For some reason, after 30 years together, Mrs. Cowperson has developed a propensity to snore loudly. This is a recent development in the last year and a half.
If a few pokes in the ribs doesn't settle things down, I'm off to the spare bedroom for the rest of the night.
I used my cellphone recorder to capture her screeching for illustrative purposes. Her sister found the wailing hilarious. To her credit, so did Mrs. Cowperson. Me, not so much.
So, yes, separate bedrooms, a few times a week usually and under duress.
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If a few pokes in the ribs doesn't settle things down, I'm off to the spare bedroom for the rest of the night.
Push her onto her side when she does this. People usually snore when they are on their back. When my wife snores, I try to roll her to her side, and it tends to stop.
I guess I'm a mysoginistic a**hole too. My wife and I have an agreement that up until midnight the kids are my problem and after that they're hers. She's in bed at 9:30 and I'm in bed at midnight.
I also haven't done a load of laundry in the 13 years that we've been married. I honestly wouldn't know how to do it right.
Not that I don't have chores of my own. My wife has never renovated the place. I don't think she's vacuumed the house in 13 years. I make sure the place looks pretty pristine before I go down for the night. I coach the kid's soccer teams, I bring them to their music lessons.
If well defined and agreed upon roles and responsibilities make me a misogynistic a**hole, then so be it. It's worked pretty well for 13 years now.
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When my wife is away or I am away I sleep horrible. I sleep so much better when my wife is in bed. in fact she has wanted a King, but I refuse and we have a Queen. A King makes me feel like I am sleeping alone.
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I guess I'm a mysoginistic a**hole too. My wife and I have an agreement that up until midnight the kids are my problem and after that they're hers. She's in bed at 9:30 and I'm in bed at midnight.
I also haven't done a load of laundry in the 13 years that we've been married. I honestly wouldn't know how to do it right.
Not that I don't have chores of my own. My wife has never renovated the place. I don't think she's vacuumed the house in 13 years. I make sure the place looks pretty pristine before I go down for the night. I coach the kid's soccer teams, I bring them to their music lessons.
If well defined and agreed upon roles and responsibilities make me a misogynistic a**hole, then so be it. It's worked pretty well for 13 years now.
See, I think that should really be your wife's responsibility.....oh wait, you're talking about the house....never mind.
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I guess I'm a mysoginistic a**hole too. My wife and I have an agreement that up until midnight the kids are my problem and after that they're hers. She's in bed at 9:30 and I'm in bed at midnight.
I also haven't done a load of laundry in the 13 years that we've been married. I honestly wouldn't know how to do it right.
Not that I don't have chores of my own. My wife has never renovated the place. I don't think she's vacuumed the house in 13 years. I make sure the place looks pretty pristine before I go down for the night. I coach the kid's soccer teams, I bring them to their music lessons.
If well defined and agreed upon roles and responsibilities make me a misogynistic a**hole, then so be it. It's worked pretty well for 13 years now.
Yeah, I think its kind of stupid and unrealistic to expect everyone to do everything, split in the middle. I don't think there's anything wrong with having defined roles in a relationship if it works for the couple. It's more efficient for me to fix the sink and do things around the house, and it's more efficient for her to make dinner, than if the roles were flipped. Who cares what some non-realistic "modern ideal" says...if it works for you and as long as both contributing, do it.
For some reason, after 30 years together, Mrs. Cowperson has developed a propensity to snore loudly. This is a recent development in the last year and a half.
If a few pokes in the ribs doesn't settle things down, I'm off to the spare bedroom for the rest of the night.
I used my cellphone recorder to capture her screeching for illustrative purposes. Her sister found the wailing hilarious. To her credit, so did Mrs. Cowperson. Me, not so much.
So, yes, separate bedrooms, a few times a week usually and under duress.
Cowperson
Ear plugs.
Nope. Not kidding. Lately that hasnt been working. I may have to take over the oldest's room when she goes back to school.
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For some reason, after 30 years together, Mrs. Cowperson has developed a propensity to snore loudly. This is a recent development in the last year and a half.
If a few pokes in the ribs doesn't settle things down, I'm off to the spare bedroom for the rest of the night.
I used my cellphone recorder to capture her screeching for illustrative purposes. Her sister found the wailing hilarious. To her credit, so did Mrs. Cowperson. Me, not so much.
So, yes, separate bedrooms, a few times a week usually and under duress.
