A couple of nights ago my 7 year old went up to put his tooth fairy money in his wallet. He comes downstairs crying and tells me all his money is gone. ( under $20 in change ). When we put the boys to bed my nine year old noticed that his coin collector was empty. ( similar amount of money ).
Two weekends ago we had a number of our family members over and some friends. This is the only time that anyone outside of the immediate family has been in our house. With this considered it seems like someone in the family is stealing from my children. (friends never went upstairs)
How would you deal with this? We have strong suspicions who might have done this but don't know for sure. We also don't want to have these suspicions if they are not true.
Pretty upset by this and am not sure how to handle it.
Bait them and put in a wireless webcam to catch them red handed.
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Invite the suspects over, roofie their drinks, when they wake up they are all in a horrible glass and metal torture device where only one of them can steal a coin that well save his life.
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If you have a pretty good idea of who it was, just bring it up casually in conversation and see how they react. Next time they're over just casually ask "So what did you spend the kids tooth fairy money on?"
Their reaction should tell you everything.
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My wife is one of those people who knows exactly how much is in her wallet, down to the penny, at any given time. She noticed she would be missing $40 sometimes $60 from her wallet everytime she visits her cousin in Edmonton. She suspected her Aunt because she has a thing for the WestEd casino, but really had no proof. She was all gungho about trying to find proof about the theft until the day she walked into the room and caught her Aunt putting her wallet back into her purse. She said that she noticed it was about to fall out of her purse and wanted to stick it back in. My wife, initially wanted to bust her but in the end she just said thanks. She valued the relationship, not only with the Aunt but the whole family dynamics more than the money. She is just more carefull with her money (Only having $20 in her wallet) now whenever she is up in Edmonton. So moral of the story is that unless you want to end ties badly I would just let it be and be more proactive next time they are over. Of course reimburse your kids and tell them you needed get exchange their coins for newer ones at the bank because I don't think there is a need for the kids should know the truth...Edmonton sucks.
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You need to catch them on camera in the act before you make that kind of accusation against family members over a relatively small amount of money. I think you'd feel pretty crummy if you accuse someone of being a thief only to find out that your 9 year old took your 7 year old's money and then emptied his own coin collector to cover his tracks.
Man, who would steal 20 bucks from a child?! The way your story started off, it sounded like perhaps one of their friends or a family members child, took it from them. Perhaps they were playing with some friends or cousins upstairs? That would make a lot more sense, and wouldn't be nearly as bad. But it sounds like you've ruled that out.
To only other thing that would make sense would be someone you know who is really struggling financially. Maybe cause of addiction or something. Or maybe a klepto?
As others said, you need proof first. Shouldn't be too hard to bait them. Though I wonder if they would do it again, you gotta think they would know that you've noticed it by now.
However, criminals always amaze me with their stupidity.
You need to catch them on camera in the act before you make that kind of accusation against family members over a relatively small amount of money. I think you'd feel pretty crummy if you accuse someone of being a thief only to find out that your 9 year old took your 7 year old's money and then emptied his own coin collector to cover his tracks.
That's why this is so hard to figure out. I would never accuse anyone of something that I didn't know to be true. The nine year old certainly had but he's not, how shall I say this, a forward thinker. Your point is well taken though.
By the way. It seems like hidden cameras are really expensive. Just under $200 to start.
My wife is one of those people who knows exactly how much is in her wallet, down to the penny, at any given time. She noticed she would be missing $40 sometimes $60 from her wallet everytime she visits her cousin in Edmonton. She suspected her Aunt because she has a thing for the WestEd casino, but really had no proof. She was all gungho about trying to find proof about the theft until the day she walked into the room and caught her Aunt putting her wallet back into her purse. She said that she noticed it was about to fall out of her purse and wanted to stick it back in. My wife, initially wanted to bust her but in the end she just said thanks. She valued the relationship, not only with the Aunt but the whole family dynamics more than the money. She is just more carefull with her money (Only having $20 in her wallet) now whenever she is up in Edmonton. So moral of the story is that unless you want to end ties badly I would just let it be and be more proactive next time they are over. Of course reimburse your kids and tell them you needed get exchange their coins for newer ones at the bank because I don't think there is a need for the kids should know the truth...Edmonton sucks.
Sounds like her Aunt has a compulsive gambling problem and she steals and lies to support her habit.Your wife is enabling her ,she is not doing her any favors because "she values the relationship". Confront her,offer support but I would not ignore it,if it ends ties badly,so be it.
