Hitting on Women Thread v2.0

[Wookie]

Originally Posted by ken0042

I created a new thread, moved the posts over, and added the poll.

Have at er!

Hmmm, I was actually watching the veiws and responses. This is my most productive post ever

It had 9,000+ views before the thread was renewed then it got put back to 0, which made me sad haha..

I was pleased with myself

[Wookie]

And sorry if I can't respond to everyone, there has been so many comments that I've missed responding too, all of which have been good and interesting.

Hope no one who has read this site happens to have a girlfriend that works at ummm.. The Talisman Centre

I'll keep it updated as the interest warrents

[Temporary_User]

Yeah girls are usually very good @ letting guys know that they have girl friends pretty early on. They just seem to find ways to bring it into conversation.
We as men appreciate this.

With her mentioning it when you asked her out, then saying maybe drinks sometime, I kind of assume she doesnt have one, but @ that point wasnt very interested in you.
Although it seems to be human nature to start liking someone if you find out they like you.
So it could someday work out, but I would just keep it as friends for a while.
I think wookie should get a custom status under his name from now on.
Something like "mack daddy" or "CP's Pick Up Artists"

I liked this thread, because it reminded me of the time I picked up a lifeguard from a bar one time. Ahh the memories.
Although that isnt the reason I picked her up in the first place. I actually didnt find out she was a lifeguard until the next day. But still wookie gets the point in this.

[jroc]

Originally Posted by Temporary_User

Yeah girls are usually very good @ letting guys know that they have girl friends pretty early on. They just seem to find ways to bring it into conversation.
We as men appreciate this.

imagine how much MORE interesting this thread would be if she mentioned she had a girlfriend rather then a boyfriend! YOWZA!!

[J pold]

Originally Posted by jroc

imagine how much MORE interesting this thread would be if she mentioned she had a girlfriend rather then a boyfriend! YOWZA!!

I think this should be one added to the poll

She has a girlfriend YOWZA!!!!!! Maybe he got turned down, but he can still Video tape!

[Temporary_User]

haha, classic!
I dont think my post requires any editing
Yowza!

[Daradon]

Can we get a summary of the situation as it is? 19 pages is a lot to go through, even with have reading some portions sometimes.

I'm pretty good in situations like this.

Ultimately I think one has to be true to oneself. It never hurts to ask or to try (unless I missed something really weird). But you'll always beat yourself up not doing something over doing it. You try and fail, at least you'll know. If you can say you tried your hardest, or there was a clear reason fro stepping away. That's all you need.

'When we die we don't regret the choices we made, rather the choices we didn't'

[OilersBaby]

If she really has a boyfriend:
- she isn't that into him or she wouldnt say yes to the drink..
- do you want to date a woman who might go out with other guys? what if you were her boyfriend right now?

As others have mentioned, maybe she doesn't have a boyfriend because...
she hasnt mentioned him at all before in the previous conversations you've had with her....OR, maybe she does and she doesn't want to reveal it because she enjoys other men flirting with her and the male attention she gets that she might not otherwise get if she let on she had a bf.

..basically a summary of some of the other posts........and what I wouldve said had I gone through this thread earlier.

If I was you, I would just wait and see what happens in a couple of weeks........see if she brings up this boyfriend guy again.......make your move before someone else snatches her up if and when she becomes single

[bluejays]

Since she KO'd you, this thread now requires pics! We'll decide in a poll if she was worth the time or not. Post pics please!

[fanforever1986]

You have to wonder what the chances are that one of the guys on this board is her boyfriend, and is sitting at home debating his life at this moment.

[Five-hole]

Add me to the list of she doesn't actually have a boyfriend or her relationship is on the fritz or not serious. Jokingly ask her again in a week or two and when she says yes, ... uh ... this sentence was poorly began.

[Sylvanfan]

Normally I would say leave it at this...but given the sausage ratio in Calgary and Alberta these days that'll get you nowhere. Be polite and ask about going for that drink sometime!

[Winsor_Pilates]

I'm in the camp that thinks she has no BF. It seems like a defensive reaction that she regrets letting out.
Play it cool and see what happens from here. Don't force it but look for that drink opportunity to come up again.

As for those who think females always slip in that they have a BF early, I disagree.
I've talked to lots of females who specifically avoid saying it because they want to make friends. When they slip in the BF thing, it turns guys off from even becoming friends because we guys think we're being told to F off.

