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I-Hate-Hulse · 03-02-2006, 10:51 PM

In a strange perversion of the Body for Life "the free day" concept, a NBA player's wife has granted him the right of one night a year with another woman....

Masha Lopatova, a former Russian pop star who has been married to the Jazz forward for nearly six years, understands the temptation NBA players are faced with as they travel around the country for seven months a year. And she believes that forbidding something only makes it more tempting. That's why, she revealed in a story in the current issue of ESPN The Magazine, she allows Kirilenko an "allowance" of one night per year with another woman.
"What's forbidden is always desirable. And athletes, particularly men, are susceptible to all the things they are offered," Lopatova said before the Jazz's loss to Charlotte on Wednesday. "It's the same way raising children - If I tell my child, 'No pizza, no pizza, no pizza,' what does he want more than anything? Pizza.

http://sltrib.com/sports/ci_3561131

For reference sake, here's a picture of the wife:

Man... all I got for my birthday from my g/f was a 30GB iPod!

Igottago · 03-02-2006, 10:54 PM

does she take advantage of the one free night too??

Vulcan · 03-02-2006, 11:39 PM

I guess if your husband is a child, it's good logic.

Bill Bumface · 03-02-2006, 11:50 PM

That must be one fantastic night of pizza and adultery!

mykalberta · 03-03-2006, 09:19 AM

Hey, it would limit the "Kobe in Colorado" incidents

MYK

transplant99 · 03-03-2006, 09:37 AM

Actually this "kind" of thing is more prevalent than most think.

I read an article a while back (will look for it) that stated people are starting to understand that complete monogamy is a difficult standard for the majority of the population to adhere to. The gist of it was also geared to the fact that because the whole monogamous existance of marriage was based in religion, there was a good portion of the population questioning its validity. (Sort of goes along with so many of those kind of debates on this very board)

Another thing I found while doing a very minimal follow up on such things was the existance of polyamory. I had never heard of it, but it has a pretty big following for something many had no idea was around.

Basically the belief is that it is illogical to believe that you can only love one person at a time, and apparently there are many households who have multiple adults living in harmony all while sharing beds. I guess this is an offshoot of polygamy....but not the same at all as women can have multiple partners as opposed to strictly juust the males getting that right.

http://www.lair.org/writings/polyamo...-whatitis.html

Interesting stuff if nothing else.

Bill Bumface · 03-03-2006, 10:08 AM

I'm not religious, but something deep inside of me wouldn't sit right with knowing my wife was with someone else and coming to me tomorrow to offer sloppy seconds. I also would feel terrible doing it myself, even with permission. I'm guessing I've been conditioned to be this way by my upbringing in a monogamous household, but it still just seems plain wrong.

Reaper · 03-03-2006, 10:11 AM

I know that I would never go for such an arrangement with my wife. Don't get me wrong, I have sex with hundreds of different women in my mind every day but the real thing is reserved only for my wife. Monogamy isn't that hard of a concept as long as you're mindful of what the consequences of your actions could be.

transplant99 · 03-03-2006, 10:18 AM

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Monogamy isn't that hard of a concept as long as you're mindful of what the consequences of your actions could be.

I don't disagree.

Their theory though is that there are no consequences as long as all involved understand whats what going in. Like minded individuals making like minded decisions....no reason it cant work unless conditioned to believe otherwise.

I think there are all kinds of offshoot problems that could arise as well, most notably if kids are involved, but there one argument that makes sense is....why cant i love more than one at a time? The example of when you have a second child, does that mean you dont love your first one as much? Of course not. So why cant that be applied to adult relationships as well? Love is not an finite commodity.

At any rate...i just found the whole concept somewhat interesting to read.

Reaper · 03-03-2006, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by transplant99

I don't disagree.

Their theory though is that there are no consequences as long as all involved understand whats what going in. Like minded individuals making like minded decisions....no reason it cant work unless conditioned to believe otherwise.

I think there are all kinds of offshoot problems that could arise as well, most notably if kids are involved, but there one argument that makes sense is....why cant i love more than one at a time? The example of when you have a second child, does that mean you dont love your first one as much? Of course not. So why cant that be applied to adult relationships as well? Love is not an finite commodity.

At any rate...i just found the whole concept somewhat interesting to read.

For sure, the concept is interesting and it sounds quite ideal in theory.

Unfortunately, I believe that most humans are too flawed to practice polyamory.

BlackEleven · 03-03-2006, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Reaper

For sure, the concept is interesting and it sounds quite ideal in theory.

Unfortunately, I believe that most humans are too flawed to practice polyamory.

I agree. There are lots of things that seem great in theory, like say, communism, but it doesn't work when you add human nature into the equation.

This sorta seems like love commuism ... from each according to his abilities to each according to his needs

Flashpoint · 03-03-2006, 04:27 PM

I think it is really sweet she thinks he only sleeps with one other woman a year.

Naivete is so cute!

A cheetah doesn't change it's spots.

albertGQ · 03-03-2006, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Flashpoint

I think it is really sweet she thinks he only sleeps with one other woman a year.

Naivete is so cute!

A cheetah doesn't change it's spots.

Exactly I bet he takes her up on this offer a couple times a month.......MINIMUM!!!

Eastern Girl · 03-03-2006, 04:47 PM

Yeah I feel bad for her. She is probably just trying to make herself feel like she has some control in their relationship. He slept with someone else, but it's okay, I gave him permission. He doesn't really walk all over me.

FurnaceFace · 03-03-2006, 07:01 PM

There's a saying something like: "You can go out to get your appetite as long as you eat at home."

I think with a wife like her, he should be eternally hungry. (and grateful)