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dissentowner · 10-09-2011, 10:26 PM

My ex gf is a complete nut job! Calling me up all the time complaining about her life and bitching about everything under the sun. Yep, it is the one who has my youngest. Those who are familiar with that story know we did not get along and we agreed me leaving was for the best. Now she is hell bent that I should come back and raise our son with her. I try and be there 3 days a week and give her half my pay and she still acts crazy, posting stuff on my FB that I am a bad father for not always being there and crap. She calls my parents and bitches to them about me and my mom gets upset. My family and friends think she is nuts. Wtf do I do?? I want to stay close with my 6 month old but his mom is driving me mad! We don't get along at all so trying to make it work would be stupid and when I was there I was severely depressed. What a mess.

Pizza · 10-09-2011, 10:31 PM

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Originally Posted by dissentowner

My ex gf is a complete nut job! Calling me up all the time complaining about her life and bitching about everything under the sun. Yep, it is the one who has my youngest. Those who are familiar with that story know we did not get along and we agreed me leaving was for the best.

Sic the mother of your other child on her.
Then have a glorious cat fight which you will post a youtube vid on

dissentowner · 10-09-2011, 10:33 PM

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Sic the mother of your other child on her.
Then have a glorious cat fight which you will post a youtube vid on

She is in Australia, hopefully getting eaten by dingo's at this very moment. Boy, I sure know how to pick em! My sister says I have a psycho magnet in me.

TopChed · 10-09-2011, 10:36 PM

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She is in Australia, hopefully getting eaten by dingo's at this very moment. Boy, I sure know how to pick em! My sister says I have a psycho magnet...

That's what I call mine too!

malcolmk14 · 10-09-2011, 10:51 PM

Nope, all my exes are cool.

Ozy_Flame · 10-09-2011, 10:52 PM

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She is in Australia, hopefully getting eaten by dingo's at this very moment. Boy, I sure know how to pick em! My sister says I have a psycho magnet in me.

So your son lives in the same town with your ex, and your other kid lives in Australia with your other ex?

Dissentowner leaving his global seed . . .

HotHotHeat · 10-09-2011, 10:54 PM

First of all... Delete her off Facebook.

troutman · 10-09-2011, 10:57 PM

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First of all... Delete her off Facebook.

And, don't talk about her in public forums.

ResAlien · 10-09-2011, 10:58 PM

Have you tried not being a waste of space and taking care of your child?

I have an ex and a kiddo myself so I feel fine giving you this advice. Either grow a pair and get your child back or STFU and be a loser dad. Your call.

Weiser Wonder · 10-09-2011, 11:00 PM

Never have unprotected sex again.

afc wimbledon · 10-09-2011, 11:02 PM

Your problem isn't that your ex is a psycho, its that you had a kid with her.

I'm going to really bag on you here, and I apologise as this is a hockey forum and all, and I also know how tough dealing with an ex can be, but your problems pale into insignificance in comparison with your kids, they have had to grow up without, thus far, a responsible set of parents that can pull together to bring them up.

I have spent my working life as a child care worker, addictions specialist and foster parent trying to undo the random damage people do when they bring kids into the world with out a plan.

You want to put some of Humpty back together again here is what you have to do, you put your kid before everything else, no more girlfriends in the house, no living with anyone, no having them babysit your kid while you play hockey etc, basically you likely be single until your boy has grown up.
You look after you son ideally half the week, you pay your ex what the court says you have to pay her every month, even if you can barely afford baked beans on toast for dinner.
You picked her so you have to put up with whatever crap she throws at you without saying a thing back, ideally you are friends, at worst you pretend to be her friend until your boy is 19.

There is nothing you can do about your kid in Australia, basically unless he is lucky with whichever guy his mum brings home or has a good granddad he is growing up without a dad, which is bull#### that no kid deserves.

As to what do you do about your crazy ex? nothing, you take it with a smile and try to keep her happy as best you can, your kids well being depends on it.

4X4 · 10-09-2011, 11:06 PM

Dammit, troutman... Stop telling people not to talk about stuff on the internet. Just ONCE I'd like to see the fallout from something like this. An Oct 2011 join date poster with one post that says "see you in court", and then some entertaining stories on the news about the guy who got sued for talking sh*t about his ex on a hockey forum.

Phanuthier · 10-09-2011, 11:10 PM

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Nope, all my exes are cool.

Ok that, and the post above, made me LOL.

Street Pharmacist · 10-09-2011, 11:29 PM

I remember your story. I have a similar situation, but approached it this way:

We sat down and promised to talk in a civil manner. I listed all the objective issues we had and tried to agree on possible solutions. I know it sounds like crap, but open communication helped us. Things took a bit to settle down, but we have a fantastic relationship now (doesn't hurt that she also makes a point to be reasonable). The other thing was learning to bite my tongue. I didn't like her choice to give our 7 year old son an eminem cd for his birthday, but difficult decisions abound and big picture is more important.

Sounds like she's hurt and is expressing it by acting "crazy". Until that subsides, you will have to be the calm one. Like it or not, you guys have a relationship for the next 18 years or more. Bite your tongue and keep offering reasonable solutions. DON'T get caught up in the acting out or it will get worse

Also, get your child support amount in writing with her signing and keep prof of payment. Back pay would be awful.

Street Pharmacist · 10-09-2011, 11:48 PM

Ok. Missed the two kids thing. Seriously. Figure out put already. If your conviction is to "choose life", then sorry, but you also choose your happiness to becomes secondary. As to what the poster above said, my son only ever met 1 girlfriend. He was 10 at the time and she is now my wife. That to me also is very important. The child will have no clue what a relationship should be or what its importance is if you bring every girl around.

cam_wmh · 10-09-2011, 11:54 PM

I'm really restraining myself, so all I will say is..

Parenting needs to be the most regulated, and difficult to obtain licensing system in the world.

MRCboicgy · 10-10-2011, 12:05 AM

Yep. I've mentioned him on here before for other reasons, but he did some other psycho things.

dissentowner · 10-10-2011, 12:06 AM

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Originally Posted by ResAlien

Have you tried not being a waste of space and taking care of your child?

I have an ex and a kiddo myself so I feel fine giving you this advice. Either grow a pair and get your child back or STFU and be a loser dad. Your call.

What a ######ed post. What part of I look after for him for half the week and fork over to my ex half my pay cheque didn't you get???

dissentowner · 10-10-2011, 12:07 AM

The other boy, my oldest is not in Australia. She left when he was two and I raised him. He is 11 now.

MrSector9 · 10-10-2011, 12:09 AM

Hire a Lawyer, Go to Court....