Have tried OKCupid, was okay, went on a few dates with a few different girls, nothing clicked, it seemed like you had to put in a huge amount of effort into your profile. Every girl worth talking to says "don't just say hi or how are you, send me a thoughtful message." Maybe I'm just inept, but it's awkward trying to write something to a stranger based on the information they provide, "You're into sailing, that's awesome, I've tried it a few times blah blah blah". Would not use again.
Have since used Tinder, met a few girls, but only needed the app for about 2 weeks before I found someone worth dating. Tinder is basically speed dating with pictures, you don't have to wait a few days to get replies. Am currently about 4 months in with a really cool girl I met on there.
I was on PoF for 5 years, slayed many a dragon in the Red Deer and Calgary realms. I had one long term relationship that almost ended in a marriage, but alas it wasn't meant to be. Last year I went hard-core on the PoF dating scene, I had a good profile (or so I was told on many occasions): lot's of smiling and goofy pics and a questionnaire. It seemed to work well, I was never at a loss for a date. I think honesty is the best when crafting your profile.
The last girl I met on PoF was a perfect match, her and I are planning on getting married...I think PoF will work if you give it time.
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As someone who has done the online dating thing for awhile, there's really one rule of thumb for these things:
Rule #1 - you get what you pay for
Overall site impressions:
OKCupid - want to date a chick with a piercings all over her face, tattoos on her neck and no education past grade 11? Check! These woman are crazy to the 9th degree. These women will tie you up and try and burn your house down if you don't call them back.
POF - This is where 99% of people start because it's free. Any woman with a good job, education and who is decent looking has an inbox overflowing and is just using POF for her ego. This is also where 90% of men post pictures of their truck and pictures of them with their hat on backwards without a shirt on. Good place to pick up some strange.
Match.com - Good place to meet cool 25-30 year olds who have a job and can afford $15 a month to date. Great starter place for dating
eHarmony - Great for mature 28+ year olds who have a job and are wanting to settle down and get serious. Also a great place to browse desperate profiles of woman with uterus' about to dry up throwing out their last hope and prayer for a husband.
Found my fiance on PoF. It really depends what you're looking for and what you're willing to put into it. Have an open mind and go on a number of dates. I went out with quite a few men before I met Andre. Be picky. Don't waste your time (or hers) if you know it won't work out. You're better to cut them loose than risk them going crazy or stalker.
My best friend met her boyfriend on eHarmony. They make better 'matches' for you so you don't have to weed through what you aren't interested in, however, it really is a site for those who are looking for a serious relationship.
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eHarmony has a lot of women anxious to settle down so avoid that site if that's not what you're looking for. As someone with limited dating experience, the few dates I went on were like sensory overload.
Your pictures mean more than what you write so if you're blessed with good looks, you'll get more response. A guy I hung out with for a while put a picture of himself with his shirt off and very little thought into his profile other than "let's party" and was bombarded with messages. Meanwhile, I take the time to create one and thoughtfully respond to women's profiles and never hear anything. It left a bitter taste in my mouth and I let my eHarmony account expire.
I've only briefly investigated the free sites but I like ones like OKCupid where they indicate how frequently a woman responds. I don't want to spend half an hour crafting a message to send to someone who replies "very selectively".
I haven't had much success but clearly it's becoming more and more common to hear of people finding a longtime partner online.
Don't waste your time with crafting custom messages that are unique to each girl you send it to, it really isn't necessary. All you need to do is send a message that looks unique, which is pretty easy at POF since most female profiles are the same generic blurb anyway. "Love to laugh, love to hang out with my friends and family, like to get dressed up but am just as happy staying in and watching a movie in sweats, blah, blah, blah..."
I was on POF for about 6 months and met my current GF of 2 years on there. Before I met her, I went out with half a dozen or so women and had varying success. At the time, I was in my early-20's and I found that 9 out of 10 profiles that I was looking at in that age range said that they loved to travel, so I would send this exact message:
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Since you love to travel, what's your favourite vacation spot? Mine's Bermuda. The weather is great, the people are friendly, and there's that added thrill that your ship or plane could mysteriously disappear on the way there :P
I'd send about 20 of those in half an hour and often would get a great response rate. Before I started doing that though, I used your approach and got no where. Message a lot of girls, have good pictures (if you are in decent shape and don't have bad skin every guy is capable of this), and don't be shorter than 5'6" and you will do just fine.
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I'm writing this with very high hopes that my older brothers, who are on here, don't read this haha:
I'll throw in another vote for Tinder, though I think it really depends on your age, and probably depends what you're looking for too. I am loving Tinder as a 26 year old female who is not looking for anything serious, and am finding tons of guys, where as my 35 year old friend who wants a relationship hates it 'cause there are no guys her age on there. It really is totally shallow though, and based nearly entirely on looks, which is why I say it really depends what you're looking for. If you're not looking for anything serious, then you're set. Relationships, you're probably not going to have as much luck. Though the fact that I'm a woman likely has a huge effect on my perspective of that... I'd imagine there are more girls looking for relationships on there than there are guys, as it seems to be everywhere.
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I didn't even know what Tinder was until the Sochi Olympics were on and I read an article about how all the athletes were using it to hook up. I guess they spent more time banging each other than competing in their sport. Apparently record numbers of condoms are passed out during the games. For the NHL players normally they have one in each city but with the Olympics they don't even have to travel to find their selections. I don't think I'll ever see the games in the same way
I spent all of today just reading online profiles. They all sound the same. Nothing differentiates one girl from another.
They are all outgoing, driven, independent, love their job, love to travel and love animals. They all have a pictures of themselves at a restaurant, doing an activity or travelling somewhere in the world.
