Woman tries to trap man with pregnancy

[Ford Prefect]

Originally Posted by DementedReality

this story has to be complete BS ... far to "engineered" ... who goes to that expense (lawyers).

can anyone find a source verifying its authenticity?

Doubtful ... it sounds too much like an urban myth. It does make for a good topic of discussion though.

[Montana Moe]

My friend got "trapped" by a young lady. Thing is, he was really over a barrel because he is married.

He plowed this girl (client from his business) and gets a call a couple months later that she's preggers and it's his. He comes clean right away with his wife, (they can't have children) and needs to figure out how to approach his situation. He decides along with his wife, that he will support the woman through the pregnancy, and help raise the child.
He goes to birthing classes with her, promises to help financially, and meets her parents. They of course think he's scum because he cheated on his wife, etc. (rightfully so)

Month 8 comes around and the woman begins to tell my buddy that there was someone else, and it could be his! Of course this is after he has helped her through the classes, etc. She knew he was a better option as a father than the other, so she saw an opportunity and pounced on it. So, long story short, she has the baby, he demands a paternity test, and it is not his...


Of course, his wife now has a hard time trusting him, and he is not let out of the house much. I'm sure this will come up in every argument he ever gets into with his wife, not to mention what all of her friends think of him.

So my question is, if you were married, had an affair, and may be the father of a child, do you tell your wife right away?

Do you wait until you get the results of the paternity test? If it isn't yours just pretend it never happened?

What would you have done?

We, as friends of the adulterer suggested that once the paternity tests cleared him , he should have told his wife "See! I told you I didn't mess with her!"

[photon]

Originally Posted by Montana Moe

He plowed this girl (client from his business)

That's about as far as that story needs to go. He deserves anything he got, plus more on the side.

[Montana Moe]

Originally Posted by photon

That's about as far as that story needs to go. He deserves anything he got, plus more on the side.

Agreed! I should have stipulated that she was a former client, (he developed a website for her a year or two ago) that became a friend, and eventually turned into this escapade. Still, a poor choice that became a life changer.

Maybe this should go in the "Karma" thread!

[FlameCity]

Originally Posted by FlamesAddiction

It sure makes you wonder how many men are raising children that are not their own.

Probably not as many children being raised by single mothers

[4X4]

Rough story, Montana Moe. But your buddy sorta deserved it.

Now, here's a story that'll rile a few dudes here. My buddy started tapping this chick about 3 years ago as a booty call. They had a pretty standard agreement: just sex, no calls, no social excursions.
They were both single and lived 5 minute walk from eachother.

After a few months of hooking up with this chick, he notices that she's starting to get attached. She's calling him and not taking no for an answer when she asks him to come over. So he tells her to hit the bricks.
Then it happens. A month later, he gets drunk, goes over there and taps her again. Next day he vows that that was the last time ever.
Well, unfortunately, she calls him a month later to tell him she's pregnant. And it's his. Because he is the only one she's slept with for the last year.

He slowly starts to accept this fact but still insists that he wants a paternity test. She has the kid and then starts trying to track him down to prove that it is his. But by this point, he's running. He runs for a year. He moved twice because she kept figuring out where he lived. I was calling him from Italy to give him shiz for being so spineless. He just kept telling me that he didn't believe her. He had "poor performance" that night. He thinks she's scamming him.

Finally he told her that he'd take the test if she paid, and that he'd re-imburse her if it was his.

Not his.

[chid]

Originally Posted by 4X4

Rough story, Montana Moe. But your buddy sorta deserved it.

Now, here's a story that'll rile a few dudes here. My buddy started tapping this chick about 3 years ago as a booty call. They had a pretty standard agreement: just sex, no calls, no social excursions.
They were both single and lived 5 minute walk from eachother.

After a few months of hooking up with this chick, he notices that she's starting to get attached. She's calling him and not taking no for an answer when she asks him to come over. So he tells her to hit the bricks.
Then it happens. A month later, he gets drunk, goes over there and taps her again. Next day he vows that that was the last time ever.
Well, unfortunately, she calls him a month later to tell him she's pregnant. And it's his. Because he is the only one she's slept with for the last year.

He slowly starts to accept this fact but still insists that he wants a paternity test. She has the kid and then starts trying to track him down to prove that it is his. But by this point, he's running. He runs for a year. He moved twice because she kept figuring out where he lived. I was calling him from Italy to give him shiz for being so spineless. He just kept telling me that he didn't believe her. He had "poor performance" that night. He thinks she's scamming him.

