Get It Off Your Chest Thread

[GreatWhiteEbola]

Originally Posted by Sr. Mints

I'm now taking three kinds of pain medications for nerve pain due to a broken back, and each of them are actually anti-crazy pills of some kind.

They are ####ing up my mind, making me tired all the time, and my doctors don't seem to know what to do, or care when I complain.

Anyway, I've tried playing with my doses or stop taking different medications, but then my legs feel like they're frozen, being electrocuted or are on fire. So I resign myself to the fact that the medications do work for pain and I'm stuck not feeling like myself.

A month later I get sick of the side effects and go through this all over again.

Whoa, I have written an almost identical story. Have you tried smoking marijuana?

I exchanged my Lyrica for cannabis, and I haven't looked back!

[#22]

^^^

I second that, give it a try. After I had my foot screwed back together, I threw the medication they gave me in the garbage after one day and smoked a bit of green whenever the pain got too bad. Worked way better for me. I find every prescription drug I've ever tried to dull and disconnect me. (that and the fact the physically addictive nature of these types of drugs scares me)

[DownInFlames]

Originally Posted by Cole436

I have a disorder called Post Hallucinogenic Perception Disorder. I developed it when I was 13 after smoking some weed laced with coke. It didn't make much sense to the doctor since neither were hallucinogen's, but I was a textbook case. I've been living with it for nearly 10 years now.
I finally went to go seek help after it was diagnosed earlier this year, and was prescribed an antipsychotic. I was really worried about the side effects of taking a drug like this. It also doubles for sleeping pills.
Long story short, I finally took it before bed two weeks after I was prescribed it and had to call in sick to work for a 10 am shift because I couldn't get out of bed. I could barely speak the rest of the day and felt terrible.
I'm more worried about taking that drug then I am ever feeling normal again.

Let me guess, Seroquel? I had the same reaction. I was told it took time to get used to it. But I felt so bad there was no way I was going to take it again. I'd rather not be able to sleep than not be able to do practically anything while I am awake.

[RogerWilco]

Originally Posted by SHOGUN

A lot of us have **** that bothers us, worries, questions we ask ourselves and a lot of times it helps to have someone who will listen/give advice.

Ignorance/Judgement is free in this thread.

I'll start... I have crazy anxiety especially at night to the point where I can't sleep, therefore school and work suffers. I'm too embarrassed to go to a doctor/therapist... don't know if I suffer from kind of mental disorder, but it has gotten worse the last year.

If you have an iphone or some sort of smart phone there are some great relaxation hypnosis downloads that only cost a couple of buck each. The good ones are the recordings by Michael Schnider and Andrew Johnson. For anxiety the "Stress Free" or "Don't Panic" recordings are great. They bring you through a full progressive relaxation and then provide suggestions when you are relaxed.

[Papa Gino]

Something that I need to get off my chest:

My buddy came from Calgary to visit me in Victoria, was looking forward to a fun weekend, thinking it would be about being bros and doing guy things. He told me 2 weeks ago that his girlfriend was coming too. They've been dating since grade 8 (we're 22 now), and I really don't like his girlfriend. She has him whipped pretty good. Honestly it's getting to the point where he can't leave her alone because she doesn't have any friends so he constantly brings her everywhere.

Anyone else had a scenario like this ever? They are here visiting in town now, but quite honestly after this weekend this friendship might be over, it's frustrating because he's been my best friend for a long time.

Funny what women do to people.

Any advice?

[memphusk]

I hate when old people demand respect, instead of earning it. Who says when you get old, everything should just be handed over?

[Bork]

Originally Posted by Buff

I can't focus. Sometimes I wonder if I have ADD. I'll be working on something and my mind things of something else so I'll jump to that, then I get an email and I'll take care of that. Then I try to force myself back to the first task but first I have to take a break and I'll do to or three things during that break and take a longer break than I intended.

I have to watch movies a few times to pickup on everything. My mind will wander and I'll start to think of other stuff, then I'll zone back to the movie and be wondering what was just going on.

When I have conversations I'm always changing the topic because I think of millions of different things all at once. I'll interrupt people or finish their sentence so I can change the topic.

