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suegate · 07-23-2007, 12:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Biff

Billy Crystal was Harry. Meg Ryan was Sally. Pretty good movie.

Yeah...I've seen it. Very funny. Love the "O" scene. Totally works that way, BTW...

suegate · 07-23-2007, 12:57 AM

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Originally Posted by BlackArcher101

Wait, both of you readily admit you are attracted to each other, but for one or more reasons you can't go further with it?

If so, I've been in that situation twice now... doesn't feel good, get's awkward, and staying friends... probably not going to happen.

Yeah, I fear that you're right.

suegate · 07-23-2007, 12:59 AM

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Originally Posted by J pold

Ok why can’t you be together?

Work together, can't happen...big trouble.

BlackArcher101 · 07-23-2007, 01:01 AM

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Originally Posted by suegate

Work together, can't happen...big trouble.

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Yeah, I fear that you're right.

Ouch, working together is even worse, know the feeling. Probably not the answer you wanted to hear, but unfortunately it's based on experience.

J pold · 07-23-2007, 01:03 AM

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Originally Posted by suegate

Work together, can't happen...big trouble.

How much father does this go than attracted?

I mean its very easy to become attracted to someone, I see a hot girl walking down the street I am attracted to her…there are plenty of friends I have that are girls that I think are attractive but would never date

It’s the emotional connection that gets in the way…do you have feeling for this person or is just a plutonic sexual attraction?

suegate · 07-23-2007, 01:05 AM

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Originally Posted by BlackArcher101

Ouch, working together is even worse, know the feeling. Probably not the answer you wanted to hear, but unfortunately it's based on experience.

Yeah...at least I have all you guys to talk to about the Flames games though, right??

Phanuthier · 07-23-2007, 01:07 AM

Unless I missed something, seems ambiguous. By attractive, do you mean you are attrative in general, or you are attractive to said guy? If you are attractive to said guy, then yeah, it'll be hard. But I'm best friends with a girl half my guy friends have the hots for, but I don't find her attractive the least bit and we've been friends for years.

Funny enough, there was a girl I used to be attracted to, and when I started working with her, we became close friends but I was lost the attraction to her when we became friends.

Dion · 07-23-2007, 01:08 AM

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Originally Posted by suegate

Does anyone think it's possible to have attractive, even good-looking friends of the opposite sex who are interrested in all the same things, have the exact same love and passion for something like sports and yet remain friends without crossing any lines?

Been down that road a few times and from my experince it doesn't work. Sooner or later one of the 2 people is going to want to push the friendship factor further. It's not uncommon when opposite sexes spend alot of time together.

suegate · 07-23-2007, 01:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Phanuthier

Unless I missed something, seems ambiguous. By attractive, do you mean you are attrative in general, or you are attractive to said guy? If you are attractive to said guy, then yeah, it'll be hard. But I'm best friends with a girl half my guy friends have the hots for, but I don't find her attractive the least bit and we've been friends for years.

I guess that proves what this thread is talking about...you can't be attracted, or more specifically want to be with, a friend, and stay friends with nothing more.

I would expect that attractive in general is a bit weak...I guess there is a typical "type" that people are attracted too...I was asking in general, but really all that matters is what each person thinks. Unless most people find 6 foot, slim, althletic blonds attractive?? But then again, who are "most" people?? Very interesting...

suegate · 07-23-2007, 01:15 AM

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Originally Posted by J pold

How much father does this go than attracted?

I mean its very easy to become attracted to someone, I see a hot girl walking down the street I am attracted to her…there are plenty of friends I have that are girls that I think are attractive but would never date

It’s the emotional connection that gets in the way…do you have feeling for this person or is just a plutonic sexual attraction?

If only it could only be about the sexual attraction...you're right, it's the rest that makes it complicated.

J pold · 07-23-2007, 01:18 AM

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Originally Posted by suegate

If only it could only be about the sexual attraction...

If I had a nickel for every time I have thought that I would have a lot of nickels

BlackArcher101 · 07-23-2007, 01:20 AM

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Originally Posted by suegate

If only it could only be about the sexual attraction...you're right, it's the rest that makes it complicated.

I think you've hit the nail on the head right there.

suegate · 07-23-2007, 01:27 AM

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Originally Posted by J pold

If I had a nickel for every time I have thought that I would have a lot of nickels

Wouldn't we all be rich?? It's a shame that people don't just let themselves be attracted to each other and not worry about the rest...it always gets in the way.

Phanuthier · 07-23-2007, 01:27 AM

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Originally Posted by suegate

I guess that proves what this thread is talking about...you can't be attracted, or more specifically want to be with, a friend, and stay friends with nothing more.

Oh, in that case, I did have a friend I was attracted to, be we couldn't date for religous purposes. Things were ok until she started dating my best friend and she started getting all paranoid. Then, they broke up, and I haven't really talked to her since.

suegate · 07-23-2007, 01:58 AM

It’s the emotional connection that gets in the way…do you have feeling for this person or is just a plutonic sexual attraction?

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If I had a nickel for every time I have thought that I would have a lot of nickels

Really? Why don't guys act on it, then?? Isn't it possible that the girl just wants the sex, too?

Caged Great · 07-23-2007, 02:04 AM

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Originally Posted by suegate

Really? Why don't guys act on it, then?? Isn't it possible that the girl just wants the sex, too?

Getting smacked across the face once too many times causes guys not to act on it.

suegate · 07-23-2007, 02:35 AM

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Getting smacked across the face once too many times causes guys not to act on it.

Ahh...I see. That is most unfortunate. Allow me to apologize for all those smacks...

suegate · 07-23-2007, 02:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Dion

Been down that road a few times and from my experince it doesn't work. Sooner or later one of the 2 people is going to want to push the friendship factor further. It's not uncommon when opposite sexes spend alot of time together.

It's not uncommon, but why can't it ever work? What can people do to make it work?? Any suggestions??

Burninator · 07-23-2007, 08:47 AM

I was in a similar situation with a girl at work. It didn't go very far. But it was definitely complicated and we spent more time talking about it than I would have liked. It kept resurfacing time and time again. But luckily we found a way to remain just friends without all the complicated relationship mumbo-jumbo and emotional distress...she got a new job.

J pold · 07-23-2007, 09:00 AM

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Originally Posted by suegate

Really? Why don't guys act on it, then?? Isn't it possible that the girl just wants the sex, too?

Well its mostly social conditioning most men don’t realize that women want sex just as much as men, problem is if women had sex all the time with everybody they have the consequence of being called a “slut” or a “whore” which is socially defeating men on the other hand get praised for having more sexual partners

Another social perception that is a little off base is that women are the ones who get attached after causal sex, and while this does happen men do this a lot too…I know a lot of girls who will be attracted to a guy on a very plutonic level want to have sex and nothing more, but it’s the guy who gets a needy afterwards