child behavior problems

[Flash Walken]

I think Photon and Rathji have given good advice in this thread.

The other key advice, and it's so simple that it is easily the most overlooked, is getting him involved in organized sports.

I just can't recommend it enough for a kid dealing with any kind of 'irregular' emotional control issues.

It's not just the burning out of energy, it's the emmersion in a social team building setting. He'll learn from his peers under the guidance of whatever coaching apparatus is in place.

Even if he is a more of a solitary type, things like competitive swimming or badminton or martial arts are still team sports, only with an individualistic payoff.

[Wormius]

^ True. A solitary sport, or something active with his parent would maybe be preferable than a team sport where, if the child is not in control of the ball or whatever can cause a frustration. Unless the child turns out to be a soccer phenom or something, it might not help his self-esteem.

[Ducay]

Originally Posted by crashbandit

My son just needs to redirect his raw emotions better. It's so amazing how some kids, especially asians kids I notice, are so calm and focused.

Old school racism FTW!

Asian kids are so calm and focused because their parents are generally hard-asses on them and crack the whip, forcing them to spend hours practicing violin and piano instead of watching tv, etc.

[AMG_G]

Asian kids are not calm and focused they are just burnt out from all the music and study classes their parents put them thru or maybe because they have no energy because they are typically less active in organized sports. I am going to put my son in as many sports as he likes and at most one music of his choice.

Originally Posted by crashbandit

lol, great spanking pics guys. expecially the classic one.

lots of great info there everyone.

thanks for the leads. My son just needs to redirect his raw emotions better. It's so amazing how some kids, especially asians kids I notice, are so calm and focused.

I just hope I pick the best treatment for him and not some wierd therapy that makes him worse or gives him more ammo to misbehave.

[Vulcan]

He was described by his teacher as, "The ring leader."

At least he's showing some leadership qualities, maybe he just needs to be refocused. How that can be done is the question.

[crashbandit]

Where did all the great parent advice come from in the hockey forum??? I thought all hockey fans were beer drinking, hard-asses

Yea, sports is a great way to find your boundries when it comes to ones emotions. And it teaches him to accept thatt he can't always win and it won't always go his way. He is an only child.

[CaptainCrunch]

Originally Posted by crashbandit

Where did all the great parent advice come from in the hockey forum??? I thought all hockey fans were beer drinking, hard-asses

Yea, sports is a great way to find your boundries when it comes to ones emotions. And it teaches him to accept thatt he can't always win and it won't always go his way. He is an only child.

That's cause the worlds worst possible parent hasn't posted yet.

that would be me . . .

Hard labour and a summer at a Military camp.

You can resent me as much as you want, but I have all the time in the world to break you.

[crashbandit]

Originally Posted by firebug

First off, as much as people would like to believe it, not all of a child's behavioral challenges are due to their parents.

As has been suggested, consult a professional. The school or your doctor should be able to provide you with some recommendations (as well as those from members of this board).

I have found these two books very beneficial in improving my parenting as well as understanding my child's development.

Between Parent and Child

The Nurture Assumption

Thanks for the advice, I just placed a hold for this book at the Calgary public library.