The age old question: your good friends ex-girl

[Frequitude]

No matter how good or bad their relationship or subsequent breakup was, it'll pain him to see her work out with you. Not even close to worth it. Plenty of fish in the sea.

[Frequitude]

Originally Posted by FireFly

I don't get 'the code'. There are exceptions to every rule. Firstly, unless I'm still harbouring something for my ex, he's fair game. I'd even go out of my way to set him up with my friends if I thought they'd be good together. Just because your friend's ex is hot, that shouldn't mean he's the only one that gets to plow her. It could be you'd be better suited.

Now, all that said, based the OP's info in the thread, it would just be sex to him... Is that what she wants? You said she's clingy... if she wants more, then having sex is definitely a bad idea.

Most girls feel this way. Doesn't work the same with guys.

[Dan02]

I say it depends on your intentions, dating is off limits IMO, but if it's a **** n chuck then go ahead

[DuffMan]

what's her phone #, I don't owe your friend anything.

[dissentowner]

You know what my 2cents is:

[FireFly]

Originally Posted by Frequitude

Most girls feel this way. Doesn't work the same with guys.

Funny, cause aren't guys supposed to be less emotionally attached to women than women are to men? All you're doing is showing what saps you really are meanwhile thinking it makes you more macho.

[BuzzardsWife]

If she's not someone you think you could be with forever, why risk a friend you could be friends with forever? Or you could sleep with her and not tell him.

[BuzzardsWife]

Originally Posted by J pold

Are the guys still friends?

No, actually not.

[4X4]

This cannot be answered over the internet. There are too many potential factors. How long were they together? A few months? How old are the people involved? Is this a high school sweetheart? That'd be a no-no. Is it some chick that was part of a revolving door of women? That'd be a go-go.

I'd say that if you're asking whether it's ok, it probably isn't. I've never dated or hooked up with any of my friends' exs, but if I were to, I know which ones would get the green light and which ones I should just not do.

Let me put it to you this way: if he was emotionally attached to her, you'd better stay away for a loooong time. If it was just a booty call, then he probably doesn't care and you guys will get drunk and laugh about it.
Even one instance of him being po'd or distraught over her (during their relationship) means that the 5x rule kicks in.



And if the many, many people before me that suggested that you just stay away didn't convince you, let me pile on by reminding you what you think of people that you know that lie or cheat or steal. You catch them once and you forever think of them that way. If your buddy liked the girl and you start hitting it, you and her better get married because if you don't, he'll always remember that you took a run at his ex.

[4X4]

Originally Posted by BuzzardsWife

No, actually not.

Surprise of the century.

[DuffMan]

invite her over to have a serious, grown up conversation about your feelings for each other, and how that would effect you relationship with your friend. Be sure to do this over a few shots of Jose Cuervo Amber.

[troutman]

This thread is useless without pictures.

[bluejays]

Originally Posted by troutman

This thread is useless without pictures.

FATA! #51.

[troutman]

Originally Posted by fleury

FATA! #51.

Can # 51 do this?

[J pold]

Originally Posted by BuzzardsWife

No, actually not.

There yah go

[Boblobla]

Hit it and then GTFO.

[J pold]

Originally Posted by FireFly

Funny, cause aren't guys supposed to be less emotionally attached to women than women are to men? All you're doing is showing what saps you really are meanwhile thinking it makes you more macho.

Yeah that’s the social standard but from experience I find it’s much more the other way around

Guys for the most part are much more emotionally attached too women than women are too men

It’s because most guys come form a place for scarcity, they think that this girl will be the only one who will ever love them or they only they could get

[HelloHockeyFans]

Personally, I never, ever mess around with the girls my friends have fooled around with.

There are far too many women in the world to risk a friendship for one of them.

Almost 100% of the time, things will change to some degree between you and your friend that dated her before once he finds out. Why mess with that?

[algernon]

Originally Posted by CrispyGriz

I tried going with that solution once when my best friends fling that ended badly started hitting on me. I don't know for sure how, but i ended up in a foursome that night with two girls i had never met and a friend i will never look at the same way again.

Helped ease the pain of the flames being knocked out of the playoffs though...

Good things can come from this plan of attack and has my approval as the way to go forward.

ps. never tell us about you getting intimate with yourself, it is a little more than a tad disturbing.

Were you high-fiving, and shiz? If not,that might've been the problem.
OP: Just get on her 'friends' ladder, that always works.

[CaptainCrunch]

Remember, when your having sex with his ex girlfriend, your kinda having sex with him. If you go by those ads in the 80's.

And personally, I don't want to burn rubber over the same highway as any of my friends if you know what I mean.