Hitting on Women Thread v2.0

[OilersBaby]

Well...men seem to want a certain kind of girl for fun......and then the woman they bring home to momma is a totally different type of girl.

[Reaper]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

And men aren't hypocrites? Men tend to say they want some down to earth nice, fun girl to be with but then they look right past those girls to the barely dressed, plastic looking barbie type girls that live in tanning salons or nail salons or any other kind of salon you can think of.... There are hypocrites on both sides of the fence.

I'll sum it up for you all nice and tidy-like. Here's what men want in a woman:

Men want a woman who is a whore in the bedroom and June Cleaver the second she steps out of it.

That is all.

[Slava]

^^I was going to post the exact same thing!

I think that women do like men who treat them badly (in general, so don't string me up for this comment!). I think that it has something to do with Oprah and them thinking that they can change his ways...

[Eastern Girl]

Originally Posted by Reaper

I'll sum it up for you all nice and tidy-like. Here's what men want in a woman:

Men want a woman who is a whore in the bedroom and June Cleaver the second she steps out of it.

That is all.

Yeah, I have heard that before. But who is to say the nice girl isn't a whore in the bedroom? Apparently, you can only be that way if you look that way and that's why all the barely dressed girls in the bars get the guys. Without saying too much about me, I am not exactly a prude in the ole Boudoir, but I don't dress provocatively at all. And typically, I get pushed to the side as guys run to the ladies who have put themselves on display.

And Slava, yeah, there are some girls that want a guy to be somewhat of a jackass, but I think those are probably the younger, inexperienced girls. They probably think that him being a jackass is just how men are or perhaps what they deserve. I think most older more experienced women have learned not to tolerate that and it has nothing to do with Oprah. Trust me, if a guy treats me like crap, he's going to hear about it ... as I am kicking him out the door.

[Slava]

Hey Eastern Girl, I don't disagree with what you're saying. I think that men act like jerks when we're young to get women (and it does work better IMHO). Then women get tired of that schtick and we slowly try to grow-up and behave properly (or at least not as poorly!).

[J pold]

Originally Posted by Mango

You don't know me, so don't speak on my behalf or on behalf of other women. You have no idea what I want or don't want. I don't cateogrize men as all being alike. Consider doing the same for women.

Fair enough unfair statement and categorizing people is not cool, my apologizes if I offended

[Mango]

Originally Posted by J pold

Fair enough unfair statement and categorizing people is not cool, my apologizes if I offended

Accepted. Thank you.

[J pold]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

And men aren't hypocrites? Men tend to say they want some down to earth nice, fun girl to be with but then they look right past those girls to the barely dressed, plastic looking barbie type girls that live in tanning salons or nail salons or any other kind of salon you can think of.... There are hypocrites on both sides of the fence.

Oh I completely agree guys are just as bad

[J pold]

Originally Posted by FireFly

That's the problem though, J pold. You're asking girls your own age. How many 20 year old girls want a long term, stable relationship? Are they looking for a fling? Do they even know? At 20, I had no idea what the heck I wanted. Be patient. There are 20 year olds that are looking for stability, but you may not find someone until you (and they) are 25 when they're more stable themselves. Perhaps try looking at older ladies that know what they want.

And I'm NOT a Mrs. That's Ms. to you!

Lets not forget here I am 20 as well, I don’t want any sort of serious relationship hell like you said I don’t even know what I want…well that’s not true I like action just as much as the next guy but I don’t want some 25 year old taking to be about her RSVPs and feelings and stuff come on!!

[icarus]

Originally Posted by J pold

I have played the nice guy card for far too long and it’s got me no where

Well if you are just playing a card then no wonder you're not having success.

[FireFly]

Originally Posted by J pold

Lets not forget here I am 20 as well, I don’t want any sort of serious relationship hell like you said I don’t even know what I want…well that’s not true I like action just as much as the next guy but I don’t want some 25 year old taking to be about her RSVPs and feelings and stuff come on!!

Well if all you want is poon, what difference does it make if she's nice or not, or you're nice or not? Sheesh.

[peter12]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

And men aren't hypocrites? Men tend to say they want some down to earth nice, fun girl to be with but then they look right past those girls to the barely dressed, plastic looking barbie type girls that live in tanning salons or nail salons or any other kind of salon you can think of.... There are hypocrites on both sides of the fence.

