03-03-2012, 12:55 AM
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So. My friends made a mistake, what now?
Has anyone else been through this?
My good buddy had an affair with another buddy's wife.
I am also good friends with both of the wives.
How the h e double hockey sticks do I deal with this?
Thoughts? Advice? Filthy innuendoes? (Looking at your Fotze!)
I pretty much like all of them and would like to be friends to all of them. Is that possible?
Last edited by Titan; 03-03-2012 at 02:31 AM.
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03-03-2012, 12:59 AM
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Why would you want to be friends with someone who as the abillity to sneak around with his buddies wifes?
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03-03-2012, 01:02 AM
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My parents had some friends where the wife was sleeping with his son. She was the step mom so no crazy incest thing or anything. If I remember correctly I think they even had a child together.
I think you can still be friends with them, just make he isn't alone with your wife/gf @ any time 
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03-03-2012, 01:02 AM
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Chicken on the Way friends?
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03-03-2012, 01:08 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by MelBridgeman
Why would you want to be friends with someone who as the abillity to sneak around with his buddies wifes?
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Well that's sort of the question isn't it?
He is actually a great guy, good to be around. Really interesting, Made a really bad choice.
Do I jettison him? Do I support him? I really like his wife and we have become really good couple friends. Then this.
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03-03-2012, 01:09 AM
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Also, the buddy's wife is kind of a predator. I don't think he knew what hit him but I could be wrong on that.
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03-03-2012, 01:18 AM
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Nm- bad advice
Last edited by bradster57; 03-03-2012 at 12:02 PM.
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03-03-2012, 01:22 AM
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That is terrible, and a tough spot to be in. I don't think anyone's advice will be right, you just have to do what you feel is right.
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03-03-2012, 01:23 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Titan
Has anyone else been through this?
My good buddy had an affair with another buddy's wife.
I am also good friends with both of the wives.
How the h e double hockey sticks do I deal with this?
Thoughts? Advice? Filthy innuendoes? (Looking at your Fotze!)
I pretty much like all of them and would like to be friends to all of them. Is that possible?
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Both would quickly become ex friends of mine. People who have affairs are bottom scum to me. If you're not happy, get out of the marriage instead of hurting the person you said vows too.
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03-03-2012, 01:26 AM
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I laughed. Sucks though because if I were you I wouldn't be friends with them either. Every encounter with the both of them would be crazy tense/awkward (in my eyes anyway).
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03-03-2012, 01:30 AM
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Unless your willing to lose all of those friends, stay out of it.
Chances are no matter what you do your going to be the bad guy.
If you do tell, you're going to be the bad guy to some of them
If you don't it will eventually get out and you'll be the bad guy there too.
Personally, get a better quality of friends, maybe move out of New Jersey too.
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03-03-2012, 01:30 AM
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Sex happens. Get over it, move on.
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03-03-2012, 01:30 AM
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Norm!
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Titan
Also, the buddy's wife is kind of a predator. I don't think he knew what hit him but I could be wrong on that.
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03-03-2012, 01:34 AM
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I really don't understand the "get new friends" comments....what if he's been friends with these people for 20 years? should he just stop caring for his friends because they made a mistake? what are friends for then if you're just going to leave them when things get tough?
Cheeating is one of the worst things someone can do imo, but they are your friends and you shouldn't just stop being friends because of this.
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03-03-2012, 01:34 AM
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Originally Posted by Blaster86
Sex happens. Get over it, move on.
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It's hard to move on when the trust between 2 people is broken.
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03-03-2012, 01:35 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch
Unless your willing to lose all of those friends, stay out of it.
Chances are no matter what you do your going to be the bad guy.
If you do tell, you're going to be the bad guy to some of them
If you don't it will eventually get out and you'll be the bad guy there too.
Personally, get a better quality of friends, maybe move out of New Jersey too.
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They all know. The good wife wants to reconcile the bad wife and her hubby want to pretend it never happened. The bad hubby is a little unsure what he wants.
Goes to a definition of friend. Can a good person make a bad mistake? If they do do you say ta ta? Do you help them through it? What kind of a friend does that make me?
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03-03-2012, 01:37 AM
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Originally Posted by puckluck
I really don't understand the "get new friends" comments....what if he's been friends with these people for 20 years? should he just stop caring for his friends because they made a mistake? what are friends for then if you're just going to leave them when things get tough?
Cheeating is one of the worst things someone can do imo, but they are your friends and you shouldn't just stop being friends because of this.
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Ironically, I had to take Puckluck off ignore to see this comment. Captured my quandry perfectly.
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03-03-2012, 01:39 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by puckluck
I really don't understand the "get new friends" comments....what if he's been friends with these people for 20 years? should he just stop caring for his friends because they made a mistake? what are friends for then if you're just going to leave them when things get tough?
Cheeating is one of the worst things someone can do imo, but they are your friends and you shouldn't just stop being friends because of this.
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I don't see cheating as a mistake. Both parties knew exactly what they were doing and have no respect for the marriage vows they made or the person they married. I don't know how anyone can support that.
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03-03-2012, 01:40 AM
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Yep, I've had things like this happen in my circle of friends. All parties are now divorced and happier for it.
Your role is probably to stay out of it, but occasionally you may be asked for your advice, depending on the nature of your friendships. Do not give it! Later on you may be sucked into the drama! Unless you want that, stay neutral. Be supportive. Help your friends heal but don't be the guy that told so-and-so to do this or say that.
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03-03-2012, 01:41 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Dion
It's hard to move on when the trust between 2 people is broken.
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That's a "them" problem. #### it. People are gonna have sex, don't worry about it. Let the good times roll imo. Never understand why sex is such a big deal. Open relationships agogo baby.
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