11-25-2015, 03:02 PM
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Dating a friends ex.
Curious of people's opinion on dating a friend's ex/ ex-wife.
Friend of mine was married for a few years to a girl. My wife passed away last year and she expressed interest in dating me. They have a couple kids, he is not really in the picture, hardly ever around.
Anyone ever done it? Thoughts?
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11-25-2015, 03:06 PM
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#2
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Have you talked to your friend about it? That's probably the best thing to do, be open and honest with him. If he doesn't like the idea, take that into consideration.
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11-25-2015, 03:06 PM
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#3
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Depends if you're a ####ty friend or not!
How long ago did they break up?
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11-25-2015, 03:07 PM
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#4
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Powerplay Quarterback
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Hit it, quit it, keep it on the D-L.
Done.
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11-25-2015, 03:08 PM
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In the Sin Bin
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Bad ####ing idea.
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11-25-2015, 03:09 PM
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#6
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They got divorced in 2010.
He was not a good husband, cheated a lot and stuff and he ended it.
I personally wouldn't care if the situation was reversed.
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11-25-2015, 03:10 PM
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#7
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Muta
Have you talked to your friend about it? That's probably the best thing to do, be open and honest with him. If he doesn't like the idea, take that into consideration.
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I'd definitely talk to See if he's ok with the idea. I wouldn't let him decide, but ultimately he has to be talked to first, one way or the other.
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11-25-2015, 03:11 PM
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In the Sin Bin
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Are you still friends?
Think about that if you are. That means you'll bringing them around each other. That has bad news written on two fronts:
A) They could rekindle their past feelings or at best, you'll probably never trust her around him.
B) AWKWARD.
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11-25-2015, 03:13 PM
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#1 Goaltender
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Don't do it if you are still friends. There are plenty of women out there that you don't need the drama or BS. If your not friends any more and think he is a dick then go for it.
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11-25-2015, 03:14 PM
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Depends on how close of friends you are I guess. I mean best buds, see each other weekly, play hockey etc I could see it being a real bad idea. But if it is just a dude you see occasionally in a group of friends I don't think it would be that big of a deal.
Sometimes you have to look out for number 1.
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11-25-2015, 03:14 PM
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Lifetime In Suspension
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I'm assuming you're not children but you're fully functional adults, right? Shouldn't be a problem and I think polak's worries apply more to kids in their early 20s who don't know how to adult properly.
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11-25-2015, 03:15 PM
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#12
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Quote:
Originally Posted by polak
Are you still friends?
Think about that if you are. That means you'll bringing them around each other. That has bad news written on two fronts:
A) They could rekindle their past feelings or at best, you'll probably never trust her around him.
B) AWKWARD.
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It would definitely be awkward, I could also see trust being an issue. If she wasn't such a nice person I wouldn't even consider it. She just knows what i've been through and I know what she's been through so I thought what the hell.
Maybe it's a terrible idea, which sort of intrigues me more....
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11-25-2015, 03:15 PM
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#13
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Talk to your friend. Regardless of his feelings, do what you want. But you're probably going to lose your friend over it either way.
My advice would be no, especially with kids involved. Unless you are really serious about being with her long-term, it's a bad idea.
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11-25-2015, 03:15 PM
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#14
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Slippery slope. Even if your friend says he's okay with it he's probably not 100% okay with it. The kids part makes it muddier. That said it sounds like he's not the greatest guy.
Last edited by Erick Estrada; 11-25-2015 at 03:17 PM.
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11-25-2015, 03:15 PM
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#15
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In the Sin Bin
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Yeah, as long as you understand that no matter what he says, you probably won't be friends with him if it works out.
It's his ex-wife you're talking about here. Not some chick he dated for a few months.
Quote:
Originally Posted by ResAlien
I'm assuming you're not children but you're fully functional adults, right? Shouldn't be a problem and I think polak's worries apply more to kids in their early 20s who don't know how to adult properly.
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Where exactly am I wrong? Sorry I guess when you turn 30 you reach some level of enlightenment that makes your buddy dating your ex-wife that you have kids with all good.
Last edited by polak; 11-25-2015 at 03:17 PM.
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11-25-2015, 03:15 PM
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#16
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Are we talking dating or hooking up?
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11-25-2015, 03:16 PM
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#17
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Do you like her more then your friend. Realistically the odds you remain friends are very low.
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11-25-2015, 03:16 PM
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#18
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Quote:
Originally Posted by CalgaryFan1988
They got divorced in 2010.
He was not a good husband, cheated a lot and stuff and he ended it.
I personally wouldn't care if the situation was reversed.
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Should be good to go if that's what happened.
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11-25-2015, 03:17 PM
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#19
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And to be honest it sounds like you've made up your mind already and are looking for internet validation cause you know it's kind of scummy!
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11-25-2015, 03:17 PM
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Sounds like he would absolutely date your exes, without asking.
- Barney Rubble: [on TV] Hey there, Lane. I know this is a little awkward me being a cartoon and all, I was just wondering how you'd feel if I took out Beth? [laughs]
https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Better...ead_%28film%29
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