Manners/Social Conventions You Don't Follow

[Flames89]

I tip for delivery and even modestly for pick up, I open doors for people and hold them open if following, I like the etiquette of eating at a table with napkins where they should be, I am fine with sharing appetizers and food in restaurants, and I love Christmas.

So basically, it stands to reason that you guys are all cynical, unloved barbarians who hate the human race.

[#-3]

I hate when people put dirty utensils on the table or counter transferring whatever sauce is on there meal all over the place, so I lick my utensils all of them.

Some have told me its gross, but I think them leaving their food residue all over the damn place is gross.

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by Flames89

I tip for delivery and even modestly for pick up, I open doors for people and hold them open if following, I like the etiquette of eating at a table with napkins where they should be, I am fine with sharing appetizers and food in restaurants, and I love Christmas.

So basically, it stands to reason that you guys are all cynical, unloved barbarians who hate the human race.

Why should they be in your lap?

[llwhiteoutll]

Some of these are actual social conventions people don't follow, but a bunch are just general ######ry and anti-social behavior.

On that note, I really don't like celebrating my birthday either.

[corporatejay]

Originally Posted by Sliver

Why should they be in your lap?

1. Saves table space.

2. I don't want to see your disgusting rag while I'm trying to eat my food.

[Flames89]

Originally Posted by Sliver

Why should they be in your lap?

Why use cutlery at all?

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by Flames89

Why use cutlery at all?

Hey I use cutlery but I'm not about to put a greasy fork on my pants.

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by corporatejay

1. Saves table space.

2. I don't want to see your disgusting rag while I'm trying to eat my food.

1. If the table was small I'd acquiesce because then it's practical to do.

2. What's gross about using a napkin for what a napkin is intended to be used for?

[Weitz]

I don't tip unless they are a Waitress/Waiter.

I don't tip: Bar staff, delivery drivers, baristas, anyone else. And most importantly, I don't tip the beer tub girls at stampede.

[CliffFletcher]

If my shoes are clean, I ask if it's okay that I keep them on when I enter someone's house. It started when I had plantar fasciitis, and it was extremely painful to stand in stocking feet for more than a minute or two. Then I just said screw it, the whole taboo around shoes off in parts of North America is just dumb. I think it comes from our rural past, when most roads weren't paved and people walked around muddy farms all day. That, and the popularity of shag carpet in the late 20th century. Because if you've been walking on dry ground, and the house has hardwood floors, there's absolute no need to take off your shoes. In fact, in parts of North America and Europe it's considered disgusting to talk around in stocking feet. The first time I took off my shoes at the door in Scotland my hosts were baffled - they had never seen such a thing and wondered what I was doing.

I've noticed more friends and acquaintances getting onboard with this, so there are lot of places I go now where I can just keep my shoes on without saying anything. Hopefully this anachronistic social taboo around shoes will die out.

[Russic]

These types of threads are always real eye-openers. I always wonder "what kind of animal doesn't <insert regular behaviour>?", and then you come in here and you get to meet them.

The only time I can imagine somebody willingly not flushing a toilet they just used is if they had some form of mental issue. For everyone else, I don't understand why you can't use your boot or use toilet paper as a barrier.

[codynw]

If you don't flush toilets after you use them, you deserve to be fired into the sun.

[polak]

I thought my masturbating at my desk joke was funny until I read some of the things you guys actually do!! Not flush toilets? What the #### is wrong with you? So what if other people touch it. Do you flush and then automatically proceed to fingerbang your mouth you filthy ####!? Flush, wash your hands, use a paper towel to open the door and then proceed to tongue bath your cuticles. Jesus.

Stealing money from your friends is also a huge d-bag move. I hope your friends catch you one day.

Originally Posted by Weitz

I don't tip unless they are a Waitress/Waiter.

I don't tip: Bar staff, delivery drivers, baristas, anyone else. And most importantly, I don't tip the beer tub girls at stampede.

Just speaking for Pizza delivery guys as I used to do it when I was in school. Most places don't pay hourly wages to their drivers. They get a couple bucks per delivery. If you don't tip, they're basically delivering it to you for free once gas is taken into account.

Probably won't make a difference to you but just letting you know the reality of the industry.

Originally Posted by CliffFletcher

I've noticed more friends and acquaintances getting onboard with this, so there are lot of places I go now where I can just keep my shoes on without saying anything. Hopefully this anachronistic social taboo around shoes will die out.

