Anyone else have a psycho ex?

[TurnedTheCorner]

My exes are fine and I've managed to maintain civil relations with them after things ended.

[FlamesAddiction]

I had a psycho ex once who sent me flowers with a tag that read "from a secret admirer", and then then when I told her about it, she freaked out and demanded to know who I was screwing that would send me flowers. It's weird enough to be a dude getting flowers.

I'm glad I pulled out on her most of the time. That kid ended up in a kleenex.

[Dion]

Get yourself a good lawyer and fight for full custody of your kid. You need to get her out of your life pronto.

[CaptainCrunch]

Have you talked to her family or is your relations with them bad to. It sounds like there might be some underlying issues here. Maybe she's stressed, overwhelmed, feels alone in this.

I get that you think she's a psycho to you, I've had my share of them (including one who became an ex when she drew satanic symbols on me when I was sleeping).

But it sounds like she screaming for help here.

Just my two cents.

Maybe go over and sit her down and tell her that she's acting irrational and your worried about your kids welfare but you want to help her.

[Drury18]

Yes and I have official paperwork for it too.

Clinical psycho's are a whole other bag of fun.

[afc wimbledon]

Originally Posted by Dion

Get yourself a good lawyer and fight for full custody of your kid. You need to get her out of your life pronto.

Full custody or not that is your kids mother and she will never be 'out of your life', nor, truth be told, should you want her too, a child needs both parents in their life and both parents co operating with each other as well.

I occasionally wish my ex would drive her car off a bridge, but in reality she is my kids mother and as much as it galls me my daughter needs her to be happy.

I always try to remember that whatever the ex does 1. Its my fault as I picked her and 2. She's still the same person I used to love.

[Displaced Flames fan]

Originally Posted by dissentowner

What a ######ed post. What part of I look after for him for half the week and fork over to my ex half my pay cheque didn't you get???

This part, "I want to stay close with my 6 month old, but she is driving me crazy."

That 'but' intimates that you view this as a choice. There is no choice, or at least there should not be.

Res' post is bang on and you probably need someone close to you to tell you the same thing so you can't respond by calling them ######ed.

[WilsonFourTwo]

I've got no (useful or practical advice) for you dissentowner, but I'm cheering for a positive outcome. Good luck.

[Rutuu]

Originally Posted by afc wimbledon

Your problem isn't that your ex is a psycho, its that you had a kid with her.

I'm going to really bag on you here, and I apologise as this is a hockey forum and all, and I also know how tough dealing with an ex can be, but your problems pale into insignificance in comparison with your kids, they have had to grow up without, thus far, a responsible set of parents that can pull together to bring them up.

I have spent my working life as a child care worker, addictions specialist and foster parent trying to undo the random damage people do when they bring kids into the world with out a plan.

You want to put some of Humpty back together again here is what you have to do, you put your kid before everything else, no more girlfriends in the house, no living with anyone, no having them babysit your kid while you play hockey etc, basically you likely be single until your boy has grown up.
You look after you son ideally half the week, you pay your ex what the court says you have to pay her every month, even if you can barely afford baked beans on toast for dinner.
You picked her so you have to put up with whatever crap she throws at you without saying a thing back, ideally you are friends, at worst you pretend to be her friend until your boy is 19.

There is nothing you can do about your kid in Australia, basically unless he is lucky with whichever guy his mum brings home or has a good granddad he is growing up without a dad, which is bull#### that no kid deserves.

As to what do you do about your crazy ex? nothing, you take it with a smile and try to keep her happy as best you can, your kids well being depends on it.

The bolded part just tells me you did bad in school...doesn't mean you're qualified to be telling the guy to give up 19yrs of his life.

Family friends of ours have a crazy daughter that has ruined the lives of 3men...the parents have cut her out and have a relationship with the numerous children/fathers. She's a loon and does more damage to the families than if she just disappeared.

Apart from Dissentower wanting to fire Sutter he has always seemed like a decent guy, so cut him a break. Sorry about your luck with the ladies...hope things work out Dissentower.

[DuffMan]

My advice is to have sex with your ex, but NOT get back together with her. Sex with an ex is great, but psycho women give the best sexing. Oh and don't fall asleep with her in the same house.

[return to the red]

Just a thought but maybe you are the psycho ex too?

I have nothing to really add other than the welfare of your child should be at the forefront of the situation.

[CaramonLS]

Help her find a boyfriend?

