Rate your current mental health level out of 10

[Dion]

I would like to echo a comment made by Jiri where he said people are being vulnerable and open talking about this.

The last few years of my life have not been easy with the passing of my mother, for whom I was her caregiver. Since I was the only family member still living in Canada I was tasked with being the Executor of her will. It was a job I didn't want and at the same time a task that greatly intimidated me. My brother stepped up and through conversations, emails and him coming back to Alberta on a number of occasions, he was my advisor who helped me guide me through the process of dealing with the banks and our lawyer. He was also a buffer as we had to deal with our estranged sister who we both felt might cause trouble with the will. She didn't cause trouble or contest the will and in the end agreed to the settlement.

Then there's my all my friends who reached out in support. And my great friend Calgary puck member bc-chris.

It's important to talk to someone when you're troubled. Get it off your chest and let them help when and where they can. If it's bad the reach out to a professional and let them help.

[Cecil Terwilliger]

I feel like I should say 8 or 9 but even though things keep getting better and better, it’s all relative. No matter how much my career or personal life improve, I’m always wanting more.

[Jiri Hrdina]

Originally Posted by Locke

Ugh...preach.

It astonishes me to no end how disconnected Lawyers and Judges and the entire system is from the central realities of these things.

Lawyers and the Court systems put these things together often without any rational concept of the real-world implications.

Shouldnt they have experience doing this? These are the fundamental basis of our society and its like they operate as though they've never done this before and don't know the goddamned rules.

We went through a mediator who was incompetent
to the point that I had to identify and make a correction to their excel template. They had a section for "exemptions" - the stuff that you don't divide up. But the the cell was set up as a negative amount and then it was being subtracted off the total. So minus a minus is a plus. A material error. And it was embedded in their template which means they had been using that, incorrectly, for lord know how many clients.

[Displaced Flames fan]

Originally Posted by habernac

2. Depression due to Dad dying and no employment. It’s been a super year.

So sorry to hear about your Dad, my friend

[dissentowner]

Originally Posted by Dion

It's important to talk to someone when you're troubled. Get it off your chest and let them help when and where they can. If it's bad the reach out to a professional and let them help.

Most of us can't afford a professional and everybody else doesn't give a ####. Sure, they may act like they do but people have their own problems, they don't give a rats ass about yours. Once you are down and you hit bottom everything is designed to keep you there and barring a fn miracle like a big inheritance you were not suspecting or winning a lottery you are F,ed. Everytime you try to get to a level where you can survive something comes along and drops you back in the #### hole.

The last one was bed bugs, I spent all my little bit of money I cut corners to put away in case of emergency because my place got infested with these little bastards and after spending $1500 which to me is a goddamn fortune the bastards were gone for like a month, now they are back. The company that did it won't come back and re-treat so now I have the damn bugs still and I am out my money. That is life, it won't let you get up once it gets you down. It is always something!

Like how I got in this position in the first place, I got hit by a drunk driver not once, but twice. Twice! What are the fn odds?? Both almost cost me my life, half my body is pins and screws now, most of my intestines were removed, I am in constant pain, and I survive off $1100.00 a month. The cop angle I talked about, I had just finished my policing course with honours and had a job lined up when the first accident happened. I didn't feel like letting anyone know in here that I had in fact become a worthless burden on society. That first accident shattered my right hip and upper arm and they stick it back together with pins and screws. Lost all function in my right arm for a year as the radial nerve was badly damaged. Tried to rehab enough I could still work and 2 years later I got hit again in the back passenger of friends car. Girl was drunk at a party and left, stole a car, and hit the car I was in. Car was an older car, a Topaz and had lap belts in the back. Lap belt rebroke my hip and ruptured a bunch of my intestinal tract. Now constipation is a medical emergency for me as most of my bowels were removed yet I am constantly on pain meds that constipate so I have to also take a bunch laxitives which leads to chronic diahrea, every day. Constant stomach cramps, constant arthritis in my hip, sitting on the toilet 6 times a day, what a great life! I had to give up my apartment and move in to my parents house and I am 48. Can't afford F all on $1100 a month, that won't even cover rent here. So now you all know how absolute #### my life is. It's garbage.

