Rate your current mental health level out of 10

[Locke]

Originally Posted by Knut

24 hr rule.

When I was coaching I'd go to the nearest bar after the game. Because I didn't have a kid on the team that I had to take home, so I'd have my laptop and I had to write-up and submit a post-game report to the club.

All of the kids and the parents had to sign a deal at the beginning of the season. You do not speak to me about the game until 24 hours after the game. If you do...my bar tab is on you.

It works. I think parents only broke that rule twice in 10 years and both times they regretted it.

Tranquilo...

It is not the end of the world, there will always be another game. Gotta cool off a little. Not my first rodeo.

[fotze2]

Originally Posted by Knut

24 hr rule.

Of course it will be infinity hour rule. I don't even know what he looks like. Have never met him and never will. I just need to yell at clouds. And you guys are my clouds.

So i phoned my older son who's heart was broken by hockey and pretty much hates it now. He was a hell of a player. Bedard could not get around him. As bros they are competitive ans not all that close but he is gonna phone him because he is looked up too. He's been there done that. Gaudreau story is cruel to small players. False hope.

[troutman]

Originally Posted by fotze2

So my kid is in playoffs . They lost today. Coach just played the same players and my kid barely played . Multiple kids crying walking out. I want to burn down the world now.wife says i cannot but i want too. He killed their spirit. Now i gotta be a dad. Fack

My son quit hockey because the coach gave all the ice time to a few favorites and his son. Should be equal ice time for all until juniors. Who cares about winning before that?

[MrSector9]

I would ask lil fotze2 what he would have done in the situation, use it as a teaching moment when it comes to team building/leading.. how would he have made the choices he made, but also compare what you would have done from a spectator perspective.

I think the most important part is for him to know that the failure was simply due to a person not having an open mind, asking for trusted input and that collaboration is how you build a proper team.... this will go further in his life than hockey and honestly wish I had someone in my life that had brought me down this path. Not to be angry with the coach but to try to understand how that coach might have got to that point (maybe he was the exact same kid that lost and never had someone to lead him through it)

Sorry if it sounds hippy dippy, but did a boatload of DMT last night and ugly cried about missing my mother and realised I was using anger towards her as it was easier than accepting the fact that I missed her *Insert Macho Guy.

[Jason14h]

Originally Posted by fotze2

Of course it will be infinity hour rule. I don't even know what he looks like. Have never met him and never will. I just need to yell at clouds. And you guys are my clouds.
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If you’ve never met him how do know he’s playing his favourites vs the players that put them in the best position to win the playoff game ?

From your past posting history it sounds like this is high level hockey - (one) of the jobs at that level for a coach is to win.

If this is a coach that will be coaching him next year - your kid should sit down with the coach and express his disappointment with not playing more and ask what he needs to do in the offseason to get more playing time.

It’s a good adult learning experience to prepare for the “real” world

[TheIronMaiden]

I remember is was sat a lot playing tier 1 midget, which is the grand scheme is dog #### nothing hockey for nobodies. To this day I hate my coach. Lucky enough now that I am in my 30s I love playing beer league, it's one of my favorite things. But I can assure you, it is in spite of that useless try hard ####.

[fotze2]

Originally Posted by Jason14h

If you’ve never met him how do know he’s playing his favourites vs the players that put them in the best position to win the playoff game ?

From your past posting history it sounds like this is high level hockey - (one) of the jobs at that level for a coach is to win.

If this is a coach that will be coaching him next year - your kid should sit down with the coach and express his disappointment with not playing more and ask what he needs to do in the offseason to get more playing time.

It’s a good adult learning experience to prepare for the “real” world

He's actually pretty good, hard ass but has favorites. It's quite obvious. It is no big deal. I just needed to yell at clouds.

My kid is doing good. He is the glue guy on the team. He has a way better mindset than I have. He pumps up his teammates. He is the best..

Ya, it's higher level, coach takes a salary.

[fotze2]

Had dranks and some meh food with jirihrdina at da pub. He got to meet andrew bashas mom and get a glimpse into this nuts world . We have a really good crew here and I don't think we realize it.

Great guy!