It's starting to frustrate me. Maybe I'm not ADD. Maybe I'm not sleeping
enough. Maybe there is too much stress in my life that I'm just distracted. I don't know.

I'm certainly not a doctor but I have been diagnosed with ADD and this sounds just like me.

[Northendzone]

Originally Posted by Papa Gino

Something that I need to get off my chest:

My buddy came from Calgary to visit me in Victoria, was looking forward to a fun weekend, thinking it would be about being bros and doing guy things. He told me 2 weeks ago that his girlfriend was coming too. They've been dating since grade 8 (we're 22 now), and I really don't like his girlfriend. She has him whipped pretty good. Honestly it's getting to the point where he can't leave her alone because she doesn't have any friends so he constantly brings her everywhere.

Anyone else had a scenario like this ever? They are here visiting in town now, but quite honestly after this weekend this friendship might be over, it's frustrating because he's been my best friend for a long time.

Funny what women do to people.

Any advice?

I feel your friend's pain, as I used to be that guy.....coulda not even go to the car wash alone.......not advice for you and your buddy, other than he likely needs to get out!!!!!!!

[SHOGUN]

Originally Posted by Papa Gino

Something that I need to get off my chest:

My buddy came from Calgary to visit me in Victoria, was looking forward to a fun weekend, thinking it would be about being bros and doing guy things. He told me 2 weeks ago that his girlfriend was coming too. They've been dating since grade 8 (we're 22 now), and I really don't like his girlfriend. She has him whipped pretty good. Honestly it's getting to the point where he can't leave her alone because she doesn't have any friends so he constantly brings her everywhere.

Anyone else had a scenario like this ever? They are here visiting in town now, but quite honestly after this weekend this friendship might be over, it's frustrating because he's been my best friend for a long time.

Funny what women do to people.

Any advice?

Sucks that your friend has oneitis... did you tell your friend that you don't like his girlfriend? If he doesn't care what you tell him, you should find some new friends... he'll regret the day he ditched you for a clingy women when he is married to that girl and divorces.. his loss.

[albertGQ]

I seriously don't know how some of my friends let a girl have him wrapped around her finger. I hate not being in control of my life and to watch some of my friends voluntarily give it up just grinds my gears sometimes.

[ResAlien]

So how the hell do you hold an intervention?

One of my best friends has managed to make his life revolve around nothing but pills and powder. He's my age (early 30's) and his dad is dying of cancer as we speak. My idea is to just beat him with a bike chain and a sack of oranges until he smartens up but it seems this is classified as "aggravated assault". Buncha horsecrap if you ask me.

I've got a few mutual friends on board, seriously how does one go about getting an intervention or something set up? Do I just pull some stupid "yeah, so let's meet at my house!" crap or what? I just want to punch him in the teeth until he smartens up but I know this isn't a real option, what the hell do I do?

[GreatWhiteEbola]

Originally Posted by ResAlien

So how the hell do you hold an intervention?

One of my best friends has managed to make his life revolve around nothing but pills and powder. He's my age (early 30's) and his dad is dying of cancer as we speak. My idea is to just beat him with a bike chain and a sack of oranges until he smartens up but it seems this is classified as "aggravated assault". Buncha horsecrap if you ask me.

I've got a few mutual friends on board, seriously how does one go about getting an intervention or something set up? Do I just pull some stupid "yeah, so let's meet at my house!" crap or what? I just want to punch him in the teeth until he smartens up but I know this isn't a real option, what the hell do I do?

Have a plan.

Give these guys a call.
http://www.albertahealthservices.ca/...af&rid=1047128

You can tell him to meet you at 1177 11 Avenue SW after 12:45 on any weekday. That is the address for Alberta Health Services - Addiction Services, after 12:45 on weekdays is the drop-in assessment/ intake for their programs.

[ResAlien]

Originally Posted by GreatWhiteEbola

Have a plan.

Give these guys a call.
http://www.albertahealthservices.ca/...af&rid=1047128

You can tell him to meet you at 1177 11 Avenue SW after 12:45 on any weekday. That is the address for Alberta Health Services - Addiction Services, after 12:45 on weekdays is the drop-in assessment/ intake for their programs.