I hang out in my room with my dog and my frogs and watch hockey and play video games and try to not think about the fact my life is essentially over and I will never be able to enjoy things again because I can't afford to nor do I have the ambition anyhow. I will never get out to the Dome to see a game there, never going to vacation with my boys, have to make excuses to my 12 year old why when he comes to dad's place for Christmas there is F all under the tree. This is my existence and it truly sucks! So ya, just putting in time.

[Erick Estrada]

Maybe a 3 or 4 which is tough because for years now I would say I've been at an 8-10 level. My marriage is ending. We have been together for 30 years. I had a life, a vision for my future and retirement that's gone up in flames. I've been so used to having the comfort of being around my best friend everyday that the thought of being alone is terrifying and depressing. Maybe this is for the best but I just feel like I'm living under a dark cloud. Still I have to amazing boys and good health so things could be a lot worse as there's clearly some people in this thread going through difficulties worse than me. It's just a matter of time healing this wound.

[Displaced Flames fan]

3.

Hate my job, but very grateful for it at the same time. I could never make what I make and get the benefits I do anywhere else. My wife is in kidney failure so we have a crazy amount of health care costs that my insurance wipes away. I feel guilty for hating my job because of this.

I have a severe case of impostor syndrome. Just waiting for the day everyone finds out I am a fraud, which of course never comes. It's bizarre to know thoughts you have are complete bull#### and feel powerless to stop them.

My parents are in their mid 70s and I dread losing them. I count time in terms of what is.left rather than what is. Unhealthy as hell. When I go visit either of them I am constantly thinking about how soon it's going to be over. It's nuts.

We just became grandparents in October. That is awesome and helps me cope a lot.

I eat my feelings. I am over 400 pounds but relatively healthy. That won't last if I don't make some.changes
Slowly doing some of that but battling the hopelessness of needing to cut my weight in half is exhausting.

All that said...I love life and am grateful for every day I have.

[Locke]

Originally Posted by Jiri Hrdina

We went through a mediator who was incompetent
to the point that I had to identify and make a correction to their excel template. They had a section for "exemptions" - the stuff that you don't divide up. But the the cell was set up as a negative amount and then it was being subtracted off the total. So minus a minus is a plus. A material error. And it was embedded in their template which means they had been using that, incorrectly, for lord know how many clients.

Honestly man, and I hate to be 'that guy' but they're all like that.

Its...terrifying.

Okay...maybe not 'all' obviously I cant speak to 'all.'

I had a client who is a Mortgage Analyst for a major bank (I'll not name it) ask me a question about a calculation and I pointed out to her that their calculation was fundamentally flawed. You could see it right at the beginning.

"But I've been using this method for 30+ years."

Oh Jesus....yet I figured it out in 15 seconds. Literally 'first glance.'

And people wonder why I advocate for more robust institutions.

I'll tell you all a little secret. I know I shouldnt because the Bilderbergers and Bill Gates will be after me, but I'll do it anyways....

If: A+B+C don't equal the number at the bottom of the ledger...you're dealing with an idiot.

It is at that point that you must make a decision.

1. Take everything they're willing to give you. (depending on terms)

2. Run. Fast.

[Mr.Coffee]

Originally Posted by fotze2

2. Was a good looking small dude to some adult males in my life and now I can’t push it any deeper. Sleep is not easy. Hate myself.

You’re a G damn beauty man, and I bet you’d be surprised to learn how highly people think of you. Wish I still worked with you.

[TrentCrimmIndependent]

####. Seasonal depression is quite real.

The diminishing daylight, no natural absorption of vitamin D from the sun which is a catalyst for serotonin which has a distinct "chilled out" effect. And the knowing that most of this damned season is still ahead of us.

