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prarieboy · 06-26-2009, 10:09 AM

My long time co-worker is hosting his daughters wedding this weekend and i'm not sure how much to put in the card. We have opted for cash instead of a gift.

It promises to be a pretty lavish affair at the Palliser.

Any thoughts? I haven't been to a wedding in years, what's the going rate?

bigtmac19 · 06-26-2009, 10:10 AM

I believe $200 per couple is pretty standard these days.

prarieboy · 06-26-2009, 10:11 AM

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Originally Posted by bigtmac19

I believe $200 per couple is pretty standard these days.

My goodness, things have changed.

Wait a minute, your not getting married this weekend are you????

Bertuzzied · 06-26-2009, 10:13 AM

Great thread.
How about if a wedding is being held at the Rimrock in Banff? I was thinking $300. Is that enough?

alltherage · 06-26-2009, 10:16 AM

I have heard the rule of thumb is $50 per person... maybe more if you are generous/closer to the person/etc.

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To be honest, I think you should just give whatever you are comfortable with. I would say $100 between the two of you is safe, but if you guys are making good money and want to give more, do it! It's all about the thought, right?

Table 5 · 06-26-2009, 10:16 AM

Wow, I must be a cheapskate! Considering you don't even know the bride and groom, i was gonna say a $100-125 for the both of you.

prarieboy · 06-26-2009, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Table 5

Wow, I must be a cheapskate! Considering you don't even know the bride and groom, i was gonna say a $100-125 for the both of you.

I don't know the bride and groom. I meet the Bride last Christmas but I've known her Dad for years. I was thinking $100 but thought prices have gone up. I don't know.

corporatejay · 06-26-2009, 10:19 AM

Yeah, i think the rule of thumb is to cover your dinner which typically is 50/person. Obviously if you are closer you'll give more. If you're going to the palliser it's probably more like $75 a person.

You Need a Thneed · 06-26-2009, 10:22 AM

$200? $300?!? For a daughter of a co-worker? I should have invited you guys to my wedding.

awildermode · 06-26-2009, 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by corporatejay

Yeah, i think the rule of thumb is to cover your dinner which typically is 50/person. Obviously if you are closer you'll give more. If you're going to the palliser it's probably more like $75 a person.

dinner usually around $100 per person.

typical wedding in an average venue will start at $20,000.

Table 5 · 06-26-2009, 10:28 AM

Good thing I hate the jews and chinese!

LChoy · 06-26-2009, 10:29 AM

Chinese wedding are weird in the monetary gift amounts because people try to have the number "8" in it for good luck
ie. $188, $288...

mykalberta · 06-26-2009, 10:29 AM

Are you friends with this co worker - example have you done things out of work together?

I would have to assume so else in the invitation seems strange. I can see your problem. $200 seems steep but $100 is too low, and if you are going to do 150 why not do 200.

Table 5 · 06-26-2009, 10:30 AM

so $8 bucks would be better than $100? saweet.

albertGQ · 06-26-2009, 10:32 AM

It depends what the dinner is, what type of bar (open, toonie, etc) and how close you are to the bride and groom.

My last two weddings I've attended, I gave $200

Boblobla · 06-26-2009, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by awildermode

dinner usually around $100 per person.

typical wedding in an average venue will start at $20,000.

As someone who is getting married this summer you numbers are incorrect. Way too high. For 20,000 you could have a wedding for about 100 at Spruce Meadows, that is a little better than average.

JBR · 06-26-2009, 10:44 AM

Same situation for me. Wife and I spent a little over $1100 to fly to my 2nd cousin's wedding this summer. Does the $100 per person still apply?

HelloHockeyFans · 06-26-2009, 10:54 AM

The food at Chinese weddings is fantastic.

prarieboy · 06-26-2009, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by mykalberta

Are you friends with this co worker - example have you done things out of work together?

I would have to assume so else in the invitation seems strange. I can see your problem. $200 seems steep but $100 is too low, and if you are going to do 150 why not do 200.

Yes, we have been friends for years, golfed, over at each others house for drinks a few times, hang out together at work functions, etc.

I'm starting to lean towards $150. I like the pay for your dinner guideline and I'm thinking the Palliser would be around $75 a plate.

Resolute 14 · 06-26-2009, 11:01 AM

My sister wanted cash in lieu of gifts because she and her fiancee wanted to buy a place. I bought her a cheap, wooden vase and put $250 worth of $20s inside of it, and $50 worth of pennies. She wasn't impressed. She was even less impressed when she was laughed at by the bank teller who wanted to know why she was depositing 5000 pennies.

In this case, I'd probably go $150-200 as well, if they were good friends.