you don't want to make her uncomfortable or uneasy.
Most women really appreciate that level of honesty.
Also good luck.
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Leave the handshake or hug on meeting up to them. Be open to it with your body language but unwanted touching isnt a great first impression.
Know that women generally dont view handshakes the same way men do. Only if she puts her hand out first do you shake. Same with a hug.
At the same time you can also just say 'im unsure whats an approriate greeting for this meet' and let them respond how they want
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She may be just as nervous as you. Be yourself. Enjoy yourself. Maybe only 50% of first dates lead to second dates. Finding the right connection takes time.
Thanks for the good tips fellas. I will look for her signs and if no sign maybe just ask. The lady knows my situation and that I am rusty so I'm sure she would understand if I ask as puffnstuff said.
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Thanks for the good tips fellas. I will look for her signs and if no sign maybe just ask. The lady knows my situation and that I am rusty so I'm sure she would understand if I ask as puffnstuff said.
Be polite to everyone you encounter. She will judge if you are rude to the barista or don't hold the door going in/out.
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Well I couldn't put up that post and not follow with you all. The date went good I think. She was as attractive in person as she was in photos (I've been told that's not always the case) and the conversation was great. From what I read online coffee dates should last 30 min to 1 hour and we talked for 2 hours so I don't know if that's good/bad or means nothing. I would definitely be open to seeing her again as we have some things in common but the ball is in her court and I imagine she has options. Regardless of what happens I feel like it was a good start to the journey.
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So as I been delving more into reddit, I found some good advice about building up her trust by assuring her that you didn’t put anything into her drink, even though you could have.
On second thought that might have been advice on things you shouldn’t do. Who knows.
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So as I been delving more into reddit, I found some good advice about building up her trust by assuring her that you didn’t put anything into her drink, even though you could have.
On second thought that might have been advice on things you shouldn’t do. Who knows.
Even though you didn’t do it, it sounds like you thought about it = creepy.
Even though you didn’t do it, it sounds like you thought about it = creepy.
That’s a good one too. Start with, “if I was a creep, I would have said someone about not putting anything in your drink but I am not, so don’t worry your drink is safe”.
