Random Thought Thread v2

[you&me]

Originally Posted by Locke

Have you considered investing in a nitrous tank and some pliers?

Maybe a decent chair and some bungee cords too.

What makes you think he doesn't already have all of that?

[Sainters7]

Originally Posted by Nyah

Does Calgary have a good store to buy vintage/collectors/previously owned books? I was wondering about Crossroads market but I can't remember seeing a place that sells books. I also haven't been there in a while...

I've never gone in for whatever reason, but I walk by Shelf Life Books on 13th Ave & 4th St SW all the time, they always have cool-looking vintage books on display in their windows. Maybe check it out if you're having trouble finding another one?

No idea if it's good in there or not, or what you're looking for, but it certainly appears to be from the outside anyway.

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by Slava

I’d say you have to be really careful with this, because it’s probably a few factors. Yeah, the money is probably a huge one. But then the poor guy has the physical embarrassment of being at the dentist and explaining to someone that he’s never been (or hasn’t in however long), and that’s not going to be fun for him either. Then you have a friend paying the freight, which is likely a huge source of embarrassment for the guy.

It’s not that it’s not coming from the right place or the right reasons, but there’s likely a lot of shame in a situation like this. I don’t have a solution to offer, but like I say, I’d just be really careful about how to handle it.

I know. Should probably mind my own business. I'm sure everyone I know could give me all sorts of tips and tricks, too. I will say this isn't a friend, per se. It's actually somebody I work with and I'd like to help them. I think I'll just sit on this, but I think this problem is getting worse quickly to the point where it can't be ignored and I guess that'll have to be my time to offer help.

[Hemi-Cuda]

Originally Posted by Slava

I’d say you have to be really careful with this, because it’s probably a few factors. Yeah, the money is probably a huge one. But then the poor guy has the physical embarrassment of being at the dentist and explaining to someone that he’s never been (or hasn’t in however long), and that’s not going to be fun for him either. Then you have a friend paying the freight, which is likely a huge source of embarrassment for the guy.

It’s not that it’s not coming from the right place or the right reasons, but there’s likely a lot of shame in a situation like this. I don’t have a solution to offer, but like I say, I’d just be really careful about how to handle it.

Even if you have good teeth and proper dental hygiene, dental hygienists are some of the most judgmental pricks I've ever seen. I've never had an issue with the dentists themselves, they've always been professional and to the point. But the girls doing the cleanings really love those snide remarks for any little flaw they find

[Fuzz]

Originally Posted by Hemi-Cuda

Even if you have good teeth and proper dental hygiene, dental hygienists are some of the most judgmental pricks I've ever seen. I've never had an issue with the dentists themselves, they've always been professional and to the point. But the girls doing the cleanings really love those snide remarks for any little flaw they find

My hygienist is perfect, but I hadn't realized that until I got 2 others in the same office on other visits. It was like I had a different set of teeth on those visits, and I know my teeth are pretty good.

[Slava]

Originally Posted by Sliver

I know. Should probably mind my own business. I'm sure everyone I know could give me all sorts of tips and tricks, too. I will say this isn't a friend, per se. It's actually somebody I work with and I'd like to help them. I think I'll just sit on this, but I think this problem is getting worse quickly to the point where it can't be ignored and I guess that'll have to be my time to offer help.

If you have a benefits plan or HSA you could suggest that they use their allotment? (And if you don’t have one and need one, I know a guy who can set that up!). You could do that much more broadly to all staff, which would kind of alleviate approaching this person directly as well.

[Sainters7]

Originally Posted by Hemi-Cuda

Even if you have good teeth and proper dental hygiene, dental hygienists are some of the most judgmental pricks I've ever seen. I've never had an issue with the dentists themselves, they've always been professional and to the point. But the girls doing the cleanings really love those snide remarks for any little flaw they find

My ex was a dental assistant when I first met her before going back to school, a big part of the reason she pursued another profession is she couldn't stand the hygienists. Said they treated her badly because they felt above her, and even considered themselves on par with the dentist (and would get annoyed if the dentist didn't agree with their take). She said the dentists themselves were much easier to deal with than the hygienists.

[Wormius]

Originally Posted by Sliver

I understand the cost. It's not like it would be a nothing for me, but if I can find a way to do this I would be happy to pay because I think the cost to their life by not doing it will be far more substantial than the cost to my life to do it. You can't save everyone and all that, but in this case it's a person who has been handed every difficult hand a person can be handed and the dental issue is almost the physical/visual representation of a good person getting a raw deal. I would pay to make that go away for them.