Can certainly compound and prolong a poor state of mind.

[Yanda]

low, I just put my first pet down on Monday and a guy at work is trying to sabotage me and use politics to run me out of the business.

[GranteedEV]

This morning, I think I was at about a 2 or 3. Work has given me anxiety, whether it's the deliverables that can't plausibly be delivered or the client I'm currently dealing with being extremely high-maintainence, or on a more macro level the fact that my company's sales team hasn't been pulling their weight lately and I don't know if my workplace will even exist a year from now.

It was 9 am, and I did something I just about never do. I took a 10mg thc edible. I went to my morning meetings remotely. And then the edible kicked in.

I sent the rest of my day just processing everything.

Feeling the stress, not just being numb to it.

Feeling the tedium of a task I hate.

Looking in the mirror. I ####ing have bags under my eyes, I've never seen myself with bags under them.

Taking a hot shower. Remembering how enjoyable that can be when you're not going through the emotions.

Texting some friends I haven't talked to in a while and just catching up.

Just sleeping off the rest of the day.

I feel like I'm back up to like a 5 or 6.

Do I still have problems? Sure I do.

I didn't get much work done today, but the deadlines won't wait for me. I probably have to work tomorrow.

I've been single for the last three and a half years, and I hate it. I hate being so jaded on romantic relationships that dating seems pointless because the other person will just let me down at some point.

I don't make the money I feel I deserve to, and I don't save the money I do make very well.

But I feel much better now, after a lazy day of doing sweet #### all than I did prepared to work all day to be ready for monday.

Take a day off your mind-numbing routine, whatever that is, if you're under a 5. Period. I'm not saying to self-medicate, but take an edible if you're anything like me and you are the kind of person who does not process their emotions and stressors. Appreciate the people around you, you're all in it together.

[Francis's Hairpiece]

10 mg Tommy for the win.
Every so often it helps, doesn't it?

[Duruss]

I am losing my eyesight, Autistic, single, on AISH because I am unemployable and my mental state is probably an 8. I have gone through ketamine therapy, 5 weeks 10 infusions and let me tell you that stuff works. Demons that I have carried for 30 years are finally 30 years in the past and that has been so freeing it's practically intoxicating.

Mix that with a pair of good friends and very regular exercise and it's a recipe for success. Even trying to start my own company selling my photo art.

[Johnny199r]

5.

I separated with my spouse of 12 years this summer (it was time, the spark was over, no hard feelings between either of us).

Now I'm living in a city where I have no family, and not much of a friend group at all. It's kind of isolating. Also, trying to date at age 40 isn't easy. The pickings are slim.

On the positive side, I have a good job, am very financially secure and have focused most of my free time on my fitness and as a result am probably in the best shape of my life. I also plan to travel extensively very soon.

It's easy to try to slip into a pity party sometimes about how I'm not at the stage of life I expected to be in at this age, but I have a very young co-worker with very serious cancer. Whenever I think about the hand she's been dealt in life, it helps for me to put things in perspective about whatever funk I'm in that day.

[Jiri Hrdina]

The one thing that has helped me a lot is through the pandemic I worked out of my basement office. I moved to a townhouse which had an office on the second floor with a big sunny window. It’s instantly helped

[Johnny Makarov]

I guess i'm a night owl but I never knew this lack of sunshine was so debilitating.

[Finger Cookin]

I'm usually a solid 6, I feel like that's true today.

[undercoverbrother]

Originally Posted by Jiri Hrdina

The one thing that has helped me a lot is through the pandemic I worked out of my basement office. I moved to a townhouse which had an office on the second floor with a big sunny window. It’s instantly helped

My son has a basement room, he does all his studying in his room.

We just got him one of those "sunshine lights" to use.

[btimbit]

Originally Posted by Johnny Makarov

I guess i'm a night owl but I never knew this lack of sunshine was so debilitating.

It definitely just affects people differently. I worked overnight a lot the last few years and it didn't bug me one bit, but other people couldn't do it at all