Nobody should be emotionally destroyed by the end of a relationship at the age of 25.
If you were my age and had invested 4 or 5 years, then be crushed. But at 25 be grateful and incredulous that you had a relationship that lasted that long and goes against all the rules of god and man.
Wait until you're older before you get all crushed and wrecked over a breakup. When you're young, your recovery period and getting on the next hours should be measured in terms of hours.
I have to disagree. I think in a lot of ways the human heart is sort of like a piece of tape - when it sticks to something for the first time it sticks the tightest. Then when you pull the tape back off, it hurts the most. The second time it isn't as sticky but also is easier to pull back off, etc.
If this was Peter's first long-term relationship and it lasted 4-5 years, it'd be foolish to expect to move on in mere hours.
All that being said, if she is a cheater than you are too good for her. Think about this - the guy that she's with right now will end up going through the exact same thing...there's a good chance she'll cheat on him too eventually.
Spend time with your buddies. Go to the gym. And buy a new car.
Take out your wang to every girl you see. You can even make a game out of it! Dress up go out, but don't forget the wang. Chickies did the wang. Even the gay ones.
But don't worry about it. Someone seeing someone else behind your back is not worth your time. I am not sorry that you lost her but more sorry that you spent 3.5 years with her. Things happen for a reason. This was more of a blessing then a downfall. You will realize that soon enough.
I don't have much experience with relationships but back in High School I was in a fairly serious relationship with a really stunningly gorgeous girl. Found out she was semi seeing some guy she always thought was cute (we were open with who we thought were attractive). It ended horribly, and I said a lot of crap I didn't mean or meant but shouldn't have said. After that I felt so down on myself and took me a few years to get my game back on. But all through out there was a girl (one of my best friends) that supported me through the whole process. She definitely does not compare with looks to my Ex but she was seriously awesome in other aspects. I ended up dating her (awkward I know) and now we're in a great relationship and I'm really glad this 'event' happened. But seriously, at the time I felt like girls were the devil and I never wanted to be in a relationship ever again. It's great having someone to let it out to and support through. And... maybe... you might just hook up with them later
You'll go through the usual phases:
1) The angry phase
2) The depressed phase
3) The slutty phase
4) The depressed because sluttiness doesn't solve it phase
5) The "I want a relationship but I am not ready for it" phase
6) The "I want a relationship but nobody wants a relationship with me because I am damaged" phase
7) The "I am ready and capable of entering a healthy relationship" phase
Then you'll find someone else.
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My old man had good advice for me when I got crushed. "They all look the same upside down and backwards."
I however have always celebrated the end of any relationship whether I am the dumper or dumpee with a trip to Vegas. Very easy to forget about troubles down there as long as you stay away from the tables.
Peter, I know what you're going through my friend. My ex-wife and I(of 10yrs) have now been separated for almost 6 months. The first while is hard. Who am I kidding, it's still hard. Just find things to keep yourself busy and start to find "who you are" again. Since the split, I took a trip to Vegas(freakin' amazing), lost 15lbs and am a month away from becoming a mortgage associate. It's all what you make of the situation. I know you'll come out of this a better person.
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I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but as you get older you will realize that this is in fact a gift. Nobody your age should be in a relationship lasting longer than 3 months. I would say that applies until you are 35 or so. Enjoy life - wear velvet, eat cheese, get a nice hat...
As for the OP, its been said plenty already, but just from my own experience, stay busy and get out with friends. When I sat around at home I'd just think about it and get all depressed. Also start hitting the gym, its amazing how much getting in shape can help you mentally. I hear its the endorphines or something, I don't know, I'm not a scientist..
Oh, and don't make any longterm plans around it, but just in the meantime while you're hurting: bar whoores...lots of em. Helps get that confidence back up.
