My wife & I are separating

[albertGQ]

Originally Posted by CrazyCaper

I was considering joining the Calgary Sport & Social Club. Good way to get out of the house and meet new people at the same time.

You like ball hockey? I'd recomend GHL coed over CSSC anyday.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by albertGQ

You like ball hockey? I'd recomend GHL coed over CSSC anyday.

I usually recommend GHB when dealing with coeds.

[malcolmk14]

Get a lawyer. Get the best lawyer you can afford. Don't wait to do this, because she'll be doing it asap (or already has).

[OILFAN #81]

Seriously, I can never understand some of the attempts at to be funny/cool on here. Some of them obviously are jokes but some of them are just stupid things to say joke or not given the circumstances.

Sorry to hear CC. At least you have two beautiful kids to keep that smile going on your face. Also, I am sure you two will still be friends. Things happen for a reason in life. I know it might not make sense now, but down the road a good thing will happen for you.

[T@T]

Originally Posted by malcolmk14

Get a lawyer. Get the best lawyer you can afford. Don't wait to do this, because she'll be doing it tomorrow.

You must be a divorce lawyer

[Calgary Highlander]

I'm a little surprised that you guys haven't given marriage counseling a shot. Just saying that 'you're not feeling it anymore' makes it seem like you and your wife are just giving up without really giving it a shot (mostly your wife though, since she seems to be the one who wants to separate).

Anyways, good luck to you. I think after 10 years in a relationship, you might like the single life .

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Shazam

Sorry, but a woman with two children doesn't just up and up leave a man because "she doesn't love him anymore".

Actually, it happens all the time. A lot of people get married too young and then grow apart as they inevitably change/mature. The average marriage that ends in divorce is around 7-8 years long.

[4X4]

Originally Posted by rubecube

I wouldn't say that. I think people can sometimes just lose interest; doesn't matter whether they're married, common-law, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc.

Well, sure. It happens. I'm just saying that he should (and probably did) consider the possibility of shenanigans. Because if that's the case, it changes things in divorce court, or so I thought.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by 4X4

Well, sure. It happens. I'm just saying that he should (and probably did) consider the possibility of shenanigans. Because if that's the case, it changes things in divorce court, or so I thought.

For sure. If he has a suspicion of that sort, then he should absolutely investigate it. I just think it's pretty harsh to flat out accuse someone of adultery because he/she doesn't want to be married anymore.

[LGA]

Originally Posted by CrazyCaper

I was considering joining the Calgary Sport & Social Club. Good way to get out of the house and meet new people at the same time.

That's a wise choice, it'll give you a chance to do something you like and get to meet a bunch of new people.

If you have any anger, I highly recommend doing boxing, kickboxing or something, it's a really good way to vent your problems, it helps to calm you down and is quite addicting.

Hope everything works out for you though, sucks to hear.

[Temporary_User]

I'm young and single so I have no real advice to give. Sorry to hear though, hope it all works for the best.

One thing that I saw on The Sopranos though was Tony (the main character) was given the advice to call every divorce attorney in town. I don't know how true any of this is, but if you do that then your wife won't be able to use any of those attorney's because they would have a conflict of interest.
So if that is true, your wife would miss out on the top attorneys in town.

[stang]

Sorry to hear man.

My advice, dont move out of the house. Its easier to take from you if you dont live there. Sleep in a different room is you have to but dont move out.

[Ozy_Flame]

Sucks about the divorce dude, but let me tell you there are plenty of upsides to being single. For one thing you can look at and flirt with other women without getting in trouble. That's one thing I'm not going to stop being able to do (hitting on women is like crack for me), so any girlfriend I have is going to have to accept that I like doing it!

And another thing, you'll find you have some real quality me time. Find hobbies, do sports, follow up on the things you've always wanted to but couldn't because marriage has tied you down.

And remember - you're not single; you're a bachelor. Single guys are lonely and desperate. Bachelors are the confident and sauve type women go for.

[Flames0910]

sorry bro, that sucks. cssc sounds like a good plan though (ball hockey, soccer, whatever, i've got some friends playing there and i used to for a few years too)

don't mean to be a dick or anything, but she seriously pulled the 'i don't feel the same way anymore' card after kids?
i mean, i'm a single guy but that seems loooow. nobody expects their relationship to be the same after 5-10 yrs...

[Vulcan]

Originally Posted by stang

Sorry to hear man.

My advice, dont move out of the house. Its easier to take from you if you dont live there. Sleep in a different room is you have to but dont move out.

Don't move into another room, if she doesn't like it, let her move. You should soon learn the lay of the land, whether she's playing around or not. Also don't get angry or let it show, stay cool.

[jayswin]

Originally Posted by Ozy_Flame

Sucks about the divorce dude, but let me tell you there are plenty of upsides to being single. For one thing you can look at and flirt with other women without getting in trouble. That's one thing I'm not going to stop being able to do (hitting on women is like crack for me), so any girlfriend I have is going to have to accept that I like doing it!

And another thing, you'll find you have some real quality me time. Find hobbies, do sports, follow up on the things you've always wanted to but couldn't because marriage has tied you down.

And remember - you're not single; you're a bachelor. Single guys are lonely and desperate. Bachelors are the confident and sauve type women go for.

All great advice, but the fact that he has kids will likely make it a sadder, tougher transition. Where as, you're making it sound like it's a blessing and a great opportunity, which would likely be more true for someone who was married without kids and got divorced.

Although, who am I to say? Everyone's different.

[KootenayFlamesFan]

Guess I'll be the Debbie Downer of the group, but I just deleted some of the more useless posts in this thread. There's a time and place for jokes and whatnot, but it's pretty obvious the OP was looking for some advice from some of the members, not cheap jokes or cheap comments about him or his wife. It's a serious thread, not a place for some of you to try out some of your stand up routines.

Best of luck CC. I'm sure it's hit you like a ton of bricks, hope things work out as best as possible, especially in regards to the kids.

[Phanuthier]

Best of luck. I probably don't have much to add, but get out, get active, pick up a new hobby (preferably something active and maybe different, like fencing or something). Don't sit at home in front a computer and feel sorry for yourself. Hope all goes well.

[Skyceman]

I'm sorry to hear that mate. I'd really suggest seeking counselling. There are many reasons to break up a marriage (abuse, etc) but "losing that loving feeling" is definitely one that can be worked through and to me not worth breaking up a family over. Many marriages on the brink have been saved through counselling. Sometimes marriages go into a downtime and is part of a cycle in marriage and life.

Maybe take some time away for awhile - just the both of you to recharge or rekindle. I really hope you guys can patch things up again. Something I once learnt that holds true for me. Love is a verb. Love is action. Love is something we choose to do once we are past the romance stage. It's something we must be proactive with.

Anyways that's my best advice friend. Take care.

[FanIn80]

That sucks man. I don't have any experience to share or advice to give...

But, if you want to look on the bright side, at least you don't play for the Oilers. That always helps me feel better when I'm down.