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[chemgear]

Originally Posted by curves2000

A friends wife who works for a non profit at nearly $300k a year WFH. They have a new born and it's like nothing has changed. The husband actually doesn't even know what she does for work. It's pretty much "watch the kid while I do a zoom call for 2 hours" a few times a week. He can't comprehend it and admits it.

I don't know, looks like somebody is profiting a great deal.

[curves2000]

Originally Posted by chemgear

I don't know, looks like somebody is profiting a great deal.

It's bizarro world for sure. I know him and his wife well so let's give her the benefit of the doubt and say she does really important work and us men are just stupid. There is zero justification for what amounts to a few zoom calls, emails and and the odd presentation for this salary. Salary aside, she still does extremely little work according to him and he is very open about this

[Wormius]

Originally Posted by curves2000

It's bizarro world for sure. I know him and his wife well so let's give her the benefit of the doubt and say she does really important work and us men are just stupid. There is zero justification for what amounts to a few zoom calls, emails and and the odd presentation for this salary. Salary aside, she still does extremely little work according to him and he is very open about this

This reads so misogynistic. You obviously have no idea what she does for work, so you’re jumping to a lot of conclusions.

[Roughneck]

Nothing says a strong marriage like one partner complaining that the other makes too much money for too little work.

Maybe the husband should go to the non-profit and tell them he’ll work twice as hard for half as much and really show his wife what WFH should be like!

[GGG]

Originally Posted by Wormius

This reads so misogynistic. You obviously have no idea what she does for work, so you’re jumping to a lot of conclusions.

And you didn’t even quote the misogynistic part.

[Whynotnow]

Originally Posted by Roughneck

Nothing says a strong marriage like one partner complaining that the other makes too much money for too little work.

Maybe the husband should go to the non-profit and tell them he’ll work twice as hard for half as much and really show his wife what WFH should be like!

Having been on a number of non profit boards this story sounds very fishy. First of all that comp level at a non profit would be rare to say the very least, you would generally be at one of the very largest non profs around and even then that’s a stretch from what I’ve seen. Non profit people tend to be worked incredibly hard and under resourced with lots of extra curricular time required.

[jayswin]

Curves always goes way overboard in real life examples when he's making a point. It's hilarious.

[Scroopy Noopers]

Originally Posted by Roughneck

Nothing says a strong marriage like one partner complaining that the other makes too much money for too little work.

Maybe the husband should go to the non-profit and tell them he’ll work twice as hard for half as much and really show his wife what WFH should be like!

Huge salary, of course a “non-profit, “nobody wants to work anymore”, and it’s a woman.

Yeah… this happened for sure and isn’t just the same old tired #### we’ve heard for years all bundled into one tale.

[PepsiFree]

Originally Posted by jayswin

Curves always goes way overboard in real life examples when he's making a point. It's hilarious.

It’s funny watching him use the same formula over and over again.

- brings up a “real” issue with some loosely related anecdotes that suggest he doesn’t actually know much about the issue
- people point out the obvious
- brings up even more loosely related anecdotes, which are now borderline absurd or have nothing to do with the original issue
- people once again point out the obvious
- reframes criticisms of the anecdotes as denial that the original issue (which hasn’t even really been explored) exists at all

And over and over again.

We’re talking about WFH and his complaints so far have been people not responding to emails and a woman than makes too much money and makes his husband watch the baby for two whole hours (wow!) a couple times a week. Two things that have nothing to do with WFH but he’s going to respond pretending that people are denying issues with WFH exist.

[jayswin]

Originally Posted by curves2000

A friends wife who works for a non profit at nearly $300k a year WFH. They have a new born and it's like nothing has changed. The husband actually doesn't even know what she does for work. It's pretty much "watch the kid while I do a zoom call for 2 hours" a few times a week. He can't comprehend it and admits it. Finds it frustrating cause culturally wise the male looks after expenses and bills. He is killing himself for $95k paying for almost everything.

Wait, I missed this part where not only does she make $300k to his $95k but he also pays for nearly everything because men do that "culturally wise"? I know lots of people and this seems crazy. Can you expand what he's paying for?

Like is he paying full mortgage, any and all vehicles, groceries, other bills etc?
while she banks almost all her earnings for herself? Do you know any couples yourself? What's your basis for an insane relationship like that being the norm? And when you say it's because "men do that culturally wise" you are insinuating that it's normal.

[Scroopy Noopers]

Originally Posted by jayswin

Wait, I missed this part where not only does she make $300k to his $95k but he also pays for nearly everything because men do that "culturally wise"? I know lots of people and this seems crazy. Can you expand what he's paying for?

Like is he paying full mortgage, any and all vehicles, groceries, other bills etc?
while she banks almost all her earnings for herself? Do you know any couples yourself? What's your basis for an insane relationship like that being the norm? And when you say it's because "men do that culturally wise" you are insinuating that it's normal.

Not even just a relationship. They are married… apparently.

[Coach]

If that guy doesn't want his wife that works from home and makes $300K, I'll take her.

[Two Fivenagame]

Originally Posted by Coach

If that guy doesn't want his wife that works from home and makes $300K, I'll take her.

Get in line please.

[Looch City]

Everyone knows that a regular 9-5 office job is the hardest thing a man can endure.

Wife has to work at home AND look after a newborn? Pfft that's like vacation 24/7.

[Geraldsh]

He makes 95 and she makes 300? Get a divorce and sue fir support, beer time alla time.

[PepsiFree]

If the husband gets handed his child (poor, poor man) for a couple hours a few times a week doesn’t that imply that he’s also WFH?

[puffnstuff]

I just assume the people in all the stories dont actually exist.
Its so weird that they have all these 'friends' in the most extreme examples of whatever windmill they may be tilting at currently.

[Shazam]

I mean Costco and gyms weren't zoos on weekday mornings before... just sayin'

[Wormius]

Originally Posted by jayswin

Wait, I missed this part where not only does she make $300k to his $95k but he also pays for nearly everything because men do that "culturally wise"? I know lots of people and this seems crazy. Can you expand what he's paying for?

Like is he paying full mortgage, any and all vehicles, groceries, other bills etc?
while she banks almost all her earnings for herself? Do you know any couples yourself? What's your basis for an insane relationship like that being the norm? And when you say it's because "men do that culturally wise" you are insinuating that it's normal.

Yeah, that’s why I mean. He takes the weirdest friends he has, only takes the “man’s word” as gospel, and then inflates the normalcy of their relationship. I imagine his friend was just casually bs’ing about the whole situation and Curves fills in the rest himself.

Curves reminds me of my friend’s dad who came from Hungary. Such a weird guy. Really old world Eastern European vibes and notions about how the world should work.

[Roughneck]

Originally Posted by PepsiFree

If the husband gets handed his child (poor, poor man) for a couple hours a few times a week doesn’t that imply that he’s also WFH?

That must be why these requests aren’t being actioned.