Are you serious? At this point, I would kill to find a down to earth girl. I've dated the opposite type enough to know that they are terrible people. Down to earth/nice/normal girls are clearly the best, they are just impossible to find.

[Eastern Girl]

Originally Posted by peter12

Are you serious? At this point, I would kill to find a down to earth girl. I've dated the opposite type enough to know that they are terrible people. Down to earth/nice/normal girls are clearly the best, they are just impossible to find.

Oh, I am very serious. I am a nice normal girl and I have been single for a very long time. We are out there, guys just are too distracted by the 'opposite type girl' that you mentioned to see us.

[SpitFire40]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

Oh, I am very serious. I am a nice normal girl and I have been single for a very long time. We are out there, guys just are too distracted by the 'opposite type girl' that you mentioned to see us.

*Moves to Ottawa*

I think this city is just horrible when it comes to girls (Not speaking about Mango or Firefly) but when I've travelled to other places they just seem nicer, easier to get along with and talk too.

90% of the female population in this city ages 18-25 are so caught up in going to bars, nightclubs and think they're all princesses and that their night in shining armor will come a knockin' any given night.

[peter12]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

Oh, I am very serious. I am a nice normal girl and I have been single for a very long time. We are out there, guys just are too distracted by the 'opposite type girl' that you mentioned to see us.

Yeah, I see your point. Even in my own personal life... I am a decent, good guy who personality-wise totally lines up with the nice girl. Maybe it's biological or something to do with human evolution, but that 'opposite-type' girl can be distracting, but always unfufilling in the end.

I really wish you luck, there are tons of good guys out there. Of course you know that if you keep at it, you will wind up much happier than those other girls who are really into it for the short-term.

[Dion]

Originally Posted by SpitFire40

90% of the female population in this city ages 18-25 are so caught up in going to bars, nightclubs and think they're all princesses and that their night in shining armor will come a knockin' any given night.

Then you're looking in the wrong places. Forget the girls associated with the bar/club scene.

Go and sign up for some night courses. You might be surprised what you'll find there.

Join a club.

Go out and volunteer for an organisation.

They're out there if your willing to look.

[kipperfan]

Originally Posted by SpitFire40

*Moves to Ottawa*

I think this city is just horrible when it comes to girls (Not speaking about Mango or Firefly) but when I've travelled to other places they just seem nicer, easier to get along with and talk too.

90% of the female population in this city ages 18-25 are so caught up in going to bars, nightclubs and think they're all princesses and that their night in shining armor will come a knockin' any given night.

Everything is relative. Since I have moved out here to Ontario I have longed for Alberta girls again...SOOOO much more easy going and normal....I guess it just depends what your used to....and I think we all take things for granted.

[Mango]

Originally Posted by Dion

Then you're looking in the wrong places. Forget the girls associated with the bar/club scene.

Go and sign up for some night courses. You might be surprised what you'll find there.

Join a club.

Go out and volunteer for an organization.

They're out there if your willing to look.

Very true. No matter male or female, there are some great places to meet people. It's especially great to meet someone who is participating/interested in something you are. For example, I met a lot of great people through playing organized soccer, attending photography workshops, and even university. The nice thing is you get to see a person in their true form. It's not the facade of a bar. Best of all, you'll find you have things in common and it'll make conversation much easier.

[Dion]

Originally Posted by Mango

Very true. No matter male or female, there are some great places to meet people. It's especially great to meet someone who is participating/interested in something you are. For example, I met a lot of great people through playing organized soccer, attending photography workshops, and even university. The nice thing is you get to see a person in their true form. It's not the facade of a bar. Best of all, you'll find you have things in common and it'll make conversation much easier.

Glad to see someone else knows what i'm talking about.

When I was in that 18-25 age bracket I learned quickly that meeting someone from a bar /club was not the person I was interested in. Too many of the gals were not sincere or real. Then I branched out into other areas and found as you mentioned that people are genuine. Not only do they have the same interests but you don't have to deal with someone hitting on you all the time. And I agree a common interest helps to break the ice and makes conversation sooooo much easier. I also developed some great friendships that way too.

[Flames_Gimp]

Originally Posted by J pold

girls want the *******, the dick, the one that is going to treat them bad its just a fact of nature, if you are the “nice guy” it gets a lot of friend who are girls but no girlfriends

i dunno if they want an ahole...but i know what they dont want..and thats a dude in a chair!