[soulchoice]

My thoughts, if you like her and she is showing interest, go for it. Her supposed boyfriend has nothing to do with you and her. If it works out great. Unless you know her boyfriend(good friend), who cares.

One other thing though, depends on what you want from her. If you want just a friend with benefits, then play along with the game, just remain in her life in some capacity. If there is interest, one day you will or may be able to take it to the physical level.

Either way, do not just focus your time on her. Date other women and if she has a man and you are friends with her, be sure she knows there are other women too. Subtle hints that you are intrigued by another woman is always a good way to raise interest from someone else. Dont divulge much information on other ones your dating though. Be discreet and subtle.

Be relaxed, confident and not touchy feely with her under any circumstances. Ensure that you have the type of personality that is not a pushover, but do not cater to her or be the nice guy. Dont be an ass, but certainly, do not be a wuss.

[Teh_Bandwagoner]

I can't believe I read this entire thread. Where's my gold star??

Put me in the "her existing boyfriend isn't working out camp". Dude, if the girl studdered, you're so making her think twice!

I think your plan is appropriate. Stay the course, man!

By the way, is it just me, or does it seem that more often than not, girls give you fairly iffy answers when you ask them out. Last girl I asked out, she told me she broke up with her boyfriend recently and wasn't ready to date yet. If she had brushed me off from that point, I think I would have been glad. But no... she has to keep me within arms reach! I'm wondering if she's keeping me around as a backup for when she is ready. It's not keeping me from being interested in other girls, but is it wrong of me to be upset that she might be keeping me aside for a future option? :P

[soulchoice]

Originally Posted by Teh_Bandwagoner

I can't believe I read this entire thread. Where's my gold star??

Put me in the "her existing boyfriend isn't working out camp". Dude, if the girl studdered, you're so making her think twice!

I think your plan is appropriate. Stay the course, man!

By the way, is it just me, or does it seem that more often than not, girls give you fairly iffy answers when you ask them out. Last girl I asked out, she told me she broke up with her boyfriend recently and wasn't ready to date yet. If she had brushed me off from that point, I think I would have been glad. But no... she has to keep me within arms reach! I'm wondering if she's keeping me around as a backup for when she is ready. It's not keeping me from being interested in other girls, but is it wrong of me to be upset that she might be keeping me aside for a future option? :P

I think that depends on what you want from her. If you are looking just to sleep with her, nothing wrong with keeping her around at arms length for that. As long as you are exploring your options as well. Just dont put much effort into her.

However if you hoping to possibly slide in and date her, from the sounds of it, that may be tough to do. If a woman is truly interested in you, she would not tell you she was not ready to date at all. She my have interest in you, but not that much, hence her hesitation. Let me ask you all this, if there was a girl you met whom was truly amazing and you were interested in her, would you tell her your not ready to date? Prob not.

For the most part, if a woman is interested in you, someway she will make it known or easy for you to like her. Her stating she is not ready to date is a barrier or definitely a sign of low interest.

[Table 5]

ok, thats it. i demand an update.

[Wookie]

Originally Posted by Table 5

ok, thats it. i demand an update.

Hmmm,

Okay,

Only talked to once in the 1.5 weeks since asking. I have to be at the pool the same time, as well she needs to be standing around for me to be able to chat.

Last time chatted for a few minutes, but she was freezing, in a swimsuit, had just finished a few hours of lessons and wanted to leave... But still stopped to chat.

Next conversation I'm bringing it up again

[icarus]

Originally Posted by Wookie

she was freezing, in a swimsuit

Originally Posted by Wookie

Next conversation I'm bringing it up again

If I were you, I would avoid bringing it up directly. Try to get her to bring it up. Something like:

Q: "What did you do on the weekend?"
A: "Went to see a movie, __(insert movie here: If chick flick, go to Q(a); if exciting movie, go to Q(b))__."
Q(a): "Let me guess: this was your choice and not his!?"
Q(a): "Let me guess: this was his choice and not yours!?"

Then discuss boyfriend/her neglect and consequent sexual appetite.

[hah]

This book is a good read for the situation you are in.

http://www.amazon.com/Game-Penetrati.../dp/0060554738

If anything it will help you feel more confident.

Just ask the girl out again and try and get an answer.

If yes go for the date. If no move on.

Don't waste any more of your time on her.

Good luck