Cowperson
My wife denies that she snores but she does when she is really tired. So one night I called her office voicemail and recorded her snoring sounds for 10 minutes. She wasn't pleased when she got to the office the next morning.
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Lol at all the perfect men in this thread. Yeah, if I'm the one working which will likely be the case then yeah she'd be the one getting up to take care of the crying child. I've got to be up at 5am and attentive at work so I'm not going to get up in the middle of the night. If she's the one that has a great job that makes more money than me then yeah I'd get up but that isn't likely and saying that's sexist is rubbish, it's just reality, and we won't both be working so the one not working will be getting up in the middle of the night.
Push her onto her side when she does this. People usually snore when they are on their back. When my wife snores, I try to roll her to her side, and it tends to stop.
Funny you should say that . . . . . she was screeching happily on her side last night.
This doesn't bother me so much as the other bed is quite comfy and I've discovered I sleep quite well alone.
However, its no help on vacation. Getting a two room condo versus a one room condo in Arizona in November would have been another $1,700. So, I guess I'm going to have to smother her with a pillow eventually. (kidding)
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For some reason, after 30 years together, Mrs. Cowperson has developed a propensity to snore loudly. This is a recent development in the last year and a half.
If a few pokes in the ribs doesn't settle things down, I'm off to the spare bedroom for the rest of the night.
I used my cellphone recorder to capture her screeching for illustrative purposes. Her sister found the wailing hilarious. To her credit, so did Mrs. Cowperson. Me, not so much.
So, yes, separate bedrooms, a few times a week usually and under duress.
In my old house we didn't have a TV in our room so 2-3 times a week I would fall asleep in our guest room watching TV. Usually when tennis majors are on and I tried to stay up. However since we have moved I haven't left our bedroom once to sleep elsewhere and it has been 10 months now. With the baby she will try and let me sleep through the night and take care of the baby but if she needs anything at anytime she calls me for help. On weekends though she asks for help for every feeding since I don't have work the next day.
Lol at all the perfect men in this thread. Yeah, if I'm the one working which will likely be the case then yeah she'd be the one getting up to take care of the crying child. I've got to be up at 5am and attentive at work so I'm not going to get up in the middle of the night. If she's the one that has a great job that makes more money than me then yeah I'd get up but that isn't likely and saying that's sexist is rubbish, it's just reality, and we won't both be working so the one not working will be getting up in the middle of the night.
I think you're right, but maybe people are reacting to the tone in which you're expressing your opinion (saying this from experience) and not the merit of what you're saying.
I think the parent who is using the parental leave should be the first line of defense in the night when the baby is up. Typically, that is mother. The man will normally have responsibilities outside the house and I think the work-a-day world is generally unsympathetic to the struggles of parents of babies, which isn't necessarily unreasonable, but that does mean the man does have to show up with the energy, focus and alertness to be productive. After all, that is what he's getting paid for and the family does require a breadwinner as a family of three or more cannot survive on parental leave alone. The woman will also have napping and/or resting opportunities sporadically throughout the day, which are not available to the man.
If, however, the man has a job that affords him a lot of time off, then I think the night time roles can be shared more equitably. Basically, whoever is getting up and going to work needs the sleep, in general, moreso than the person who is at home.
Either way, both roles are exhausting and it's tough for all involved. For anybody still in that stage, it does get a lot better and it will soon seem like a distant, god-awful nightmare for you so hang in there.
When it's hot out in the summer, my wife sleeps downstairs in a spare bedroom where it is cooler, I can actually sleep in the heat. I sleep way better without her snoring, wish she'd just stay there. Now if I could just do something about her stupid cats waking me up early on weekends for food, I'd be sleeping well.
She's tried nasal strips and has consulted her doctor for effective solutions.
No dice so far. It's more amusing than a serious problem . . . except on vacation when there's no escape.
One of my friends, a male, has spent his entire marriage sleeping in a separate room from his wife because of his own chronic snoring. I went skiing with him one weekend and yeah, its horrible to be in the same room with him. They have two great kids though so they got together somewhere along the way!!!
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Don't worry. Even when we're married we probably will stay childless too. So I maintain the right to have opinions on other people's child rearing. Furthermore if I don't have snide sarcasm, I have nothing to live for.
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Not married, but I sleep in a separate bed as my girlfriend about half the time. She goes to sleep and wakes up a couple hours earlier than I do, so I'll often just crash on the couch so I don't wake her up getting into bed, and she doesn't wake me up leaving for work.
Seems to work quite well. We sleep together on the weekend though.
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