[Sylvanfan]

I think you need to read Dale Carnegies book, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Even if it's only 4 days a week, a young child is a relentless responsibility that can be hard on anyone, especially someone who may not be getting a lot of help from other people on those days. When she's venting to you or your parents, probably just looking for someone to let her talk about herself for a bit and vent.

Most of us are selfish, we love to talk about ourselves, but can't be bothered to care about listening about someone else, without immediately dismissing it as whining or "psychotic" behavior. Try putting yourself in her shoes and be willing to listen.

As much as you think you are a magnet for crazy women...the common denominator is yourself here.

[SportsJunky]

Set her up with Regehr.

[DuffMan]

Change your name to Shawn kemp.

[ComixZone]

Nope.

NSFW

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[afc wimbledon]

Originally Posted by Rutuu

The bolded part just tells me you did bad in school...doesn't mean you're qualified to be telling the guy to give up 19yrs of his life.

Family friends of ours have a crazy daughter that has ruined the lives of 3men...the parents have cut her out and have a relationship with the numerous children/fathers. She's a loon and does more damage to the families than if she just disappeared.

Apart from Dissentower wanting to fire Sutter he has always seemed like a decent guy, so cut him a break. Sorry about your luck with the ladies...hope things work out Dissentower.

There is no magic to bringing up kids and while every now and then you find one that doesn't seem to have any reason for being a loon, 99.99 times you can lay blame on a troubled kid on their parents.

I am not even saying Dissentower isn't a decent guy, what I am saying is once you have a kid you do have to 'give up' 19 years of your life, you do this if your happily married or a single parent, sometimes this 'giving up' is hard, sometimes it is the best experience you'll ever go through that defines you as a man and gives reason to your own existance, as such I didn't consider it 'giving up' my life, my being a parent was my life.

As to my education, I did ok at school but my mum run a refuge for abused women, I grew up helping her help them, going into social work was for me as natural as breathing and I have never been able to find another job that I cared about, working in an office in any capacity pales into insignificance when you have been the guy a kid trusts enough to disclose sexual abuse from some scum bag uncle or the like.
That said I have managed to parlay my skills into career that has paid for me to buy a decent house in East Vancouver and pays me over 100,000 net, which in my field is about as good as it gets.

[Mean Mr. Mustard]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

Have you talked to her family or is your relations with them bad to. It sounds like there might be some underlying issues here. Maybe she's stressed, overwhelmed, feels alone in this.

I get that you think she's a psycho to you, I've had my share of them (including one who became an ex when she drew satanic symbols on me when I was sleeping).

But it sounds like she screaming for help here.

Just my two cents.

Maybe go over and sit her down and tell her that she's acting irrational and your worried about your kids welfare but you want to help her.

This is a great post - just get a coffee and sit down and talk to her and actually listen without getting into an argument. I know this sounds easy and that I have never been in your position - but "psycho" ex-girlfriend after a pregnancy - screams Post Partum Depression to me more than anything.

It is possible that she is crazy as you say but raising a baby on your own is not an easy task no matter how much of your paycheque you give her. The most important thing to do though is to sit down and talk to her, not for your sake but rather for her sake and most importantly for the child's sake. If your parents are in the area, ask them if they would be able to take the baby for one day a week and find other social supports. You won't have a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship with her but remaining civil is necessary for the sake of the child.

At the very least - sit down and talk to her about different community resources for if she is feeling stressed or that she can't handle the baby.

[Mean Mr. Mustard]

Originally Posted by Rutuu

The bolded part just tells me you did bad in school...doesn't mean you're qualified to be telling the guy to give up 19yrs of his life.

Family friends of ours have a crazy daughter that has ruined the lives of 3men...the parents have cut her out and have a relationship with the numerous children/fathers. She's a loon and does more damage to the families than if she just disappeared.

Apart from Dissentower wanting to fire Sutter he has always seemed like a decent guy, so cut him a break. Sorry about your luck with the ladies...hope things work out Dissentower.

The bolded part tells me you are a bit of a jerk. Dissentower might be the greatest guy of all time - he might have the best hockey opinions on this earth but raising a child is difficult to do with two people, let alone one.

Lastly your example of the "loon" daughter is horrible - the last thing he should want to do is to cut her and his child out if his life as if she would just disappear. That wouldn't do anyone any good - least of all his kid.

[Regulator75]

I keep mis-reading the title.

Anyone else have psycho sex?