The Friend Zone

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Hockey_Ninja

I haven't really been friend zoned but one of my best friends got friend zoned bad and he got hurt big time. This is a legit true story that made the last year and a half of high school insanely interesting.

You've lost me.

[Yeah_Baby]

Originally Posted by rubecube

You've lost me.

I just hope that Tiffani actually likes me. I really want to be invited to her birthday party.

[Blaster86]

Originally Posted by Yeah_Baby

I just hope that Tiffani actually likes me. I really want to be invited to her birthday party.

No one likes you. Especially Tiffani.

[Daradon]

Originally Posted by GirlySports

The third way would perhaps be people meeting far away from home?

For example guy and girl are both from Calgary but are working somewhere far.. like I don't know.. Buenos Aires. They both are in a relationship in that city but once in awhile they meet at a Calgary or Canadian gathering like to watch Flames games together or Grey Cup or Canada in the Olympics or whatever. They become really good friends because of the Calgary connection and it's totally plutonic.

Well if the people are in a relationship that obviously changes things entirely. That's why I left it out of my examples. Because there are a ton of other factors to consider. How faithful are they to their partners, etc? Ask yourself this though, if the two people WEREN'T in a relationship, would that scenario happen? Probably not. He'd either look for a work buddy to go to the games with, or a girl he was interested in dating to go to the games with. Or he'd be going out trying to score with her.

Relationship or no, doesn't really change the overall examples, it just muddies the situation. There's always going to be exceptions to the rules, and weird circumstances that happened to work a certain way making friendship the best dynamic for a male when it comes to a female. But it's never how it starts.

Here's the difference: No (straight? I don't know much about what gay guys think or how it changes the dynamic) guy EVER wakes up and goes, 'Hmmm you know what I need? More female friends. I should actively seek out some platonic relationships with the opposite sex. They could probably help me out with many things in my life.' Oh, and on the off chance they DO think this, it always leads back around to having sex with SOME girl. IE, this one girl has hot friends.

Females however, do seem to have uses for their male friends. Whether it's support, moving furniture, advice on how to deal with their jerk boyfriends (which they promptly ignore of course), or whatever, they do seem to collect and even search out friendships with males.

EDIT: Still not convinced? Tell me which of the two phrases one hears more often:

1. Female: He's great! I love him like a brother! He's so sweet, he's my best friend!
2. Male: She's great! I love her like a sister! She's so sweet, she's my best friend!

[polak]

I was friendzoned by pretty much every chick I liked in High School. It was either that, or I screwed it up even worse and we just stopped talking or hanging out...

I would never blame the girl for friendzoning me. I was scrawny, had messed up hair and had braces. It doesn't matter how nice or kind I was because that doesn't just automatically make a girl attracted to you.

Man did I ever suck at high school. Thankfully it did get better.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by GirlySports

They become really good friends because of the Calgary connection and it's totally plutonic.

That sounds like it could become unstable...

[troutman]

Someone that would take advantage of such a "friendship" is not a friend. They are a tease.

[Sainters7]

Guys who get friend zoned clearly need more practice on the D.E.N.N.I.S. system..

[rubecube]

Is there a bigger ######bag bitch move than befriending a girl solely to get in her pants?

[Ozy_Flame]

The minute I started saying "I'm too busy to care" (about a girl's problems and life issues) is the minute I started getting laid more. The friend zone was a thing of the past. They love what they can't get.

[GirlySports]

Originally Posted by rubecube

Is there a bigger ######bag bitch move than befriending a girl solely to get in her pants?

yes, befriending a girl solely to get into her hot friend's pants.

[Coach]

Originally Posted by rubecube

Is there a bigger ######bag bitch move than befriending a girl solely to get in her pants?

The tragic irony behind the "friend zone" is that generally the person you are in that situation is someone you care about moreso than others, and thus why you're willing to accept this unsatisfactory position to remain close to them. The sad part is its this willingness to care that tends to drive them away.

It's definitely true the less you care the more likely you are to get laid. It's an unfortunate reality (or very fortunate depending on how you look at it).

[gargamel]

The mistake that guys make is thinking that friendship can be a stepping stone to sex. A girl will decide very quickly whether or not you're bangable, and her opinion on that will not change based on whether or not you're friends. That's not to say that a girl won't change her mind about you, but I guarantee that it won't be based on the fact that you watch hockey games with her and listen to her complain about other boyfriends. Whether or not she wants to be friends with you is a separate, unrelated question.

[return to the red]

meh get it over with and just show it to her, 2 things can happen

1) she will proceed to perform fellatio on you (in which case yay no friend zone)
2) she will run out the door screaming with her arms flailing and calling you a pervert (in which case yay no friend zone)

it's a win/win situation

[Traditional_Ale]

The Friend Zone is a terrible place, but The Friends With Benefits Zone is quite lovely.

[return to the red]

Originally Posted by Traditional_Ale

The Friend Zone is a terrible place, but The Friends With Benefits Zone is quite lovely.

until you get to that stage where you get a knock on the door at 2 am and it's her ready to chop your twig and berries off because you took another girl home because you thought you had an "understanding"

[Traditional_Ale]

Originally Posted by return to the red

until you get to that stage where you get a knock on the door at 2 am and it's her ready to chop your twig and berries off because you took another girl home because you thought you had an "understanding"

Well peter12 did make a comment that any woman worth being around accepts you for all your idiosyncrasies. I would think it is important when one lives in the FWBZ that it is clearly communicated how big of a whore one is and how that won't change.

[Weiser Wonder]

My major problem with the friend zone is that it implies you aren't actually interested in being a friend to that person. Having friends that you have crushes on, on the other hand, is common and natural. It's probably the way most relationships start.

If someone is using you in a friendship, that's another story. You just need to drop that person. With the important caveat that "using" does not mean asking for emotional support, help with moving, talking about relationships etc as that's part of any friendship as long as there is reciprocation.

[shermanator]

Originally Posted by undercoverbrother

tell yah what post pictures of you and her, and we can decide...

As this is online, I can already see how this will go.

"2/10 wouldn't bone"

[undercoverbrother]

Originally Posted by weiser wonder

my major problem with the friend zone is that it implies you aren't actually interested in being a friend to that person. Having friends that you have crushes on, on the other hand, is common and natural. It's probably the way most relationships start.

If someone is using you in a friendship, that's another story. You just need to drop that person. With the important caveat that "using" does not mean asking for emotional support, help with moving, talking about relationships etc as that's part of any friendship as long as there is casual sex.

fyp