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[White Out 403]

Originally Posted by Erick Estrada

It's pretty normal for people to act differently to others online as they would in person. According to research trolls live inside all of us and some are simply better at suppressing that.

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/2...n-social-media

I can only think of maybe one mean spirited poster at CP that's also probably an ####### in person. Most of the members here that may come off as abrasive in their posting, are likely to be much more pleasant to deal with in person.

the never ending battle of good and evil inside us

[Fuzz]

Originally Posted by Erick Estrada

It's pretty normal for people to act differently to others online as they would in person. According to research trolls live inside all of us and some are simply better at suppressing that.

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/2...n-social-media

I can only think of maybe one mean spirited poster at CP that's also probably an ####### in person. Most of the members here that may come off as abrasive in their posting, are likely to be much more pleasant to deal with in person.

You are gonna have to name drop after that, you toad ####er.

[PepsiFree]

Originally Posted by White Out 403

I hate how abrasive I can be online and let my worse instincts drive the bus. There's always this ... simmering anger/rage under the surface I'm dealing with and I feel like it manifests itself the most online.

The fact that you’re aware of it means you’ve got a pretty healthy advantage. I’m guessing your wife loves you, your kid(s?) adore you, and you’ve got healthy friendships?

I’ve encountered a handful of pretty insidious, abusive bullies on here that hide their worst instincts in public really well 99% of the time, but you confront them on the wrong thing or get them in private and their true, gross selves come to the surface. And then it’s no surprise when you learn they’re forever single, or divorced, or have trouble making friends.

If I’m deciding who is more “evil” between the abrasive guy who says whatever even if it’s offensive but you always know where you stand and he treats the people he loves like gold, vs the outwardly friendly guy who would almost never say a bad word in public but talks behind your back and goes home and beats his wife, it’s going to be the latter.

[Wormius]

Originally Posted by Fuzz

You are gonna have to name drop after that, you toad ####er.

I’m nice…

[ResAlien]

Bill Simmons is an irritating twat but the progression from his contributions to Page2 being amazing to Grantland being pretty great and cool to The Ringer being the worst garbage completely useless don't even visit it why does this place exist website on the internet has not been fun to endure. I just want some sports news and a bit of funny editorializing cman guy jeez

[TorqueDog]

Originally Posted by White Out 403

I hate how abrasive I can be online and let my worse instincts drive the bus. There's always this ... simmering anger/rage under the surface I'm dealing with and I feel like it manifests itself the most online.

I understand this too. Especially when early interactions with someone give me the impression that I'm talking to a weak opponent on a subject I'm engaged in, I can get a bit ... 'sharp' in my tone, to the point of alienation, which is something that I don't do in real life.

Just recognizing it, as Pepsi said, is a good start to toning it down and a positive indicator that you're not a complete arsehole... maybe a bit of one, but who isn't?

[Locke]

Not me. I'm perfect.

[iggy_oi]

What if one has a very sarcastic dry sense of humour that they know rarely translates well over text and they use it anyways when posting because they know it hilariously will not go over well while also knowing that if a person frustrated by it ever met them in real life they would finally get the gag and likely find it very funny?

Are they the baddie?

[belsarius]

Originally Posted by TorqueDog

I understand this too. Especially when early interactions with someone give me the impression that I'm talking to a weak opponent on a subject I'm engaged in, I can get a bit ... 'sharp' in my tone, to the point of alienation, which is something that I don't do in real life.

Just recognizing it, as Pepsi said, is a good start to toning it down and a positive indicator that you're not a complete arsehole... maybe a bit of one, but who isn't?

I've lost track of how many replies I have never posted. Get all riled up about something, put in a good 10-20 minutes typing it out, re-reading it, realize I'm being an ass, and then just deleting it and letting it go.

The good part is usually there is someone less concerned that writes basically the same thing soon after.

[Locke]

Lots of people on this site know me in real life, I mean LOTS.

I'm told that I'm delightful.

[PepsiFree]

Originally Posted by iggy_oi

What if one has a very sarcastic dry sense of humour that they know rarely translates well over text and they use it anyways when posting because they know it hilariously will not go over well while also knowing that if a person frustrated by it ever met them in real life they would finally get the gag and likely find it very funny?

Are they the baddie?

Heaven help you if you mix that dry sense of humour in with the same condescending, catty rapport you have with your friends. That right there is a recipe for complete strangers to opine on how deeply unhappy you must be “IRL” and say all sorts of wacky things to you.

