newly single

[Locke]

Originally Posted by Bring_Back_Shantz

All these guys giving advice are full of crap.
No one in the history of the world has ever recovred from a breakup.
Your life is over man, you might as well just buy a lot of beer and porn, cause it'll never get better.

Apparently breaking up is awesome.

[GreenLantern]

Originally Posted by peter12

Yeah, I know. But that bit of self-righteous bitching had to be made.

Chivalry isn't dead pete, just forgotten.

Good on you. Give it time, stick to your guns, don't let a string of one night stands ruin 25 years of dedication and hard work.

When my Mom passed away when I was very young I got some great advice from a close friend of the family.. I think it applies to many situations in life..

You can't change what has hapened to you, but you can change how you respond to it.

The damage is done and she can't hurt you anymore, so don't let her.

[GreenTeaFrapp]

Originally Posted by Weiser Wonder

Cheating is never okay, but it's not a death sentence on one's character either. People who generally mean well make horrible mistakes in relationships early in their life due to cowardice and inexperience. Myself included. It's genuinely difficult to deal with emotions that you've never experienced before and overcome them. Still, it's not an excuse and cheating (especially emotionally like it seems to be in this case) is a terrible thing to do. Hopefully she takes some responsibility and doesn't just say to herself "oh I was unhappy, it's justified."

It all depends upon the seriousness of the relationship. Cheating on your high school girlfriend of two months is a whole lot less serious then cheating on your wife who is also the mother of your children.

People who cheat on the parent of their kids pretty much seal the death sentence on their character right there since they've deprived their kid(s) the right to a normal upbringing. They're just a notch below murderers and pedophiles.

[Bring_Back_Shantz]

Originally Posted by Locke

Apparently breaking up is awesome.

I should have been more clear on that point.

Whisky is also an option.

[Locke]

Originally Posted by Bring_Back_Shantz

I should have been more clear on that point.

Whisky is also an option.

Wow. Great. I actually have to call my Girlfriend right now....

[DropIt]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

Note 3, send to the new boyfriend

"Think of this, everytime you're kissing her your tasting me"

That ought to mess him up.

This for sure.
The fact that your sending him flowers and reminding him that he is tasting you will throw him off centre for sure. It would weird the hell out of me.

Buy him some underwear 3 months later to keep him on his toes

[ynwa03]

It's usually when you lose faith in all humanity cause a girl screwed you over that you end up meeting the most amazing girl ever. You're just getting into the second phase, worry not.

[peter12]

This thread has been amazingly therapeutic. Since this seems to be providing so much entertainment to all, I met with her one last time to exchange whatever we had left at each other's places and then said so long for good. Pretty brutal, as you can imagine that basically when I saw her all of the good times we had just came flooding back. So I just shook her hand and away I went.

As many have said, introspection is the route I will be taking. I ain't down for good, but goddamit, still stinks.

[troutman]

Old German expression:

Other mothers have nice daughters as well.

[CaptainCrunch]

Originally Posted by peter12

This thread has been amazingly therapeutic. Since this seems to be providing so much entertainment to all, I met with her one last time to exchange whatever we had left at each other's places and then said so long for good. Pretty brutal, as you can imagine that basically when I saw her all of the good times we had just came flooding back. So I just shook her hand and away I went.

As many have said, introspection is the route I will be taking. I ain't down for good, but goddamit, still stinks.

You've got more class then I would ever be able to muster.

I would have mailed her her stuff, and avoided the face to face.

There's no need for closure when she cheats, thats all the closure that you need.

I will make you a bet. In six month's you'll probably get a tearful phone call from her.

Advice number 2, remove her from your cellphone, your email lists, your face book if you have that crap, any easy access usually means the drunken midnight dial up which can then be not only construed as your lowest point, but moves you from victor with your head held high, to desparate loser clinging to something that you shouldn't be grabbing onto.

Remove any traces of her. Pictures, burn em, that ugly fuzzy sweater she gave you for christmas, burn it. anything that she bought for decoration, toss it.

Phaser all traces of her out of your life, she's not worth remembering.

[CaptainCrunch]

Originally Posted by troutman

Old German expression:

Other mothers have nice daughters as well.

Old Canadian expression.

Her mom has an awesome rack

[peter12]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

Old Canadian expression.

Her mom has an awesome rack

I got a text message from her sister saying she wants to still stay in touch!

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by peter12

I got a text message from her sister saying she wants to still stay in touch!

Is her sister hot?

[CaptainCrunch]

[Phanuthier]

Cheating is bull. If you want someone else, break up the relationship and go to someone else. Pretty simple.

Peter - you go through good times in your life, you go through hard times in your life. Even the most successful people will go through hardship in their life. Lots of people get through it, and don't feel alone or feel like this is only happening to you. I'm sure you find your fix, whatever it may be. I'm not a vengeful kind of guy, so the best advice I can give is move on and forget about revenge and all those games. Breaking up was the hardest thing I've had to do in my life (so far) but some of the greatest things that have happened fell out of that as well.

[VladtheImpaler]

Originally Posted by peter12

I got a text message from her sister saying she wants to still stay in touch!

I believe the French term for this is menage a trois... (sp?)

[Flames Fan, Ph.D.]

Originally Posted by peter12

I got a text message from her sister saying she wants to still stay in touch!

These aren't the droids you're looking for.

[CaptainCrunch]

Originally Posted by Flames Fan, Ph.D.

These aren't the droids you're looking for.

pffft - she is exactly the droid he's looking for.

[Bill Bumface]

Don't worry about remember all the good times right now. Soon enough your good judgement will come back and you'll remember all the shytey ones and be glad that chapter is finished.

[Weiser Wonder]

Originally Posted by GreenTeaFrapp

It all depends upon the seriousness of the relationship. Cheating on your high school girlfriend of two months is a whole lot less serious then cheating on your wife who is also the mother of your children.

People who cheat on the parent of their kids pretty much seal the death sentence on their character right there since they've deprived their kid(s) the right to a normal upbringing. They're just a notch below murderers and pedophiles.

Say you get married when you are 22, and stay married til you die at 82. If you had one extra curricular activity during that time you're a notch below murderers and pedophiles? Come on, that's absurd.

But you're right, it does depend on the circumstance. Cheating on your wife while she has cancer (aka the scumbag John Edwards) is a lot worse than cheating on your wife because she's refused to have sex with you for the last year.