Dating a friends ex.

[Jason14h]

The more I think about you're kind of a crappy friend!

Buddy has children with ex : Check
Friends for long time: Check
Banged buddies ex wife already: Check
Asking internet if it's ok to date her: Check
Bad mouthing him on internet : Check

EDIT: I see hooked-up didn't mean sex, so retract that one!

[polak]

Originally Posted by peter12

Haha, 65 people viewing this thread. People don't want to talk about the Middle East, they want to read about people's sex lives!

Honestly, with everything you have said so far, you are probably taking considerable risks in moving forward with this.

This is a nice break from the super serious, heated discussions going on elsewhere.

[undercoverbrother]

Originally Posted by Jason14h

The more I think about you're kind of a crappy friend!

Buddy has children with ex : Check
Friends for long time: Check
Banged buddies ex wife already: Check
Asking internet if it's ok to date her: Check
Bad mouthing him on internet : Check

EDIT: I see hooked-up didn't mean sex, so retract that one!

If you hadn't cheated on her Jason14h we wouldn't be at this point.

[northcrunk]

Originally Posted by peter12

Haha, 65 people viewing this thread. People don't want to talk about the Middle East, they want to read about people's sex lives!

Honestly, with everything you have said so far, you are probably taking considerable risks in moving forward with this.

People must be getting sick of the endless lecturing in there.

[CalgaryFan1988]

Originally Posted by Jason14h

The more I think about you're kind of a crappy friend!

Buddy has children with ex : Check
Friends for long time: Check
Banged buddies ex wife already: Check
Asking internet if it's ok to date her: Check
Bad mouthing him on internet : Check

EDIT: I see hooked-up didn't mean sex, so retract that one!

If I was a crappy friend, I don't think I would have made the OP to begin with.

[CalgaryFan1988]

Does anyone know anybody who successfully dated a friends ex wife?

I don't and that's why I have so many reservations.

[username]

I would never do that to someone I've been friends with for 30 years no matter how he treated the girl. There are billions of women in this world, many of whom are probably much better for you than you friend's ex wife. My advice, date one of them.

Am I the only one that thinks you even considering dating her is "scummy"?

[jeffporfirio]

I'd say stay away, more-so if there are children involved.
Who needs the drama, late night calls, death threats, restraining orders....

[Jason14h]

If I was a crappy friend, I don't think I would have made the OP to begin with.

You already admitted partially was looking for validation! Let's be honest if everyone here said don't you still would!

Personally I don't really think it's a bad or good thing either way! Make yourself happy.

But realistically there's a very slim chance you can keep him as a friend and be with her

And choosing a buddies Ex over him would make you a bad friend! Not a bad person, just a bad friend!

[CalgaryFan1988]

Originally Posted by username

I would never do that to someone I've been friends with for 30 years no matter how he treated the girl. There are billions of women in this world, many of whom are probably much better for you than you friend's ex wife. My advice, date one of them.

Am I the only one that thinks you even considering dating her is "scummy"?

I think it's scummy myself, which is why I'm on here seeking validation.

If I thought it was all class, do you think I would be here?


I know it's not ideal, I didn't go out and look for it.

[peter12]

Where 50+ divorcees are caught in unspeakable situations!

[undercoverbrother]

So they got divorced in 2010.


He walked away from her.


What is the statue of limitations on when you can date a friend's ex?

[Weitz]

You won't be friends anymore. Its as simple as that.

I have a friend that started dating my ex, were cordial if we see each other, but were no longer friends.

Same with any of my friends in the same situation.

[troutman]

Is your friend named Jesse?

[GoinAllTheWay]

I've done it. Not sure if we were the exception to the rule but it worked out just fine. I, of course, observed the bro code and asked him first if he was cool with it. He said it was totally fine. Maybe a bit awkward the first time he saw us together but it didn't last long.

[username]

Originally Posted by CalgaryFan1988

I think it's scummy myself, which is why I'm on here seeking validation.

If I thought it was all class, do you think I would be here?


I know it's not ideal, I didn't go out and look for it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uIDKHVumBCU

Dj Jazzy Jeff and The Fresh Prince said it best.

[polak]

Originally Posted by undercoverbrother

So they got divorced in 2010.


He walked away from her.


What is the statue of limitations on when you can date a friend's ex?

Never.

A friends ex if off limits if you want to remain friends.

[CalgaryFan1988]

Originally Posted by undercoverbrother

So they got divorced in 2010.


He walked away from her.


What is the statue of limitations on when you can date a friend's ex?

That's what I'd like to know. You'd think 5 years would be enough?

Especially when he bad mouthed her for the last 8 or 9.

[CaptainCrunch]

So here's where it gets interesting.

You've been friends for 30 years?

They got divorced in 2010 so you were friends throughout this marriage. Were you invited to their house, hung out with them as a couple?

She expressed interest in dating you? A friend to her ex cheating husband of 30 years.

One of three thoughts rips through my tiny pea brain because this is the internet.

1) He's going to make the logical jump to believe that you were mowing his lawn during their marriage.

2) She's going to date you to get back at him by crushing the friendship.

3) He's going to go ballistic when you basically become his kids father figure if that happens.

Unless she's Angelina Jolie hot, this thing is not going to be worth the price you pay, and the angst it causes on all 5 of you in this twisted little love Pentagram.

Dude there are enough girls out there without having to buy massive trouble, unless you're willing to throw a lot of things away and cause a lot of pain for your friend and possibly yourself.

[IliketoPuck]

Originally Posted by CalgaryFan1988

More or less, lol

But something about her feels so right.

Go on....