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by PepsiFree

Heaven help you if you mix that dry sense of humour in with the same condescending, catty rapport you have with your friends. That right there is a recipe for complete strangers to opine on how deeply unhappy you must be “IRL” and say all sorts of wacky things to you.

I think some people just don't have friends, too, so they don't understand how friends communicate. We can get kind of comfortable with people on here and treat them like a friend and then that pisses them off because they think you're mean lol. I've had that. I'm not being mean, you tit, I'm razzing you like a normal person would razz his friend. Frankly, they should be honoured.

[DoubleF]

Originally Posted by belsarius

I've lost track of how many replies I have never posted. Get all riled up about something, put in a good 10-20 minutes typing it out, re-reading it, realize I'm being an ass, and then just deleting it and letting it go.

The good part is usually there is someone less concerned that writes basically the same thing soon after.

I do this. I chalk it up to the timing difference between knowing I can review my response before sending for online vs in person, I'd pause, think carefully of a response and then reply, potentially breaking the response up into multiple replies (ie: I can answer this, but the next part, let me confirm before responding). I think most people are aware of this as there's frequent comments like, "Why didn't you stop and think or double check before clicking send?"

Originally Posted by iggy_oi

What if one has a very sarcastic dry sense of humour that they know rarely translates well over text and they use it anyways when posting because they know it hilariously will not go over well while also knowing that if a person frustrated by it ever met them in real life they would finally get the gag and likely find it very funny?

Are they the baddie?

Isn't it mostly the intention?

There's the saying, "Don't automatically associate malice with something easily explainable by incompetence."

Some people say things they don't actually mean. It's like a sarcastic, metaphor/allegory riddled way of communication. Like razzing. I don't prefer conversing this way at all or have friends that converse this way, but it's not really evil... I think.

Like: "OMFG I love you, you dumb as bitch. I hope your life goes to hell and we can laugh about how #### you are over drinks next week."

They're not bad/evil for saying this assuming they don't have negative or ill intentions in the way they say it (they don't mean it in that way). But I'd associate it with some form of incompetence of social interaction or appropriate selection of verbiage (ie: read the room) than malice.

Originally Posted by TorqueDog

I understand this too. Especially when early interactions with someone give me the impression that I'm talking to a weak opponent on a subject I'm engaged in, I can get a bit ... 'sharp' in my tone, to the point of alienation, which is something that I don't do in real life.

Just recognizing it, as Pepsi said, is a good start to toning it down and a positive indicator that you're not a complete arsehole... maybe a bit of one, but who isn't?

They way I summarize it, is it feels easy to be condescending if the online response was made in real life.

[ResAlien]

What a beautiful collection of posters we have here who're simultaneously chattering unlikeable morons online but beloved good guys IRL.

Not me. Online? Real life? Baby I am an insufferable and condescending knob and that never changes

[topfiverecords]

Originally Posted by Locke

Lots of people on this site know me in real life, I mean LOTS.

I'm told that I'm delightful.

[habernac]

Originally Posted by ResAlien

Bill Simmons is an irritating twat but the progression from his contributions to Page2 being amazing to Grantland being pretty great and cool to The Ringer being the worst garbage completely useless don't even visit it why does this place exist website on the internet has not been fun to endure. I just want some sports news and a bit of funny editorializing cman guy jeez

I love the Rewatchables podcast. His Boston homerism ruins his sports stuff.

[fotze2]

If you use that rent free in the head quote from the esteemed Dr.Phil outta shampoo my crotch.

[Cecil Terwilliger]

Originally Posted by Fuzz

You are gonna have to name drop after that, you toad ####er.

Is it obnoxious that my first thought was “it’s me”?

And then I can’t help but think that that’s probably a little too self-centered. There are a lot of posters on Calgary puck and to think that I’m the biggest jerk of them all is probably a stretch.

[puffnstuff]

Didnt we have a vote on that?

I much less nice in person. Apparently the look on my face doesnt hide when I think people are stupid or annoying.

[Fuzz]

Originally Posted by Cecil Terwilliger

Is it obnoxious that my first thought was “it’s me”?

And then I can’t help but think that that’s probably a little too self-centered. There are a lot of posters on Calgary puck and to think that I’m the biggest jerk of them all is probably a stretch.

Well I know it's not me, because

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