Have you cold approached a girl?

[19Yzerman19]

Originally Posted by flameswin

A little disingenuous on my part, I agree. I was more just extremely amused that you managed to use two business terms in regards to getting laid.

Yeah, I guess the economic lexicon is a bit odd and could lead to some incorrect conclusions about how I go about things. All I'm really trying to say is that Calgary's escorts section on backpage is depressing. World class city my ass.

(in seriousness the term "return on investment" applies equally to platonic friendships and really all interpersonal relationships)

[Rathji]

Originally Posted by rubecube

You can't just make these biological claims and simultaneously ignore the structural differences and social influences between pre-modren and post-modern societies.

Not saying he is right on his claims, but girls brains and boys brains are certainly different. Girls brains tend to more easily recognize emotions and identify when people are closely connected compared to men, and this can lead to them having a better time communicating than men, because, to put it bluntly, we are often more dense when it comes to these things.

That said, these things are not hard wired, as he was saying.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Rathji

Not saying he is right on his claims, but girls brains and boys brains are certainly different. Girls brains tend to more easily recognize emotions and identify when people are closely connected compared to men, and this can lead to them having a better time communicating than men, because, to put it bluntly, we are often more dense when it comes to these things.

That said, these things are not hard wired, as he was saying.

Yeah, and I agree with all of that. I'm just not willing to concede that nay of these studies have been so specific as to say women enjoy talking about themselves more than men. I'd even accept women enjoy talking in general more than men, but talking about themselves seems like a stretch.

[strombad]

Originally Posted by Rathji

At least you are stopping yourself before you sound like an idiot.

I should've had you lynched when I had the chance.

[troutman]

What would Prince do?

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by troutman

What would Prince do?

Everyone?

[undercoverbrother]

Originally Posted by troutman

What would Prince do?

Originally Posted by rubecube

Everyone?

Anyone

[northcrunk]

If your looking for some action without any committment there are place to go for that. For me I never spent a lot of time on girls I felt were either not right for me or I couldn't see myself marrying. You could use cost-benefit analysis for that as well. I never made much of an investment in girls who I wasn't really serious about but was never a dick and have always been a nice guy.

We only really have a set period of time to find a partner (if you even want to get married which many don't and there is nothing wrong with that) and I knew what I was looking for so I spent more time evaluating the women I met from that point of view instead of the "gotta get laid" perspective. I have many friends that are girls that I am not close with but just know them because they liked me at one point and we became nothing more than friends. Now that I'm married though I don't talk to an of those girls.

When I met my wife I knew they day I met her that I found who I was looking for and she is now my best friend as well as my wife.

I've found more attractive women are usually not stuck up as some men claim but are approached less as some men are intimidated or feel that they wouldn't have a chance. It's important to find someone your are comfortable with and can talk easly too. Sometimes you just have to fight those initial nerves. Be confident and be yourself.

[northcrunk]

Originally Posted by rubecube

Yeah, and I agree with all of that. I'm just not willing to concede that nay of these studies have been so specific as to say women enjoy talking about themselves more than men. I'd even accept women enjoy talking in general more than men, but talking about themselves seems like a stretch.

I don't think that women just enjoy talking about themselves, it is just easier to get them to open up about themselves than it is to get them to ask you questions. From experience I would say generally women talk way more (having 2 daughters and a wife who are all chatterboxes). I am the more quiet one in my house.

[lazypucker]

I am going to cut to the chase here:

Girlysports - Will you go out on a date with me?

[Peanut]

Originally Posted by Erick Estrada

Ha ha where did I once in the thread categorize or speak of women as conquering? I'm only taking offense to the guys here in a predominantly male discussion where boys are being boys that feel the need to police us and tell us how crude we are. Internet white knights are such buzzkill.

[Makarov]

Originally Posted by troutman

What would Prince do?

He would die 4 u

[GirlySports]

Originally Posted by lazypucker

I am going to cut to the chase here:

Girlysports - Will you go out on a date with me?

doesn't quite have the same charm in text..

and yes I'm married with a daughter.

[GirlySports]

Originally Posted by MattyC

Would you have liked to have him ask you out?

My unmarried self would have found it interesting, not sure how I'd react. Not only is the guy nervous, the girl is put on the spot too.

[lazypucker]

Originally Posted by GirlySports

doesn't quite have the same charm in text..

and yes I'm married with a daughter.

doesn't quite hurt as much in text...

and yes it still burns.

[Teh_Bandwagoner]

Last time I cold approached a girl, it wasn't for my benefit lol.

My co-worker is incredibly shy around girls. Can barely get a word out. We were on a work trip to Toronto and decided to stay the weekend to check out the sites since I had never been to Toronto before.

Saturday night, we hit up some club downtown. I'm taken, so gallivanting about with women is out of the question for me. However, I kept trying to convince my co-worker to go chat up some girls, but he just refused, saying it was really tough thing for him to do. I got fed up with him, and decided to approach a girl for him. I straight up walked up to this tall attractive girl, struck up a conversation with her and managed to convince her to dance with my friend. Unfortunately that was as far as we got. She danced with him, but he did not say a single word to her lol.

Lead the horse to water and all that jazz I guess.

[Coach]

Originally Posted by GirlySports

My unmarried self would have found it interesting, not sure how I'd react. Not only is the guy nervous, the girl is put on the spot too.

Yeah for sure. I was more looking for a reason to pull out, "Well why don't you ask him?"

I talk with my GF about this sometimes as she tells me stories about her friends and the guys they hang out with. And almost every single problem they have can be solved by just actually asking questions of the guy, or telling them what they want.

Most women seem to think that guys can read their minds fo stuff like this, or that were supposed to pick up on subtle signals like playing with hair or saying something a particular way. In my experience, most guys are pretty simple when it comes to this stuff. Tell us how you feel and we will react in a way we deem appropriate, but expecting us to somehow know the intricate workings of the mind of a woman without any actual interaction is just futile.

This also applies to the age old "you know what you did". No we don't. And whatever we said that made you really mad, we forgot about as soon as it left our mouths 2 weeks ago.

[Street Pharmacist]

Originally Posted by MattyC

Yeah for sure. I was more looking for a reason to pull out.

Was wondering where you were going with this one

[Table 5]

This thread was a lot more fun when it was just Dion giving out mackin advice.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Table 5

This thread was a lot more fun when it was just Dion giving out advice on mackin.

Cheer up, I don't think that well is running dry anytime soon.