Sorry to derail the already derailed thread, but this sort of attitude is tiresome. Many women choose to work and have children. It is not just an economic matter for many people.
The condescending tone of "I'm fortunate enough" drives me nuts. We are fortunate enough that my wife doesn't have to work, but she still chooses to do so. That is what works for us.
There is no one way to raise a child. Many people with stay at home moms that were very involved in their development turn out to be nuts. And vice versa.
Sorry for the rant. Just tired of this attitude.
I will agree with Boblobla.
I think many of us do have two working parents due to the economics. I personally think that having a stay at home parent is a great way to raise children and holds many advantages over the alternative.
Many people do find it a "fortunate" thing to have the economic means to support this. I have no problem with people using this term.
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I think many of us do have two working parents due to the economics. I personally think that having a stay at home parent is a great way to raise children and holds many advantages over the alternative.
Many people do find it a "fortunate" thing to have the economic means to support this. I have no problem with people using this term.
I have an issue with breaking this down to simply an economic decision by using the term "fortunate". Implying that economics is the only reason that someone would choose any other method of raising your child. Like if you have two working parents it is because you choose money over your kids well being, etc, etc.
If it was simply an economic decision, you or anyone else could make many other choices and sacrifices for one person to stay home. The point is that many people do not make that choice, as it is not just an economic decision.
I have an issue with breaking this down to simply an economic decision by using the term "fortunate". Implying that economics is the only reason that someone would choose any other method of raising your child. Like if you have two working parents it is because you choose money over your kids well being, etc, etc.
If it was simply an economic decision, you or anyone else could make many other choices and sacrifices for one person to stay home. The point is that many people do not make that choice, as it is not just an economic decision.
There are totally people like that and it GMG as well.
I went to public school and my mom was a stay at home mom until my bro went to Jr. High (I was in high school).
Today, I have two BSc degrees and work in oil and gas, and my bro is an engineer who's just about to graduate.
I just don't get parents who insist their kid gets special schooling. If your kid is a tool, no amount of expensive private schooling is going to help them achieve greatness. Just like bright kids aren't going to let public school hold them back in the end.
As for the economics of staying home or not- many families cannot afford it, but in other families where they could stretch things, neither parent stays home because they want to work... it's neither right nor wrong either way, it's just a different choice.
There are totally people like that and it GMG as well.
The problem is people want to have it all these days....a great career and a great family life. It's extremely tough to excel in both at the same time....there are only so many hours in the day, and something has to give. It's double tough for women considering that whole biological clock thingy.
I have an issue with breaking this down to simply an economic decision by using the term "fortunate". Implying that economics is the only reason that someone would choose any other method of raising your child. Like if you have two working parents it is because you choose money over your kids well being, etc, etc.
If it was simply an economic decision, you or anyone else could make many other choices and sacrifices for one person to stay home. The point is that many people do not make that choice, as it is not just an economic decision.
That is fine, but not of this changes the fact that I would feel fortunate to have my wife stay at home with my son.
You might not feel the same way, and that is fine with me. I am not saying you are raising your children incorrectly. I am stating how something would make me feel.
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I just don't get parents who insist their kid gets special schooling. If your kid is a tool, no amount of expensive private schooling is going to help them achieve greatness. Just like bright kids aren't going to let public school hold them back in the end.
Back in my school days (90s) the only kids I knew who went to private school were lazy rich kids with absolutely no direction, sent there as punishment. I have no idea how they turned out, but my guess is they aren't leading the world today either.
I really hope Calgary won't turn into one of those "omg, you send your kids to public school? Oh the horror" type places that I'm trying to get away from.
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Has nothing to do with burbs. Its fataheads from the burbs who bus the kid in from Cougar ridge that is getting us kicked out from the school we live 3 blocks from. The best schools in the city are the innerish city ones. There are just some brutal ones in between.
No, I have to move ONE motherfataing block to the North or West so we are looking at houses a couple blocks away. Its ######ed.
Horrible. I remember the musical chairs school situation when I was a kid. Kids who lived a block from school but on the other side of some arbitrary invisible line were bused 30 minutes to a different school.
So they can sit at home and live off their old lady?
The funny thing is I sit at home and make 2x what the old lady does, and still vacation like the French. I think she's a little bitter about that....that'll learn her to go to some fancy pants school.
Has nothing to do with burbs. Its fataheads from the burbs who bus the kid in from Cougar ridge that is getting us kicked out from the school we live 3 blocks from. The best schools in the city are the innerish city ones. There are just some brutal ones in between.
No, I have to move ONE motherfataing block to the North or West so we are looking at houses a couple blocks away. Its ######ed.
You haven't tried transferring your kid to another school?
I see your problem though. You whiteys can't compete with the colored academically.
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How do you find out which schools are the best ones? Is there a public ranking or statistic of some sort? Curious to see how my schools are doing....I always thought they were pretty great, but then again maybe I was too stupid to know the difference.
Has nothing to do with burbs. Its fataheads from the burbs who bus the kid in from Cougar ridge that is getting us kicked out from the school we live 3 blocks from. The best schools in the city are the innerish city ones. There are just some brutal ones in between.
No, I have to move ONE motherfataing block to the North or West so we are looking at houses a couple blocks away. Its ######ed.
Us Fataheads in Cougar Ridge have no choice but to bus kids to Wildwood, etc. The school boundaries mean that my kid can't won't be able to go to the new West Springs school that is 6 blocks away in Wentworth. They instead have to bus the kids past 3 other schools on the way to Wildwood. I would imagine most of us less fortunate schlubs in the burbs would rather not have the brutal bus ride to Wildwood.
