Rate your current mental health level out of 10

[Dion]

Originally Posted by dissentowner

0. I hate Christmas. It's depressing as hell since my grandparents passed, nobody gathers anymore. Both my sons are with their moms for the holiday. Just another ####ty day.

Both my parents are gone and the rest of my family lives in the States. Still doesn't mean it has to be a ####ty day. Get together with friends and celebrate Christmas. It's what I do

[dissentowner]

No thanks. I'll pass. I spent Christmas binging shows in bed.

[Acey]

Originally Posted by Dion

Both my parents are gone and the rest of my family lives in the States. Still doesn't mean it has to be a ####ty day. Get together with friends and celebrate Christmas. It's what I do

I don't have any friends.

Mostly my own fault, but still... it becomes quite apparent at Christmas.

[Geraldsh]

Originally Posted by Acey

I don't have any friends.

Mostly my own fault, but still... it becomes quite apparent at Christmas.

You’re not alone, well….yes you are but you’re not the only one.
My wife cooked a huge meal for the two of us and one visiting son. I will be eating leftovers for the rest of the year.

[Shazam]

I am ready to retire.

Christ people are miserable. And so ####ing unhelpful. How the hell do people work day in and day out acting like #######s.

[Locke]

Originally Posted by Shazam

I am ready to retire.

Christ people are miserable. And so ####ing unhelpful. How the hell do people work day in and day out acting like #######s.

A little bit of hard work, talent, practice, age and experience, after that its a cake-walk to be miserable all of the time! It practically becomes second-nature.

[Shazam]

Compared to the PM I'm working under now, I was a flipping nazi goosestepping anal retentive ####### that did things like provide actual task guidance and background information.

[fotze2]

Im a bit hesistant to ask for an update from displaced as those surgeries can be dicey. But am curious and thinking.

[dissentowner]

Ya, hopefully all went well

[fotze2]

Well on the low end.

Birthday today which is the worlds worst day to have one.

A. Back to school day
B. Back to work day.
C. Crappy presnts because close to xmas
D. No one ever wants to do any thing due to nye hangover and resolutions.

I went to market mall to trade in my kids phne we upgraded from. They do all the stuff. $300 in gift card, nice, feeling productive. Go to the car wash thing and wand wash. Feeling good. Get home and somehow along the way lost the card out of my pocket.

I drive back just in case they have linked it to my apple account and can cancel it. No dice. Long shot but but no, its like cash. Go to the car wash nope. Drive home like a loser.

I lost some memory in that surgery and have become absent minded and was never that way and today was kinda scary so I'm bawling now driving home.

Anyone wants to do some target practice at my pumpkin i am game.

[undercoverbrother]

I have realized that I need to get some help.

I don't know what that exactly looks like or what type of help, but I have some things that need to be addressed to make life better for me and those I love.

[Scroopy Noopers]

Originally Posted by fotze2

Well on the low end.

Birthday today which is the worlds worst day to have one.

A. Back to school day
B. Back to work day.
C. Crappy presnts because close to xmas
D. No one ever wants to do any thing due to nye hangover and resolutions.

I went to market mall to trade in my kids phne we upgraded from. They do all the stuff. $300 in gift card, nice, feeling productive. Go to the car wash thing and wand wash. Feeling good. Get home and somehow along the way lost the card out of my pocket.

I drive back just in case they have linked it to my apple account and can cancel it. No dice. Long shot but but no, its like cash. Go to the car wash nope. Drive home like a loser.

I lost some memory in that surgery and have become absent minded and was never that way and today was kinda scary so I'm bawling now driving home.

Anyone wants to do some target practice at my pumpkin i am game.

You seem quite emotionally mature in my opinion, and like a good guy. I really hope you stop joking about self harm. Maybe you use it as an escape as a joke. But the self harm comments like that cause further problems in your mind and that is well documented. It’s not healthy for ya.

[PaperBagger'14]

Originally Posted by undercoverbrother

I have realized that I need to get some help.

I don't know what that exactly looks like or what type of help, but I have some things that need to be addressed to make life better for me and those I love.

I remember from when we hung out that you work for a good company. If they have an Employee Family Assistance Program they can usually set you up to talk to people who can help with huge ranges of issues.

My company offers one and guys have used it for legal advice, therapy for drug / alcohol abuse, financial planning and a whole other ton of issues. It’s free and anonymous so you don’t have to worry about that info getting back to your boss. It’s a good place to start looking if you have access to one.

Also if you want someone to hang out with, go for a run or even a coffee you have my number still.

[fotze2]

Originally Posted by Scroopy Noopers

You seem quite emotionally mature in my opinion, and like a good guy. I really hope you stop joking about self harm. Maybe you use it as an escape as a joke. But the self harm comments like that cause further problems in your mind and that is well documented. It’s not healthy for ya.

