#1. Chemistry. Looks do factor into chemistry, but only a small part. A more important factor of chemistry is being well groomed and clean. It's difficult to be attracted at any level to someone who doesn't brush their teeth, for example. Confidence also plays a part of chemistry. There's nothing sexier than a man who knows who he is and what he wants.
#2a. Intelligence. At least as smart as me. I may not be a genius but I'm certainly not feeble-minded. Don't talk down to me and I won't flush the toilet while you're in the shower. It also could be one indicator of how well you'll provide for me.
#2b. Integrity. You can be a rocket scientist but if you use your mind for nefarious and underhanded manipulation, I don't want you. On the other hand, if you always take the high ground but have no idea when you might fall of the cliff, that's not going to work for me either.
#3a. Socialization. Do you have manners? Do you understand how to make small talk, reach out and make new friends, comprehend social niceties? This may not sound like a big deal, but I like being around people. I like going out and having a good time. I would like my partner to join me, and have a good time doing so. I do not want to babysit him because he feels uncomfortable.
#3b. Humour. Laughter makes me feel good. First of all, I find it flattering that you would take the time to make me feel good by finding out what makes me laugh. Secondly, humour shows a good degree of how socialized you are. If you find "crude" funny, it could get dicey in a group of people that aren't thinking at that level. At the same time, laughter eases new social situations like nothing else.
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"When in doubt, make a fool of yourself. There is a microscopically thin line between being brilliantly creative and acting like the most gigantic idiot on earth. So what the hell, leap."
- Cynthia Heimel
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