pretty much, so get some solid profile photos, 1 head shot, 1 full body pic(with clothes) 1 pic of you out socializing and 1 of you doing one of your hobbies.
good pics are literally 90% of the battle.
Oh and quit trying to get to know someone on a deep level for the first month or so, keep it fun ffs.
Thanks.
Interesting concept. Im curious how effective it really is.
I hate pictures being taken of me, but I will be sure to get some new ones up. I will take them myself since I do video work (and photographer on the side) and have my studio at work so I can get some really professional and unique looking shots up.
I have to say there are so many terrible photos on tinder! But then again, I tend to be very analytical when I view photos since I have a photographers perspective. The worse ones are the ones who have one photo and its a picture of 2 or 3 people uhh.
And guess who I already came across - yes...you know who. Anyone want to take a guess if I said yes or no?
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Tinder is great fun for the 5% that get 95% of the matches.
A few weeks ago I had a party, and this friend of mine was curious about my tinder matches, since I'm a minor celeb, so we compared phones. She had over 50 matches, and she deletes "many". She's 23, very attractive, and when I started to read her messages I get the feeling that guys really need to "stand out" when they contact women.
Don't just say "hi". Try finding something that will get a response, even average girls get a lot of matches. Humor wins in my experience.
1. Try the rejection game for a few days. Helps to ease your fears about stuff. Interesting experiment about the openness of humans as well.
2. Learn about yourself: http://www.5lovelanguages.com // http://www.amazon.ca/The-Five-Love-L.../dp/0802473156 I found this to be very helpful in figuring out connection. It's not just a dating or marriage help. It's good knowledge in general IMO. Ignore the religion part. As a scientific read, it was still a good read.
3. Get a good solid week (or 2 dates) then cool off. Cooler heads prevail and slight separation drive desire. Silence can be a manipulative tool. I'm not suggesting you manipulate, but spending time away from communicating like 800 times in an hour could help. Mainly trying to figure out if this is honeymoon phase where everything is perfect (it's not. You're ignoring red flags like crazy if you think it's perfect) or if this is new toy syndrome where all the new things discovered is better than sliced bread.
4. Be you. Otherwise, one day, you'll wake up angry you're bending over backwards for her and disliking what you've become. Or, the girl may think something is weird and preemptively jump ship. Do not underestimate the discussions girls have about guys.
I would have to say that what you described as your situation, Pho, sounded very similar to my situation. Success is possible even with those mismatches you stated. I am engaged now, but the journey wasn't perfect. That being said, I agree with others thinking you went in too fast. Good luck Pho.
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Correct, automatic no without even blinking or looking at her profile and pics.
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Random experiment! (Actually pretty serious)
1. Try the rejection game for a few days. Helps to ease your fears about stuff. Interesting experiment about the openness of humans as well.
2. Learn about yourself: http://www.5lovelanguages.com // http://www.amazon.ca/The-Five-Love-L.../dp/0802473156 I found this to be very helpful in figuring out connection. It's not just a dating or marriage help. It's good knowledge in general IMO. Ignore the religion part. As a scientific read, it was still a good read.
3. Get a good solid week (or 2 dates) then cool off. Cooler heads prevail and slight separation drive desire. Silence can be a manipulative tool. I'm not suggesting you manipulate, but spending time away from communicating like 800 times in an hour could help. Mainly trying to figure out if this is honeymoon phase where everything is perfect (it's not. You're ignoring red flags like crazy if you think it's perfect) or if this is new toy syndrome where all the new things discovered is better than sliced bread.
4. Be you. Otherwise, one day, you'll wake up angry you're bending over backwards for her and disliking what you've become. Or, the girl may think something is weird and preemptively jump ship. Do not underestimate the discussions girls have about guys.
I would have to say that what you described as your situation, Pho, sounded very similar to my situation. Success is possible even with those mismatches you stated. I am engaged now, but the journey wasn't perfect. That being said, I agree with others thinking you went in too fast. Good luck Pho.
Thanks for the suggestion, will have to try that out.
Funny you mentioned it, my ex was exactly as you described in #3. She had to be in touch with me 24/7 and text 3500 times a day, if I even went a whole morning without texting her, she would lecture me.
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Funny you mentioned it, my ex was exactly as you described in #3. She had to be in touch with me 24/7 and text 3500 times a day, if I even went a whole morning without texting her, she would lecture me.
This is just flat out insane. seriously, on both your parts. Something along the lines of OCD or something, but there is not way in hell I would put up with that.
Funny you mentioned it, my ex was exactly as you described in #3. She had to be in touch with me 24/7 and text 3500 times a day, if I even went a whole morning without texting her, she would lecture me.