You're right about trying to 'trick' them, though. They'll see through it. I'm honestly not sure that - barring them actually asking me for help - there is a way to do this that won't crush them. Maybe I'll have to wait for teeth to start falling out and then offer to assist.

I think maybe just be blunt. Say you had an employee with bad body odour had really foul breath that knocked you off your feet when they talked to you? Surely you could say something in that case for the good of potential clients or other employees?

So instead of going with subtlety, just say it. Or, if he doesn’t have very good breath, despite the appearance, it would be a good ice breaker into the conversation. I can’t really think of anything appropriate to say in that situation, except like, “whoa, your breath, dude”.

It kind of reminds me a little bit about a difficult conversation I recently had with a friend who had been serving some really overcooked bbq. I started it with kind of faux serious, like “we need to talk about something” and then started in with the bbq’ing, and to just trust the thermometer and food safety. I think it was a good convo. He later started confiding in other stuff that he wasn’t sure about because I was honest there.

[Erick Estrada]

I always thought dental hygienist was a terrible job as they do all the grunt work in people's mouths and I can't think of a worse way to spend 5 days a week.

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by Slava

If you have a benefits plan or HSA you could suggest that they use their allotment? (And if you don’t have one and need one, I know a guy who can set that up!). You could do that much more broadly to all staff, which would kind of alleviate approaching this person directly as well.

Hah, thanks Slava. We are on a plan, so that's not the issue. Kind of why I thought sedation may be the way to go; I suspect there's a fear factor at play here.

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by Wormius

I think maybe just be blunt. Say you had an employee with bad body odour had really foul breath that knocked you off your feet when they talked to you? Surely you could say something in that case for the good of potential clients or other employees?

So instead of going with subtlety, just say it. Or, if he doesn’t have very good breath, despite the appearance, it would be a good ice breaker into the conversation. I can’t really think of anything appropriate to say in that situation, except like, “whoa, your breath, dude”.

It kind of reminds me a little bit about a difficult conversation I recently had with a friend who had been serving some really overcooked bbq. I started it with kind of faux serious, like “we need to talk about something” and then started in with the bbq’ing, and to just trust the thermometer and food safety. I think it was a good convo. He later started confiding in other stuff that he wasn’t sure about because I was honest there.

Thanks Wormius, appreciate your perspective.

I think that would work on you or me, but this person is particularly sensitive to the point where I really have to be mindful of things. Think, like, wounded animal.

I was hoping for some magical advice or approach I hadn't thought of, but I'm not seeing anything that will really work in this case. Unfortunately, I think I'll have to wait for things to get worse and then intervene when they're not left with the option of continuing to ignore.

Thanks for considering this with me, guys. Appreciate the insights.

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by Erick Estrada

I always thought dental hygienist was a terrible job as they do all the grunt work in people's mouths and I can't think of a worse way to spend 5 days a week.

Mine is awesome. I get to hear about her daughter's sports accomplishments every time as though I haven't heard the same things over and over for the past decade. It's not annoying at all.

[Matata]

The median income on only fans is $180/month. These girls are giving it all away for fast food money.

[OutOfTheCube]

Originally Posted by MoneyGuy

If you’re ever in Penticton they have the world’s best used-book store. It’s like two bays packed to the ceiling then imagine a warehouse that pretty much doubles the stock.

My dad almost bought a book store in Pentiction way back in the day (not sure if it was this one). When we were little kids, like had a deal ready to go and everything but ended up deciding not to go through with it last minute. Sometimes I wonder how different my life would've been, it's weird how narrow the margins are on your whole life experience.

[GordonBlue]

Originally Posted by Matata

The median income on only fans is $180/month. These girls are giving it all away for fast food money.

you sound like a typical "nice guy"

"look at those girls giving it away for fast food money when they could get with a nice guy like me who would treat them right"

who cares? we don't know each persons motivation for doing only fans.
maybe it's not just for the money for some of them.
besides, any amount of money is better than no money if you really need it.

[btimbit]

Originally Posted by Matata

The median income on only fans is $180/month. These girls are giving it all away for fast food money.

and god bless them

[Sliver]

I'll send anybody dick pics for $180. That's awesome. HMU

[Fuzz]

Originally Posted by Sliver

I'll send anybody dick pics for $180. That's awesome. HMU

You need to sell a lot, it's going to cost more than that for a decent microscope and camera.

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by Fuzz

You need to sell a lot, it's going to cost more than that for a decent microscope and camera.

True, my business plan will definitely have to be based on quantity over quality.

[Wormius]

My hygienist is very well-traveled and interesting to talk to. She’d be cool to hang out with, but that would be so super weird.