Hitting on Women Thread v2.0

[Lombogirl]

Originally Posted by Table 5

why would you want to stick around and interact with someone who thinks that you are obviously not good enough for them in the first place? My thinking is that if I'm not good enough for you, then it's not worth any effort anyway.

Who said he wasn't good enough? Just because she wants to be friends and not something more doesn't necessarily imply that she thinks he's worthless. Maybe she likes to be friends first and let things go from there, as many women do. Why do some guys take such issue with this?

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Lombogirl

Who said he wasn't good enough? Just because she wants to be friends and not something more doesn't necessarily imply that she thinks he's worthless. Maybe she likes to be friends first and let things go from there, as many women do. Why do some guys take such issue with this?

Because most women don't understand that being friends with a guy makes them "one of the guys" and they will be treated as such.

EDIT: And this falls strictly under the ladder theory.

[J pold]

Originally Posted by Lombogirl

Who said he wasn't good enough? Just because she wants to be friends and not something more doesn't necessarily imply that she thinks he's worthless. Maybe she likes to be friends first and let things go from there, as many women do. Why do some guys take such issue with this?

I agree personally I see the “lets be friends” deal as a challenge most women want you do demonstrate some short of value to them before they will “go out sometime” if a women says no I am not interested well than fine move on, but to me “lets be friends” is more like “show me your worth my time” its up to you to show her you are

[Mr.Coffee]

Originally Posted by rubecube

Well, to be fair, it's pretty presumptuous of the girl to think the guy automatically wants to be friends with her right after she shoots him down.

hahha what did you want her to say?

"No I don't feel like going out, and I don't want to jump to conclusions and assume you want to be my friend so I will now turn the floor over to you to allow you the opportunity to make the epic decision of whether or not we should be friends."

It's just a statement and shouldn't necessarily be taken so literally.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Mr.Coffee

It's just a statement and shouldn't necessarily be taken so literally.

Maybe it's just me but I don't really require a freindship out of pity after being shot down. I'd rather someone tell me I look like a troll because at least I'd know they're not patronizing me.

[Mr.Coffee]

Originally Posted by rubecube

Maybe it's just me but I don't really require a freindship out of pity after being shot down. I'd rather someone tell me I look like a troll because at least I'd know they're not patronizing me.

I know exactly what your saying, but I don't think that's how its implied at all. I think its more of an immediate statement. Something thats said as an instant reply. Although it is pretty hilarious that that guy would say that.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Mr.Coffee

I know exactly what your saying, but I don't think that's how its implied at all. I think its more of an immediate statement. Something thats said as an instant reply. Although it is pretty hilarious that that guy would say that.

Fair enough. I think women try to spare our feelings too much when the simple truth is what we want. God bless 'em.

[Maritime Q-Scout]

Originally Posted by rubecube

Fair enough. I think women try to spare our feelings too much when the simple truth is what we want. God bless 'em.

Quoted for Truth... my God, seriously men want the truth, we want to know what the facts are, we want to know the score. If watching a hockey game and we want to know the score, we expect the answer to come back "X" to "Y" for "winning team" with the higher score being "X".

If we ask a girl out, and she doesn't want to date us, say so, and a reason would be nice, but don't try and cover things up as we'll still think there might be interest there as well... you didn't tell us otherwise.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Maritime Q-Scout

If we ask a girl out, and she doesn't want to date us, say so, and a reason would be nice, but don't try and cover things up as we'll still think there might be interest there as well... you didn't tell us otherwise.

That and if you know we're interested and you're not, tell us before we get carried away with ourselves. We're very simple beings.

[Eastern Girl]

Originally Posted by Maritime Q-Scout

Quoted for Truth... my God, seriously men want the truth, we want to know what the facts are, we want to know the score. If watching a hockey game and we want to know the score, we expect the answer to come back "X" to "Y" for "winning team" with the higher score being "X".

If we ask a girl out, and she doesn't want to date us, say so, and a reason would be nice, but don't try and cover things up as we'll still think there might be interest there as well... you didn't tell us otherwise.

Guys are guilty of this stuff too. Lots of guys do that "I'll call you" line, instead of just saying it's not going to happen. That's, I guess, the equivalent of the "Let's be friends" line that girls use. I would definitely prefer they just be honest and let me know what's going on, instead of making me think he's interested when he really isn't.

[Mango]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

Guys are guilty of this stuff too. Lots of guys do that "I'll call you" line, instead of just saying it's not going to happen.

Quoted for truth

I think you're right with this one. I'm sure it goes both ways and we are guilty of it too, but I'll be the first to admit I've been on both sides of the equation. Isn't dating fun?

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

Guys are guilty of this stuff too. Lots of guys do that "I'll call you" line, instead of just saying it's not going to happen. That's, I guess, the equivalent of the "Let's be friends" line that girls use. I would definitely prefer they just be honest and let me know what's going on, instead of making me think he's interested when he really isn't.

I thought you were only supposed to use the "I'll call you line" after you've slept with them.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Mango

Quoted for truth

I think you're right with this one. I'm sure it goes both ways and we are guilty of it too, but I'll be the first to admit I've been on both sides of the equation. Isn't dating fun?

Not to mention you get the women who you tell "it's not going to happen" and then they want to be friends, so then you have to use the "I'll call you" line.

[J pold]

Originally Posted by rubecube

Maybe it's just me but I don't really require a freindship out of pity after being shot down. I'd rather someone tell me I look like a troll because at least I'd know they're not patronizing me.

Give yourself more credit man you seemed to be so concerned about the way a girl lets you down, when what really matters is how you are going to get the next one its like snowboarding none cares if you wipe out but you, and its easy to get back and move right along

[Wookie]

nm

[*Nina-]

This whole thread is funny

[J pold]

Originally Posted by *Nina-

This whole thread is funny

It is true but isn’t funny the lengths will we go to when we are attracted to someone?

[*Nina-]

Originally Posted by J pold

It is true but isn’t funny the lengths will we go to when we are attracted to someone?

its funny,I love it though!

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by J pold

Give yourself more credit man you seemed to be so concerned about the way a girl lets you down, when what really matters is how you are going to get the next one its like snowboarding none cares if you wipe out but you, and its easy to get back and move right along

LOL. I see it as more like a job interview, I don't really care if I didn't get the job but I'd like to know why.

EDIT: Or just a flat out "We won't hire you" instead of "Well why don't you try dropping off your resume again in a couple of months."

[Wookie]

So...

Tonight I get the phone number.

She mentions she still has a boyfriend, I mention I'm not here to break it up, but...

And she gives me her number..

I'm hammered, cant talk more, must sleep, using one eye to type//