Thanks for all the advice guys. Finished the meeting and this is the result.
Standard was Cat5, I upgraded it to Cat 6, this cost $550 for the whole house. (5 Bedrooms, 2 Great rooms, Basement Rec room, Kitchen)
Took the advice and went with the 4 cable bundle in all rooms (2 Coax, 2 Cat6)
Patch panel was included. Sales dude seems surprised I knew what that was.
Had main theater room fully pre-wired for Dolby 7.1 in wall speakers. Parents wanted in ceiling, I convinced them to do in wall, as I plan to buy this house in 10 years and I am more an Audiophile.
2 Conduits on either side of house are included to the 2nd floor attic.
Access panels will be put in basement ceiling for main floor access.
Cat6 ports were put in 8 locations for perimeter security cameras.
And since they insist on having me stay over all the time, I opted to have a Cat6 port wired from the basement Bedroom I will use on occasion, out to the back yard so I can power my Telescope via remote using a cooled CCD camera which I am now forced to buy, since it will be damn cool to do my observing indoors, on a 50 inch HDTV. If I discover an asteroid, I will name it pylonCPwannamaker18995.
Damn I wish I had a techno fortress of my own like this. I can't wait to start blowing copius amounts of their cash on all the hardware to make this thing tick.
Meanwhile at my 865 square foot condo.........I just got a N router!
Thanks for all the help and suggestions guys.