05-30-2014, 11:01 AM
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#241
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Scoring Winger
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: In a van down by the river
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One thing I will say, while it's fairly easy to strike up a conversation with a girl (at least in my case), I remember the challenge was escalating it to the point where I felt I could ask for a number. I was never a fan of being rejected so I'd rather leave and assume I could have rather than confirm I couldn't.
I had no problem flirting with women, but pretty bad at receiving signals.
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05-30-2014, 11:04 AM
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#242
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Franchise Player
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Sylvan Lake
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Originally Posted by fotze
My unscientific observation is that guys who have sisters tend to have an easier time with this.
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Especially if they are from the deep south.
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05-30-2014, 11:04 AM
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#243
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#1 Goaltender
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Calgary
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The trick is to not ask for her number but to tell her to give it to you. Rather than "hey, can I have your number, I'd like to take you out sometime." say something like "give me your number, I'm gonna take you out for a drink".
Last edited by _Q_; 05-30-2014 at 11:07 AM.
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05-30-2014, 11:06 AM
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#244
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Looooooooooooooch
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Originally Posted by TheGrimm
One thing I will say, while it's fairly easy to strike up a conversation with a girl (at least in my case), I remember the challenge was escalating it to the point where I felt I could ask for a number. I was never a fan of being rejected so I'd rather leave and assume I could have rather than confirm I couldn't.
I had no problem flirting with women, but pretty bad at receiving signals.
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05-30-2014, 11:09 AM
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#245
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Franchise Player
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Victoria
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Originally Posted by _Q_
The trick is to not ask for her number but to tell her to give it to you. Rather than "hey, can I have your number, I'd like to take you out sometime." say something like "give me your number, I'm gonna take you out for a drink".
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Yeah, taking the non-consensual approach to human interaction is such an upstanding way to go. You're a real pillar of society.
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05-30-2014, 11:11 AM
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#246
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#1 Goaltender
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Calgary
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Originally Posted by rubecube
Yeah, taking the non-consensual approach to human interaction is such an upstanding way to go. You're a real pillar of society.
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What the hell are you getting at?
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05-30-2014, 11:12 AM
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#247
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Franchise Player
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Originally Posted by GirlySports
yeah but what if you want it to go further, she's going to wonder where you're from, how long are you in town for? Unless you're just talking to her for the train ride only.
How long can you continue this front?
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I'm in town for an interview, been here a few weeks/months and doing contract work. It's nice here, I wouldn't mind staying permanently in this city if they offer me full time.
Issue solved  Maybe... 
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05-30-2014, 11:13 AM
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#248
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Franchise Player
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Somewhere down the crazy river.
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Originally Posted by undercoverbrother
My first time meeting my wife I gave her $0.25 and told her to go buy new jeans (that was back in the day when it was cool to have rips in jeans).
Surprisingly, she said that is what peaked her interest.
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When did jeans cost 25 cents?
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05-30-2014, 11:14 AM
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#249
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Powerplay Quarterback
Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Calgary
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Originally Posted by Wood
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I don't drive a Dodge. But my friend put on her truck "this ain't my boyfriends truck."
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05-30-2014, 11:14 AM
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#250
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Franchise Player
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Vancouver
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Originally Posted by rubecube
Yeah, taking the non-consensual approach to human interaction is such an upstanding way to go. You're a real pillar of society.
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Jesus man give it a rest. She can still say "no thanks" to that and it doesn't have to end in assault. That's a perfectly fine sentence to weave into a converstaion and it doesn't have to be overly agressive. Sample:
"Well I'm new here, don't really know a lot of places"
"Well give me your number and I'll show you a couple of my favorite spots"
Girl can answer however she wants.
As for the earlier comparisons of racism vs sexism is not a good one IMO. The difference between a white man and a black man is the color of their skin (without taking into account any other socioeconomic or psychological differences). The difference between men and women is biological and we do think about things differently and react differently to situations based on those natural differences.
Saying "all women like to talk about themselves" is certainly sexist, but to think that there arent fundamental differences in the ways women view the world and the ways men view the world is incorrect. It's not say one is better than the other. But if people find a way to exploit those differences for selfish reasons, it could be douchbaggery or sociopathy, etc.., but I'm not sure sexist is the right term here.
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05-30-2014, 11:15 AM
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#251
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Franchise Player
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Victoria
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Originally Posted by _Q_
What the hell are you getting at?
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That demanding women give you something instead of asking for it kind of has a rapey vibe to it.
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05-30-2014, 11:16 AM
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#252
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Franchise Player
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Victoria
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Originally Posted by MattyC
Jesus man give it a rest. She can still say "no thanks" to that and it doesn't have to end in assault. That's a perfectly fine sentence to weave into a converstaion and it doesn't have to be overly agressive. Sample:
"Well I'm new here, don't really know a lot of places"
"Well give me your number and I'll show you a couple of my favorite spots"
Girl can answer however she wants.
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Again, if that's what he meant then fine. The way he phrased it sounded a lot more like a demand than a request.
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05-30-2014, 11:18 AM
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#253
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#1 Goaltender
Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: An all-inclusive.
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Originally Posted by Wormius
When did jeans cost 25 cents?
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Nineteen-aught-six
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05-30-2014, 11:18 AM
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#254
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#1 Goaltender
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Calgary
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Quote:
Originally Posted by rubecube
That demanding women give you something instead of asking for it kind of has a rapey vibe to it.
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No it's not. They have the choice to say no.
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05-30-2014, 11:19 AM
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#255
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Lifetime Suspension
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Originally Posted by _Q_
No it's not. They have the choice to say no.
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It's not rapey, but it is sexually aggressive.
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05-30-2014, 11:20 AM
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#256
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Lifetime In Suspension
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We must be vigilant, it's a slippery slope from "why don't you let me get your number" to "I'M GOING TO NON CONSENSUALLY SHAME SPEAR YOUR FACE HOLE!"
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05-30-2014, 11:21 AM
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#257
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Franchise Player
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Victoria
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Originally Posted by _Q_
No it's not. They have the choice to say no.
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Some of your posts on this site in the past have suggested otherwise.
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05-30-2014, 11:22 AM
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Franchise Player
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Maryland State House, Annapolis
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The first half of this thread is great, the second half should be deleted from existence.
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05-30-2014, 11:24 AM
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#259
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Franchise Player
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Victoria
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Originally Posted by MattyC
As for the earlier comparisons of racism vs sexism is not a good one IMO. The difference between a white man and a black man is the color of their skin (without taking into account any other socioeconomic or psychological differences). The difference between men and women is biological and we do think about things differently and react differently to situations based on those natural differences.
Saying "all women like to talk about themselves" is certainly sexist, but to think that there arent fundamental differences in the ways women view the world and the ways men view the world is incorrect. It's not say one is better than the other. But if people find a way to exploit those differences for selfish reasons, it could be douchbaggery or sociopathy, etc.., but I'm not sure sexist is the right term here.
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Gender binaries aside, what makes you think the way women and men view the world is solely based on biology and not socioeconomic factors?
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05-30-2014, 11:24 AM
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#260
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Franchise Player
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Sylvan Lake
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Quote:
Originally Posted by strombad
It's not rapey, but it is sexually aggressive.
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rutabaga is the safe word
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