Relationship advice

[Ozy_Flame]

jhunt has a friend who has been through a similar situation. There's always a friend who can sympathize.

[Table 5]

So dissentower is probably a father by now?

[DownhillGoat]

Originally Posted by Nyah

Anyone else see the irony in people constantly using the word 'ignorant' wrong?

It's like ten thousand spoons when all you need is a knife.

[CaptainCrunch]

Its like meeting Jodie Foster and then meeting her wife

[troutman]

Love the one you're with

[Reaper]

Originally Posted by Muta

Given the context of the original joke, that would be the wrong advice if zulu29 was a chick.

You're right. She should keep it in to "get used to the feel."

[gargamel]

Originally Posted by DuffMan

what happened to dissentowers situation, I started at the beginning of this thread and now I am left hanging.

http://forum.calgarypuck.com/showthread.php?t=109803

[dissentowner]

So a few people have asked how this all turned out. The mother of my youngest and I have been through councelling and worked hard to understand eachother to try and make a go of it for my youngest's sake. It is rocky at times and things are certainly not perfect but I make the best of it for him. Both of us admit to eachother we are not in love but we have learned to be parents together. It is worth it for me to see my son every day and give him a comfortable home life.

[DuffMan]

Have you gone for a Vasectomy yet?

[dissentowner]

Originally Posted by DuffMan

Have you gone for a Vasectomy yet?

You bet! Hurrah for frozen peas!

[BigBrodieFan]

I remember when Dis' baby was born, he was very excited. Dis- how's the kid?

[BigBrodieFan]

Originally Posted by dissentowner

So a few people have asked how this all turned out. The mother of my youngest and I have been through councelling and worked hard to understand eachother to try and make a go of it for my youngest's sake. It is rocky at times and things are certainly not perfect but I make the best of it for him. Both of us admit to eachother we are not in love but we have learned to be parents together. It is worth it for me to see my son every day and give him a comfortable home life.

Sorry hon, I didn't read this, I posted before reading! Yay! Good on you darlin, you are making your fellow men look good.

[MrMastodonFarm]

Ten plus years on Calgarypuck and that's the first time i've seen hon and darling typed here.

[Winsor_Pilates]

Originally Posted by BigBrodieFan

Sorry hon, I didn't read this, I posted before reading! Yay! Good on you darlin, you are making your fellow men look good.

Really?

I don't mean to jump on Diss for his choices & certainly don't know his personal situation to really understand it, but staying together just for the kid when they know they don't and won't love each other seems like the wrong decision.

Raising the child in a relationship that's not there isn't really doing it any favors and it's likely delaying the inevitable split anyway which would only be harder on the child when it's older.

I wish him the best in his situation, but with the little information available here seems like a bad decision to me.

[STeeLy]

Originally Posted by Winsor_Pilates

I don't mean to jump on Diss for his choices & certainly don't know his personal situation to really understand it, but staying together just for the kid when they know they don't and won't love each other seems like the wrong decision.

From what I gathered in his post is that him and the mother are not in a relationship... they work together to raise him, and that's all.

[gargamel]

Originally Posted by STeeLy

From what I gathered in his post is that him and the mother are not in a relationship... they work together to raise him, and that's all.

He said that he sees his son every day, so I get the impression that they're together, but either way, he seems to be doing what he thinks is best for his son. That's commendable.

[MrMastodonFarm]

Originally Posted by dissentowner

So a few people have asked how this all turned out. The mother of my youngest and I have been through councelling and worked hard to understand eachother to try and make a go of it for my youngest's sake. It is rocky at times and things are certainly not perfect but I make the best of it for him. Both of us admit to eachother we are not in love but we have learned to be parents together. It is worth it for me to see my son every day and give him a comfortable home life.

Originally Posted by STeeLy

From what I gathered in his post is that him and the mother are not in a relationship... they work together to raise him, and that's all.

From the post above I got the exact opposite impression you did Steely. "Trying to make a go of it" would suggest they're in a relationship.

[STeeLy]

My bad guys. I totally thought he said every other day instead of everyday. (Clearly, I was not as awake as I thought I was reading that post.)

Seeing his son everyday, provided that the relationship between him and the mother is not volatile, it might actually be ok for them to be raising the kid together.

I'm ok with the idea of them living together with their kid, but not in a relationship. I think that dissentowner and the mother knows where each other stands in regards t what kind of relationship they have shouldn't be a bad thing.

[SeeBass]

Originally Posted by Winsor_Pilates

Really?

I don't mean to jump on Diss for his choices & certainly don't know his personal situation to really understand it, but staying together just for the kid when they know they don't and won't love each other seems like the wrong decision.

Raising the child in a relationship that's not there isn't really doing it any favors and it's likely delaying the inevitable split anyway which would only be harder on the child when it's older.

I wish him the best in his situation, but with the little information available here seems like a bad decision to me.

As a person who grew up in a household with parents that did not love each other, but stayed for the kids it makes me sad to see this.
The damage from my parents being my role model for what love and marriage is has done way more harm to me than them living under a seperate roof ever could.

[zukes]

Originally Posted by dissentowner

So a few people have asked how this all turned out. The mother of my youngest and I have been through councelling and worked hard to understand eachother to try and make a go of it for my youngest's sake. It is rocky at times and things are certainly not perfect but I make the best of it for him. Both of us admit to eachother we are not in love but we have learned to be parents together. It is worth it for me to see my son every day and give him a comfortable home life.

Okay, I'll ask. Do you still get the "benefits"?