You win some, you luge some. I get whiny from time to time and have a tendency to catastrophize with a pinch of feeling sorry for myself.

[fotze2]

Originally Posted by PaperBagger'14

I remember from when we hung out that you work for a good company. If they have an Employee Family Assistance Program they can usually set you up to talk to people who can help with huge ranges of issues.

My company offers one and guys have used it for legal advice, therapy for drug / alcohol abuse, financial planning and a whole other ton of issues. It’s free and anonymous so you don’t have to worry about that info getting back to your boss. It’s a good place to start looking if you have access to one.

Also if you want someone to hang out with, go for a run or even a coffee you have my number still.

Also cold showers.

I did the EAP a while back when I hated my boss and basically never slept.

EAP was absolutely terrible and am not at all convinced it was confidential, especially with the monster who was our HR rep. Huge liar. Talked to her and she said its totally confidential, next day the bosses tone with me changed 180 degrees and repeating things I only had told her in confidential mode.

Whatever, but the EAP nurse (or whatever she was) spent the entire "session" trying to sell me on these naturopathic supplements for it, complete with a website to order it. WTF. Actually spent money buying some of them and trying them because I am an idiot, obviously to no avail. God I was annoyed. So I started lying to the HR moron that I was still using the EAP. It was free to the employee so you can bet it will be dogcrap service.

[Locke]

Originally Posted by fotze2

Also cold showers.

I did the EAP a while back when I hated my boss and basically never slept.

EAP was absolutely terrible and am not at all convinced it was confidential, especially with the monster who was our HR rep. Huge liar. Talked to her and she said its totally confidential, next day the bosses tone with me changed 180 degrees and repeating things I only had told her in confidential mode.

Whatever, but the EAP nurse (or whatever she was) spent the entire "session" trying to sell me on these naturopathic supplements for it, complete with a website to order it. WTF. Actually spent money buying some of them and trying them because I am an idiot, obviously to no avail. God I was annoyed. So I started lying to the HR moron that I was still using the EAP. It was free to the employee so you can bet it will be dogcrap service.

I've heard this a lot.

The EAP is great...in theory...but usually, at least under the circumstances that I've heard of its usually the same story. The only Therapists, Doctors, etc, that qualify under the EAP are Dr. Nick Riviera and various other Bargain Bin 'Professionals.'

And yes, I have also heard that its about as confidential from your HR Department and employer as screaming your problems at clouds from the rooftop with a megaphone.

[fotze2]

Originally Posted by Locke

I've heard this a lot.

The EAP is great...in theory...but usually, at least under the circumstances that I've heard of its usually the same story. The only Therapists, Doctors, etc, that qualify under the EAP are Dr. Nick Riviera and various other Bargain Bin 'Professionals.'

And yes, I have also heard that its about as confidential from your HR Department and employer as screaming your problems at clouds from the rooftop with a megaphone.

What is the bare minimum we can do for our employees but say we are doing something. How about you just save the five dollars that they must spend on this "service".

[Locke]

Originally Posted by fotze2

What is the bare minimum we can do for our employees but say we are doing something. How about you just save the five dollars that they must spend on this "service".

It kind of reminds me of when I was working for Greyhound.

They had to do all of the Bus repair and service in the bays so at any given time they had a minimum of 3-5 bus diesel engines idling in a confined space. Someone finally called occupational health and safety because there just wasn't enough ventilation for all of the diesel fumes.

At which point the Depot manager takes the safety guy to some store-room to show him all of the fans which meets the air CFM requirements. Sure...they're all still brand new and in the boxes but...technically, they exist. They're in a store-room in the basement somewhere and move a grand total of 0 air...but they exist!

Good enough. Box checked.

[Lubicon]

Originally Posted by Locke

It kind of reminds me of when I was working for Greyhound.

They had to do all of the Bus repair and service in the bays so at any given time they had a minimum of 3-5 bus diesel engines idling in a confined space. Someone finally called occupational health and safety because there just wasn't enough ventilation for all of the diesel fumes.

At which point the Depot manager takes the safety guy to some store-room to show him all of the fans which meets the air CFM requirements. Sure...they're all still brand new and in the boxes but...technically, they exist. They're in a store-room in the basement somewhere and move a grand total of 0 air...but they exist!

Good enough. Box checked.

Haha. Years ago when I worked in our Red Deer shop it was similar. No issue running the diesel engines inside on the trucks and also the equipment they powered. But you had to go outside to smoke.

[Scroopy Noopers]

For what it’s worth, I ended up with my favourite therapist through my EFAP and talked to her for over a year. And her and the other I spoke with both had their own in person clinics where they charged clients… I imagine that’s common.