Finally he told her that he'd take the test if she paid, and that he'd re-imburse her if it was his.

Not his.

I kept reading this story thinking it could go either way
karma - because he kept running it was his or just total luck and gut instinct.

[tanguay'sstillgood]

Originally Posted by Alpha_Q

No. The guy is an over-the-top fatahead. (If this story is even true, and it's likely not.)

Payack?They're women, they're not our enemies.

In a nutshell:
Her: I'm pregnant.
Him: Are you sure?
Her: 100%
Him: Well, not by me.
Her: Huh?
Him: Vasectomy. Listen, its probably best if you pick up your stuff and go, but if you need someone to talk to the guy that got you pregnant, give me a call. Bye.

To go through the process of what this guy did, (not only after she said she was pregnant, but to use her the way he did before) he is just as bad as she is for trying to pin a pregnancy on him. He obviously has some issues with women and his own manhood if he has to resort to this sort of BS to feel good about getting one over on some woman.
So yeah; marriage made in heaven. The only good thing about this little tale is that he isn't able to breed.

Wait, when did i say woman are our enemies? I said if someone tries to screw you over. In this case, the someone is a girl, so she is his enemy. What this chick did had the potential to ruin the dudes life. If somebody (man or woman) tried to ruin my life for their any selfish little reason, yes, i would go out of my way to piss them off a bit if i had the chance.
So, long story short, I guess I'm a ######. However, if that's all it takes to be a ######, I'll gladly accept the title.

Lets all remember if this girl wasnt trying to screw him over it wouldnt have happened. Maybe when he asked if she was sure it was his she should have said "I think so, but there was this one other guy..." I bet he would have acted a bit differently then.

And now something for all the guys saying the dude's an idiot for screwing her just because she was hot (or some variation of that)... the story says he met the girl, then he describes her as attractive, good sex, and decent company. Then he goes on to say they were DATING FOR MONTHS. Now, is the guy an a-hole because he was originally attracted to his girlfriend because she was hot? and is he an a-hole because he was screwing his girlfriend?

[blankall]

Originally Posted by 4X4

Rough story, Montana Moe. But your buddy sorta deserved it.

Now, here's a story that'll rile a few dudes here. My buddy started tapping this chick about 3 years ago as a booty call. They had a pretty standard agreement: just sex, no calls, no social excursions.
They were both single and lived 5 minute walk from eachother.

After a few months of hooking up with this chick, he notices that she's starting to get attached. She's calling him and not taking no for an answer when she asks him to come over. So he tells her to hit the bricks.
Then it happens. A month later, he gets drunk, goes over there and taps her again. Next day he vows that that was the last time ever.
Well, unfortunately, she calls him a month later to tell him she's pregnant. And it's his. Because he is the only one she's slept with for the last year.

He slowly starts to accept this fact but still insists that he wants a paternity test. She has the kid and then starts trying to track him down to prove that it is his. But by this point, he's running. He runs for a year. He moved twice because she kept figuring out where he lived. I was calling him from Italy to give him shiz for being so spineless. He just kept telling me that he didn't believe her. He had "poor performance" that night. He thinks she's scamming him.

Finally he told her that he'd take the test if she paid, and that he'd re-imburse her if it was his.

Not his.

See this situation I find more fair. No innocent parties here. The OP featured an innocent man getting his revenge. This case and the one about the man cheating on his wife I have far less sympathy for any of the parties involved.

[4X4]

I dunno. Maybe I see it differently b/c it's a friend. The chick spent over a year insisting that it was his by default (because she "hadn't been with anyone else"). His gut told him otherwise. He was right, she was a liar.

[Temporary_User]

Originally Posted by 4X4

I dunno. Maybe I see it differently b/c it's a friend. The chick spent over a year insisting that it was his by default (because she "hadn't been with anyone else"). His gut told him otherwise. He was right, she was a liar.

Why didn't he instantly get the test done, instead of running away for a year?

[4X4]

Originally Posted by Temporary_User

Why didn't he instantly get the test done, instead of running away for a year?

Money? Fear of being a father? Being choked that after months of carefully staying un-pregnant, she suddnly gets pregnant after he decided that the relationship was over?
I don't want to dig myself into a hole by defending his actions. I was the guy telling him to go get the test. But in retrospect, and considering the whole situation, I laugh at the egg on her face after staunchly proclaiming that there was no possible way that he wasn't the father.

