Hopefully this starts a new movement where this whole "Your fat body is so beautiful!!" goes away. It's bs, has always been bs, and it's about time someone starts calling people out for it.
Three and a half years ago I made a choice to eat right and excercise 4 times a week, and within 6 months I was in probably the best shape of my life. A year ago I stopped doing that, and I look like a fat slob again, and have nothing but myself to blame. And no, my body is not beautiful.
All one needs to do is look back 30 years, and being obese was the exception, not the norm. Until people realize stuffing their faces with McDonalds, and processed food is the answer, they will have these self consoling pity parties trying to rationalize their terrible eating and exercise habits. Myself included.
Good on her.
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I do find it a bit comical that so many of us instantly went to her being a personal trainer in essence "making an excuse'". Instead she owns some retirement home. She wakes up early and works out when she can by making room by not watching TV. At least according to the article in the original post.
How many of the women that don't have the time are the same people who's Tuesday was so busy because they had to watch Dancing with the Stars and Grey's Anatomy and read the new Twilight book before giving us an update on it on Facebook prior to instagramming their fried chicken dinner? Those are the people she's trying to send a message to.
Yep, genetics, stress and all those other factors play a role. I feel bad for those who put in the effort but don't get the results but those are a minority and not the people the message is targeting.
As for me, I'm a fat #### who knows it's my own personal choices and I have no excuse outside of unhealthy food being so damn tasty.
I have no problem with her message, but I also have no problem with people showing her scorn and being angry at her. She's the initial provoker after all. Don't criticize if you can't handle the criticism back. She's prejudging people with no background info, so I think it's pretty fair that others are prejudging her back with similar fashion. You think I'm a fat slob? Well, I think you're a deadbeat mom who's kids need the help of social services.
I really like Maria's response to the backlash she's been getting:
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I've been getting an influx of new followers, emails and comments (on my profile pic) recently. Some saying I'm a bully, I'm fat-shaming and I need to apologize for the hurt I've caused women. I get it. SO here's my First and Final Apology:
I'm sorry you took an image and resonated with it in such a negative way. I won't go into details that I struggled with my genetics, had an eating disorder, work full time owning two business', have no nanny, am not naturally skinny and do not work as a personal trainer. I won't even mention how I didn't give into cravings for ice cream, french fries or chocolate while pregnant or use my growing belly as an excuse to be inactive.
What I WILL say is this. What you interpret is not MY fault. It's Yours. The first step in owning your life, your body and your destiny is to OWN the thoughts that come out of your own head. I didn't create them. You created them. So if you want to continue 'hating' this image, get used to hating many other things for the rest of your life. You can either blame, complain or obtain a new level of thought by challenging the negative words that come out of your own brain.
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She has a passion for fitness and a job based around it (her website doesn't outline exactly what she does). Good for her, but the message is delivered in a snotty tone whether she meant it or not. If you have a passion for something it's obviously going to come a little easier than if you don't. If you love something (taking pictures, carpentry, auto repair etc.), you're going to get better at it. I don't see why you have to be condescending about it. I legitimately see what she's trying to say, but she went about it in a way that was inviting annoyance.
She has a passion for fitness and a job based around it (her website doesn't outline exactly what she does). Good for her, but the message is delivered in a snotty tone whether she meant it or not. If you have a passion for something it's obviously going to come a little easier than if you don't. If you love something (taking pictures, carpentry, auto repair etc.), you're going to get better at it. I don't see why you have to be condescending about it. I legitimately see what she's trying to say, but she went about it in a way that was inviting annoyance.
I disagree, it is not "snotty" it is a challenge. The same way my buddy challenged me to see who could run more KM's last year.
Those that are pissed off are most likely those that have the most excuses.
Meh, whether they have excuses or not, that's not the point. The point is she's the initial provoker, so she really shouldn't be offended if people trash her back. Like I said, if you're gonna dish it out, be prepared to get it back.
Nothing wrong with the picture, if someone does prioritize their health, they can be healthy. There is no good reason to ever eat poorly, and unless you work 7 days a week, you should be able to find time to excercise for 40 minutes a day 3 times a week. 5 days a week for an hour a day....yeah, that can be tough for a family where both parents work full time and have a couple of kids, and no relatives to help out with the kids. But with a good diet, 3 days for most people is enough to stay in decent condition.
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Meh, whether they have excuses or not, that's not the point. The point is she's the initial provoker, so she really shouldn't be offended if people trash her back. Like I said, if you're gonna dish it out, be prepared to get it back.
I've said it before...I'll say it again. The world is full of people waiting to be offended!
God forbid someone says something that you don't like, believe in, or questions your choices. People are so mentally soft these days that saying your offended turns into a self-righteous crusade.
This woman was promoting a healthy lifestyle and yes, challenging people to do the same. She wasn't slaughtering babies. Either agree or disagree but to debate her "snotty" tone is ridiculous. At that point people are just reacting to their own insecurities.
I'm sure I've offended somebody.
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I have an ex-girlfriend who has put on about 50 pounds in the last 5 years, at the same time as I've lost 50. I was at her place helping her with something last week, and she was complaining about not being able to lose weight and she says, "It must be nice being a man and being able to lose weight easily".
No, actually, it's not easy. If it was easy, there would be no fat dudes. I never thought it would be easy to slim down; it takes a lot of effort and dedication to change yourself, and if you take the attitude that you are a special case who has challenges nobody else faces, you are going to fail. Those who criticize this woman on the basis that she has unique circumstances that make her an exceptional case are deceiving themselves.
I really like Maria's response to the backlash she's been getting:
That response is perfect.
To be honest, I look at that picture and ask myself, "What IS my excuse?"
So it's a bit of a kick in the butt.
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Most gym's also have a daycare where you can drop your kids off for the 45 minutes you are at the gym. I see a steady stream of parents going through there every day that I am at the gym. Is that 45-60 minute time span your kid is in daycare playing with other kids any worse than the hour you spend watching The Walking Dead while your kid plays on your iPhone? Because I am sure that is what a lot of these complainers consider parent-kid interaction these days.
The other day I watched two kids hug each other as they arrived to day care at the same time, the parents didn't even know each other.. they gave a look and then introduced themselves with the "Well I guess our kids are friends" comment and a mutual laugh.
So that day care must really be torture for these kids, scarring them for life with your parental neglect. Hold on though my favourite show is on and the PVR is full. OMG I am checking facebook what do you need? Etc.. etc.. hard to find that time eh?
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Hmm, not really sure what that means, but I'll take your word for it.
At the end of the day, I'm not offended by the picture, but I also really don't have a problem with her getting negative backlash and hate mail. She chose to open herself up in a public forum, so she should be willing to accept everything that comes along with it.
Besides, the fact that she's a former beauty queen pretty much makes me think she's an attention whore, and this whole thing isn't so much to "inspire" other women as it is a "look how awesome I am, even with 3 kids!" thing.