That would be kickass except I sort of live in Denver.

I'll look for something similar here though.

[GreatWhiteEbola]

Originally Posted by ResAlien

That would be kickass except I sort of live in Denver.

I'll look for something similar here though.

I did not know that. Well the info is there should anyone here need it.

Good luck man, keep us updated.

[heinz256]

My girlfriend and I broke up at the beginning of December, we were together for 3 and a half years. I still have trouble letting her go and keep thinking about her almost all the time. I guess the reason for not being able to let her go is because I feel really guilty for the way I treated her during our relationship. I was a pretty emotionally abusive boyfriend to her, did things like breakup with her when we would have fights over the stupidest things. This happened alot, and everytime she would always cry and beg for me to take her back. I guess I never meant to breakup with her, I guess I did it to test her, to see if she really cared. The last time, she agreed with the breakup and didnt come back, I don't blame her. I still regret what I did to her and looking back, I wished that I would have just took a step back at the time and see how much I was hurting her, cuz I still dont know why I did the things I did. The worst thing I ever did was call her fat, and mocked her when she was crying. I really hate myself for what I did, especially since I knew she loved me. Its extremely hard for me because I have really high standards for myself to be a good person and good boyfriend, and I feel like I failed in both regards. Shes forgiven me but I cant seem to forgive myself. God i miss her.

I got into another relationship rather quick after the breakup (~2 months after) hoping to forget about her quick. Problem is I keep comparing the new gf to the ex. Even though the new gf is better in many aspects, sometimes I wish she did things like my ex. I feel like this is really taking a toll on me mentally. My sleeping schedule is all messed up, I can't seem to find any pleasure or satisfaction in anything I do. Everyday just seems like a drag. I just don't care about alot of things right now, especially school. I was suppose to graduate from UofC after this semester, but I didn't go to one of my midterms and now I have to push graduation back another year. I read somewhere online that only about 5% of emotional abusers do change, so I'm worried I'm gonna end up like the 95% and repeat the things I did. I really think I need to go see a shrink or something.

Sorry for such a long post.

[FLAMESRULE]

Originally Posted by ResAlien

So how the hell do you hold an intervention?

One of my best friends has managed to make his life revolve around nothing but pills and powder. He's my age (early 30's) and his dad is dying of cancer as we speak. My idea is to just beat him with a bike chain and a sack of oranges until he smartens up but it seems this is classified as "aggravated assault". Buncha horsecrap if you ask me.

I've got a few mutual friends on board, seriously how does one go about getting an intervention or something set up? Do I just pull some stupid "yeah, so let's meet at my house!" crap or what? I just want to punch him in the teeth until he smartens up but I know this isn't a real option, what the hell do I do?

Definitely need to have a plan as has been said. For me, as a recovering alcoholic, the only thing (and I mean ONLY thing) that made me change my behaviour was my wife leaving me...it was only for a weekend, but it scared me straight. It really has to be something super drastic and the people doing it (you and your friends, his family, etc.) need to absolutely stick to your guns. If you, or anyone else, lets something slide then its over and nothing will change.

I'd strongly suggest getting his family involved if they want him to change as well. If he doesnt change, you may have to cut him loose. It hurts, but sometimes it needs to be done.

[Hockeyguy15]

Originally Posted by heinz256

My girlfriend and I broke up at the beginning of December, we were together for 3 and a half years. I still have trouble letting her go and keep thinking about her almost all the time. I guess the reason for not being able to let her go is because I feel really guilty for the way I treated her during our relationship. I was a pretty emotionally abusive boyfriend to her, did things like breakup with her when we would have fights over the stupidest things. This happened alot, and everytime she would always cry and beg for me to take her back. I guess I never meant to breakup with her, I guess I did it to test her, to see if she really cared. The last time, she agreed with the breakup and didnt come back, I don't blame her. I still regret what I did to her and looking back, I wished that I would have just took a step back at the time and see how much I was hurting her, cuz I still dont know why I did the things I did. The worst thing I ever did was call her fat, and mocked her when she was crying. I really hate myself for what I did, especially since I knew she loved me. Its extremely hard for me because I have really high standards for myself to be a good person and good boyfriend, and I feel like I failed in both regards. Shes forgiven me but I cant seem to forgive myself. God i miss her.