[Dion]

Originally Posted by tanguay'sstillgood

And now something for all the guys saying the dude's an idiot for screwing her just because she was hot (or some variation of that)... the story says he met the girl, then he describes her as attractive, good sex, and decent company. Then he goes on to say they were DATING FOR MONTHS. Now, is the guy an a-hole because he was originally attracted to his girlfriend because she was hot? and is he an a-hole because he was screwing his girlfriend?

He becomes an a-hole when he brings flowers and a small bit of jewelry to show that he's willing to reconcile and assume his responsibilities as a new father. Then he procedes to have pretty good sex with her before he drops the bombshell/documents. Tell a lie for a round of pretty good sex sounds a tad dishonest in my view. Who is using who now?

What he should have done is walked in and presented her with the documents and left.

[GreatWhiteEbola]

...Next on Mythbusters...

[Antithesis]

Even if this story were true, which is most assuredly is not, I can't believe that people here are trying to suggest that the two people involved in this carried out equal wrongs.

Was he a jerk to her? Sure, but it's not going to affect her the way her lie was going to affect him. I can't believe that anyone who is suggesting that these wrongs are equal is a parent but it might be the case ... just my guess. Raising a kid that turns out not to be yours is not equal to being a dink to some girl.

I mean, maybe I'm not looking at this the right way, but they were consenting adults. She could have gone, "no, I will not have sex with you, you're a jerk, buh-bye". She was using that in her charade as much as he was using it in his.

[J pold]

Damn I can’t read it

It’s blocked at my work

[ZDogg]

Originally Posted by J pold

Damn I can’t read it

It’s blocked at my work

I was too... but google helped me find an unblocked version of it. That was a good laugh.

[GirlySports]

Originally Posted by Antithesis

Even if this story were true, which is most assuredly is not, I can't believe that people here are trying to suggest that the two people involved in this carried out equal wrongs.

Was he a jerk to her? Sure, but it's not going to affect her the way her lie was going to affect him. I can't believe that anyone who is suggesting that these wrongs are equal is a parent but it might be the case ... just my guess. Raising a kid that turns out not to be yours is not equal to being a dink to some girl.

I mean, maybe I'm not looking at this the right way, but they were consenting adults. She could have gone, "no, I will not have sex with you, you're a jerk, buh-bye". She was using that in her charade as much as he was using it in his.

What she did is definitely worse but it was out of being so desperate.

If I was single and over 30 I wouldn't want to waste time with a guy who just saw me as "an easy lay and easy on the eyes". I could be looking for someone else instead of being deceived by this guy who has no intention of marrying me.

Lying about being pregnant is the worst thing a girl can do. But being in a dead-end relationship with hopes of getting married sucks for girls too.

[J pold]

Yeah both of these people are manipulate creeps

Edit: Thanks ZDogg

[burn_baby_burn]

Originally Posted by Montana Moe

My friend got "trapped" by a young lady. Thing is, he was really over a barrel because he is married.

He plowed this girl (client from his business) and gets a call a couple months later that she's preggers and it's his. He comes clean right away with his wife, (they can't have children) and needs to figure out how to approach his situation. He decides along with his wife, that he will support the woman through the pregnancy, and help raise the child.
He goes to birthing classes with her, promises to help financially, and meets her parents. They of course think he's scum because he cheated on his wife, etc. (rightfully so)

Month 8 comes around and the woman begins to tell my buddy that there was someone else, and it could be his! Of course this is after he has helped her through the classes, etc. She knew he was a better option as a father than the other, so she saw an opportunity and pounced on it. So, long story short, she has the baby, he demands a paternity test, and it is not his...


Of course, his wife now has a hard time trusting him, and he is not let out of the house much. I'm sure this will come up in every argument he ever gets into with his wife, not to mention what all of her friends think of him.

So my question is, if you were married, had an affair, and may be the father of a child, do you tell your wife right away?

Do you wait until you get the results of the paternity test? If it isn't yours just pretend it never happened?

What would you have done?

We, as friends of the adulterer suggested that once the paternity tests cleared him , he should have told his wife "See! I told you I didn't mess with her!"

I'm sure your buddy wishes he would have just went home and played with himself instead of plowing this chick. The torture of having your wife hold that over your head for the rest of your life would be unbearable. I think I would kill myself.