Lies. I know for a fact that even if you think your shoes are clean, they aren't. How? Because my mom would beat me senseless if I walked all over her hardwood with dirty shoes. I'd use the same argument as you, "I'm not walking around in dirt all day, I'm on the sidewalk" and then she would take me to the hallway, make me crouch down and look at the floor on an angle and low and behold, foot prints all over the floor. Your shoes are dirtier than you think.

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by CliffFletcher

If my shoes are clean, I ask if it's okay that I keep them on when I enter someone's house. It started when I had plantar fasciitis, and it was extremely painful to stand in stocking feet for more than a minute or two. Then I just said screw it, the whole taboo around shoes off in parts of North America is just dumb. I think it comes from our rural past, when most roads weren't paved and people walked around muddy farms all day. That, and the popularity of shag carpet in the late 20th century. Because if you've been walking on dry ground, and the house has hardwood floors, there's absolute no need to take off your shoes. In fact, in parts of North America and Europe it's considered disgusting to talk around in stocking feet. The first time I took off my shoes at the door in Scotland my hosts were baffled - they had never seen such a thing and wondered what I was doing.

I've noticed more friends and acquaintances getting onboard with this, so there are lot of places I go now where I can just keep my shoes on without saying anything. Hopefully this anachronistic social taboo around shoes will die out.

OMG I'd go ballistic if you tried to walk around on my hardwood in your shoes like some sort of caveman. Little rocks get embedded in the soles of your shoes and you want to shuffle around my place marking up my floor?

I think a more polite thing to do would be to bring around indoor shoes to help with your plantar fasciitis. You put people in an awkward position if you ask them if you can leave your shoes on. A lot of people will say yes even if they are uncomfortable with it. If they leave their shoes on, then it would be okay to ask if you can, too. If they take their shoes off, you definitely shouldn't be walking around with your outdoor shoes inside.

[MrMastodonFarm]

Originally Posted by Weitz

I don't tip unless they are a Waitress/Waiter.

I don't tip: Bar staff, delivery drivers, baristas, anyone else. And most importantly, I don't tip the beer tub girls at stampede.

Why do you draw a line between wait staff and the rest?

[codynw]

Originally Posted by polak

I thought my masturbating at my desk joke was funny until I read some of the things you guys actually do!!

Yea.. "joke". I'm sure.

[DFO]

Originally Posted by Russic

These types of threads are always real eye-openers. I always wonder "what kind of animal doesn't <insert regular behaviour>?", and then you come in here and you get to meet them.

The only time I can imagine somebody willingly not flushing a toilet they just used is if they had some form of mental issue. For everyone else, I don't understand why you can't use your boot or use toilet paper as a barrier.

Or just wash your hands when finished?

[CliffFletcher]

The shoes thing is very much regional. I'd wager houses in the areas of North America and Western Europe where it's not conventional to take of your shoes aren't any dirtier than houses in areas where you do. Then there's the sweaty stocking feet issue. We think it's perfectly normal, but in other parts of the world it's considered disgusting to let someone's stocking feet touch your floor. And of course, some people wear shoes and sandals without socks. You'd really prefer someone walking around your house in bare feet?

Here's an article in the UK expressing anxiety about the growing trend there for removing shoes, which many regard as a rude imposition on guests: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/ar...sary-naff.html

And another article for expats trying to understand the social norms around shoes and how they vary by country: http://expatsincebirth.com/2013/11/2...-shoes-please/

And an article in the U.S. where removing shoes at the door is described as a practice started in Hawaii that is making its way into the mainland: http://www.staradvertiser.com/news/2...ks_others.html

[PsYcNeT]

Originally Posted by CliffFletcher

The shoes thing is very much regional. I'd wager houses in the areas of North America and Western Europe where it's not conventional to take of your shoes aren't any dirtier than houses in areas where you do. Then there's the sweaty stocking feet issue. We think it's perfectly normal, but in other parts of the world it's considered disgusting to let someone's stocking feet touch your floor. And of course, some people wear shoes and sandals without socks. You'd really prefer someone walking around your house in bare feet?

I'd be willing to bet most peoples bare feet are less gross than their hands, and I don't make people wear gloves when they are in my house.

[polak]

I'd wager it's cause North America and most of Europe have winter.