This is just flat out insane. seriously, on both your parts. Something along the lines of OCD or something, but there is not way in hell I would put up with that.
Insane? Yes. But more so complete BS. And thats why we ended up growing apart over time. I dont know how I stayed with her for so long. When we first starting dating, we didnt talk every day, but as time progressed we literally talked every single day non stop. I dont mind texting, but theres just some days where I didnt want to text at work, or out with family, or out at a hockey game and she wouldnt understand. Brought up the phone and she would never do it because she hated the phone. When I look back, it was the times where she would get all worried and upset when I wouldnt reply back to her within a few hours, that Im glad I got out of it when I could. She would be all worried that something is wrong because I dont text her for half a day. I dont mind texting in a relationship, but I dont like to do it while at work and I dont like to do it non stop throughout the day, it is ****** exhausting and at times tedious. She didnt start wanting to text non stop until the 5th year or so.
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Wat?
It was crazy, I honestly to this day still dont know how this girl got work done.
Some of my thoughts about Tinder so far - I ended up spending almost an hour on it last night lol. Even though there are some scary looking photos on here, Im quite impressed by how many good looking women are on there! Ive probably seen more attractive women on there in the hour Ived used it than a whole year of eharmony.
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After about a few days on Tinder - I dont think Im going to bother with it to be quite honest. It just feels way too much like online dating except a more barebones version. Just the whole entire messaging back and fourth online and waiting for matches seems too much of the same. There was quite a few good looking women on there (was definitely very impressed), but Im far better off saving my time and efforts by putting it towards meeting people in real life as opposed to online first, going through social media, blah blah blah.
I mean I put up a few pics and did up my profile with a NON generic run of the mill write up on myself. But Im glad I didnt bother wasting my time taking unique photos of myself in the studio for this.
A co-worker of mine says she has a couple friends that would very much be interested in me seeing that we have similar interests. Shes going to try to hook us up. I gave her my number yesterday and said she can pass it onto her friends, but seeing that she said her friends can be shy, then that probably wasnt the best idea.
I feel the best idea would be to ask my coworker if she could introduce her friends and I by all of us going out together for example. Probably much more comfortable for the shy party. But shes busy and has kids and not much free time, so the last thing I want is to feel shes having to step out of her way for me.
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so I am going on a hot date tonight.
its date #2.
I am hoping this lasts atleast a couple of months so I can wish her a happy birthday (her birthday is in January).
If she dumps me before then, I still might text her to wish her a happy birthday.
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Why are so many profile pictures taken in the car? Do most women take selfies while driving?
Based on driving in Calgary I would say that women, cell phone, and driving go hand in hand. Now don't get me wrong as men are almost as bad but damn it's pretty rare to pull up at an intersection next to a younger female that doesn't have their heads buried in their phone and then holding up traffic when the light goes green. See it almost every day.
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Sorry for rejuvating my old thread, but I didnt want to create a new one for it. First and foremost, its amazing how quickly you can forget about past dates that didnt work out. The girl I originally made this thread for quickly became an afterthought not long after making this thread. Im glad we both didnt go on with a 4th date, we are better off this way.
So I met this new girl just a couple weeks ago (we've already gone on 4 dates). Shes 4 years older than me, which we are both more than fine with, we hit it off great and have very strong chemistry, we have a lot in common, not just in hobbies and interests but views in life, beliefs etc....there is definitely something there.
Shes going through a rough time right now (injury), and has been pretty stressed out because of it.
We've talked a few times over the past week and from talking to her this morning, I knew it was best for me to give her, her time and space, for her to get her injury taken care of to relieve her of pain and agony. Im always one to always be there for someone to lean on, or listen to but she didnt want to talk about it and I completely understood.
Because, this is a bit of an awkward start to getting to know a new person (I cant say that Ive had this kind of beginning before when just getting to know someone), how much time do you think I should give her before contacting her again? When I let her go, I didnt say that I would contact her or that she to contact me, but that shes going to take care of her self first and foremost to free her from pain and that we will chat again.
Now I am no Dr. but I am very knowledge when it comes to healing the body from injury and how the body functions. Physio, cardio, naturaleopath, acupuncture, massage therapy, Ive done them all extensively throughout my life and very familiar with how they relate and the ins and outs. But obviously, her injury is very serious that she needs surgery so its not an overnight fix, nor is it something I can relate to from a Drs standpoint.
Its just that I dont like seeing people like this and I want to do more than I currently am (which is nothing). It absolutely kills me inside seeing people really depressed and even worse knowing I cant really do much. She needs her time and space and I fully respect that. I feel really bad for what shes going through right now, and feel helpless. I really do.
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