Man, who would steal 20 bucks from a child?! The way your story started off, it sounded like perhaps one of their friends or a family members child, took it from them. Perhaps they were playing with some friends or cousins upstairs? That would make a lot more sense, and wouldn't be nearly as bad. But it sounds like you've ruled that out.
To only other thing that would make sense would be someone you know who is really struggling financially. Maybe cause of addiction or something. Or maybe a klepto?
As others said, you need proof first. Shouldn't be too hard to bait them. Though I wonder if they would do it again, you gotta think they would know that you've noticed it by now.
However, criminals always amaze me with their stupidity.
Cousin is the main suspect at this point but we don't know for sure. He's looked after the kids in the past on his own. He knows our house.
With that said we don't know for sure. It's just the most likely based on age and opportunity.
Well it's probably possible to get proof without going the hidden camera route. Maybe a radioactive isotope that is visible under blacklight on the piggy banks so the culprit gets his fingers inked.
Obviously not a serious suggestion, but you get the point. There's probably a few things you could figure out. Heck maybe just someone watching out for it.
Another rather sad story about human nature. Another one of my wife's cousin and his wife was invited to another relatives house for a Christmas party. Everything went well but the next day the Aunt and her husband called everyone from the party and accused the cousin's wife of stealing her gold chain and diamond earrings. The husband went on to say that, they only can afford to buy a new van because she steals and all mainland chinese people are not honest. This accusation caused such a rift in the family the cousin's parent, accuser's sister/bil, cried to us because he was stuck between a rock and a hard place. Hard to see a grandfather cry and I do not want to see that again. Funny thing is her kids found her jewellery in her room, the Aunt just moved it (I guess to hide it from guests initially?) and forgot about it. The Aunt/Uncle never did apologize to the cousin and his wife. All I can say is the cousin is a better man than me for putting up with this gongshow. I would've busted their teeth for saying sh$t like that to me. Things are not the same anymore after this incident. It got so bad that the cousin's parent just moved out to Vancouver.
Sounds like her Aunt has a compulsive gambling problem and she steals and lies to support her habit.Your wife is enabling her ,she is not doing her any favors because "she values the relationship". Confront her,offer support but I would not ignore it,if it ends ties badly,so be it.
The Aunt likes to gamble but hardly addicted and compulsive. She hasn't been to the casino ever since they moved away from WestEd. She was more of a bored at home and nothing to do gambler.
My wife is one of those people who knows exactly how much is in her wallet, down to the penny, at any given time. She noticed she would be missing $40 sometimes $60 from her wallet everytime she visits her cousin in Edmonton. She suspected her Aunt because she has a thing for the WestEd casino, but really had no proof. She was all gungho about trying to find proof about the theft until the day she walked into the room and caught her Aunt putting her wallet back into her purse. She said that she noticed it was about to fall out of her purse and wanted to stick it back in. My wife, initially wanted to bust her but in the end she just said thanks. She valued the relationship, not only with the Aunt but the whole family dynamics more than the money. She is just more carefull with her money (Only having $20 in her wallet) now whenever she is up in Edmonton. So moral of the story is that unless you want to end ties badly I would just let it be and be more proactive next time they are over. Of course reimburse your kids and tell them you needed get exchange their coins for newer ones at the bank because I don't think there is a need for the kids should know the truth...Edmonton sucks.
should suggest to your wife that the next time she visits the aunt, that she moves the cash out of her wallet, and places a note in the wallet suggesting the aunt get help - or something to that effect.
crappy lesson for the kids to learn that there are thieves out there who will take your money.
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1. Invite them over for a Christmas party
2. When everyone arrives, give each person an envelope randomly. Tell them the envelope knows what's in their hearts. Make sure they know it's random.
3. Give everyone the same message..."I know what you did..."
4. Watch their facial expressions. Pull your kid's empty piggy banks out and start waving a gun around. Tell them, "Destiny has brought you here. To DIE."
5. ???
6. Profit!
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1. Invite them over for a Christmas party
2. When everyone arrives, give each person an envelope randomly. Tell them the envelope knows what's in their hearts. Make sure they know it's random.
3. Give everyone the same message..."I know what you did..."
4. Watch their facial expressions. Pull your kid's empty piggy banks out and start waving a gun around. Tell them, "Destiny has brought you here. To DIE."
5. ???
6. Profit!
Thanks to you and a few others here I'm starting to laugh about it now!
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