I got into another relationship rather quick after the breakup (~2 months after) hoping to forget about her quick. Problem is I keep comparing the new gf to the ex. Even though the new gf is better in many aspects, sometimes I wish she did things like my ex. I feel like this is really taking a toll on me mentally. My sleeping schedule is all messed up, I can't seem to find any pleasure or satisfaction in anything I do. Everyday just seems like a drag. I just don't care about alot of things right now, especially school. I was suppose to graduate from UofC after this semester, but I didn't go to one of my midterms and now I have to push graduation back another year. I read somewhere online that only about 5% of emotional abusers do change, so I'm worried I'm gonna end up like the 95% and repeat the things I did. I really think I need to go see a shrink or something.

Sorry for such a long post.

So go see a shrink, no shame in that. You sound like you don't want to go down that path again and that is probably the biggest thing. If only 5% of people change that probably only means 5% of them are aware they have a problem.

Go see someone and they will be able to give you tools to deal with whatever issues you have.

Also have you tried writing a letter or an email to your ex apologizing for all the stuff you are sorry for? Not a letter to get back together with her, just an actual apology?

I imagine laying it out there will go a long way to help you (and probably her) heal too...She would appreciate some closure too, and knowing that you knew you were a dick might help her. But like I said, it shouldn't be an attempt to get back with her, just I'm sorry I was a dick no strings attached kind of thing.

[CaptainCrunch]

Originally Posted by Hockeyguy15

So go see a shrink, no shame in that. You sound like you don't want to go down that path again and that is probably the biggest thing. If only 5% of people change that probably only means 5% of them are aware they have a problem.

Go see someone and they will be able to give you tools to deal with whatever issues you have.

Also have you tried writing a letter or an email to your ex apologizing for all the stuff you are sorry for? Not a letter to get back together with her, just an actual apology?

I imagine laying it out there will go a long way to help you (and probably her) heal too...She would appreciate some closure too, and knowing that you knew you were a dick might help her. But like I said, it shouldn't be an attempt to get back with her, just I'm sorry I was a dick no strings attached kind of thing.

While I agree with the SHrink thing, the original post sounds like he was not only emotionally abusive, but alsom manipulative and a dominant personality. I think him writing a email or letter to her might make him feel better or asserted, but wouldn't do much to give closure to a girl that was clearly the submissive in the relationship.

the rest of his get it off of my chest where he's comparing old to new, losing sleep, dumping school etc sounds a little frightening to me and a bit obsessive.

Heinz, don't write the old gf, don't contact her in anyway, not to be mean, but she is better off without you in her life at any level or anyway, and honestly go and find a shrink today, and get help today, before you do re-establish on your current GF.

You doing anything towards your old girlfriend will not bring her closure, it will probably open old wounds or scare the hell of her, or worse of all make her try to get back into your life or vise versa.

For emotionally or physically abusesive people the first step towards treatment is realizing that your victim or whatever is far better off with you as far away from her as possible, and usually emotionally or physically abusive personalities use apologies etc as another tool in their manipulative toolbox, just like they use the whole I am going to change please baby I have changed.

Sorry for the brutallity of this post, but Heinz, you need a bit of a realism check here, emotionally or physically abusive people don't just change unless they get some serious help to not only understand the root cause but to change key behaviour. The fact that you very quickly jumped into another relationship is troubling to.

The good thing is that you're admitting that you have a problem. You might not be able to self check it, and a reality check will only go so far. Please find help and do it today.

[#22]

^^^

Admitting you have a problem is the first step to recovery. If you really want to change, take the second step and go see a psychiatrist

[SHOGUN]

#1 rule I follow after break ups is the cut ALL CONTACTS with that person... meaning deleted he/she on facebook, changing your cell number, avoiding places where you guys usually meet, etc... essentially erasing he/she from your life.