A really terrific documentary on this subject which I go back to watch every now and then is The Fog of War, 11 Lessons from the life of Robert McNamara. Controversial figure no doubt, but he certainly lived an important life with influence at high levels of power during key moments in history. I enjoyed it because he opens up emotionally about lessons and mistakes in a way rarely seen from people formerly in powerful positions.
The 11 lessons are:
Empathize with your enemy
Rationality will not save us
There's something beyond one's self
Maximize efficiency
Proportionality should be a guideline in war
Get the data
Belief and seeing are often both wrong
Be prepared to re-examine your reasoning
In order to do good, you may have to engage in evil
Never say never
You can't change human nature
The entire documentary is on youtube:
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I've learned over the last while that it's all in the preparation.
I'm a meat-lover through and through, but going from basic raw vegetables (like the typical celery and carrots or boring salads) to searing/roasting them with spices, supplementing with a bit of salty meat like proscuitto or bacon, frying up more flavourful ones like chard and kale with garlic and wine or balsamic vinegar. I wish I had discovered that years ago. Completely changed my outlook on vegetables.
I've also learned that people have a seemingly endless appetite for platitudes.
I've learned over the last while that it's all in the preparation.
I'm a profundity-lover through and through, but going from basic lame platitudes (like "such is life" and "time will tell" or "it was meant to be") to searing/roasting them with spices, supplementing with a bit of profound truism like "mo' money, mo' problems" or "Edmonton is no good", frying up more sinister-sounding ones like "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" and "revenge is a dish best served cold" with garlic and wine or balsamic vinegar. I wish I had discovered that years ago. Completely changed my outlook on platitudes.
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"Life of Russian hockey veterans is very hard," said Soviet hockey star Sergei Makarov. "Most of them don't have enough to eat these days. These old players are Russian legends."
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Forgive yourself for the things you didn't do and the things you could have done. Getting caught up in the woulda shoulda coulda never ends well.
Sigh. I should have taken that advice years ago.
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Incidentally, I have no idea why I am trolling this thread except to amuse only myself on Friday afternoon. Sorry.
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"Life of Russian hockey veterans is very hard," said Soviet hockey star Sergei Makarov. "Most of them don't have enough to eat these days. These old players are Russian legends."
Forgive yourself for the things you didn't do and the things you could have done. Getting caught up in the woulda shoulda coulda never ends well.
To build on this....be gentle with yourself first and foremost. It's ok to have self-doubt, confidence issues, negative feelings, etc...in addition to positive feelings. It's part of being human...forgive yourself for it!
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Work a job you love and it won't feel like a job. I worked 2 years in a mind numbing job which I hated over and over again. Switched over to a completely different field not related to my 8 year University degree. I love it and I make a heck a lot more too! Makes waking up enjoyable and me coming home not tired and cranky.
Also, a really nice mattress to sleep on is great.
Not to bust your chops, but what you mention isn't exactly rocket science. Take a new job that you love more and that pays more? Who in their right mind wouldn't?
P.S. Is your new job a mattress salesperson?
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Almost exactly the same here, but replace "a heck of a lot more" with "about 80% less." Still, I couldn't be happier with the change.
Bingo -- although 80% seems like a ridiculously high number. Congrats though.
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