No Sex for 3 Months.

[krazycanuck]

just get some roofies.

[mikey_the_redneck]

I personally think 3 months is a little extreme. I may ummmm, burst a little too quick in that case. I would agree to 10 days at the most, if she really wanted it.

[FireFly]

Originally Posted by 4X4

Pfft. Not so. Respecting his decision is one thing. Concocting scenarios is another. What if she's in a complicated pregnancy for 6 mo? What if a bus runs over my feet one day? Should I practice operating a wheelchair right now while my feet are fine?

All I know is that there's no way I'd give up sex in an LTR for no reason. I might as well start taking the bus for a few months just so that when I jump back in my truck, it's real special.

Lol. If you read the sequence of posts, I said that I respected the decision and then BA said it was a test and you should know beforehand whether or not your relationship is strong enough and blah blah. I was just pointing out that if it IS a test, it's better to pass or fail in advance of tying the knot.

Whether or not you could give up sex is a moot point to this conversation, however, if you did ban yourself from your truck, even for a week, I'm sure that you would love and appreciate it even more than you do now.

See, I think the thing about this decision is that it's not about physical wants, it's about making sure the connection is deeper than that. Really, go screw a hooker if all you want is to get off. If you don't love your girlfriend enough to go 3 months without any, it's probably a good thing you won't wait that long.

Originally Posted by BlackArcher101

So every relationship should go through a time of no sex to make sure it can happen in the future? I'm sorry, but that sounds 100% like a test and isn't increasing the strength of the relationship today or tomorrow. I would hope at this point that you both should have an idea how each other would react in certain situations without simulating them.

If it's not artifically making it stronger, then tell me how temporary abstinence actually strengthens the relationship?

Don't put words in my mouth. I never said every relationship should go through a trial like this. My best friends are going to do a trial separation and I don't recommend that to everyone either.

A temporary absinence like this one might ensure the couple actually has other things in common. I don't know the two people personally, so I can't say exactly how it would help but I'll give a 'for example'.

You and your girl have such an intense chemisty that you have sex on the first date. In fact, every time you see each other you have sex. You can't even recall any of the conversations you have and don't really even care what they're about because really, you're mostly concerned with having sex again. You move in together because then the sex is easier to access. Nights consist of sitting on the couch, watching tv, waiting for sexy time. See the issue here? Do you even like each other or is it strictly physical? And scoff if you will but you'll notice the divorce rate is really high... why is that? Perhaps if people thought less with their private parts and more with their heads and hearts, it wouldn't happen so often.

AGAIN, I'm not saying EVERY couple should do this. In fact, you're right. People should KNOW before they even get to the engagement stage that they're with the right person. However, we all know that that doesn't happen. If the relationship is good, this won't matter. Waiting until the wedding night will be fine, they'll make it through and in all likelihood, the wedding night will be extra special the second time. (I'd suggest you rub one out that morning anyway.) If the relationship is bad and can't handle a temporary abstinence, it probably wasn't meant to be anyway.

[Yeah_Baby]

Originally Posted by krazycanuck

just get some roofies.

They should really call those floories.

[HPLovecraft]

Relationships are different for everyone.

Hope it works out for you. Sex isn't the be all, end all of a serious relationships. Part of it, sure, but it ain't the game breaker. At least, it shouldn't be.

[iggnuef]

if she wants to experience "Quick Draw McGraw" on the wedding night, 3 months will do just fine

[alltherage]

After much deliberation, I told her I wanted to just forget the abstinence thing and go for that "second gear." Man... I don't know what the hell I was thinking.

[evilcougar]

Originally Posted by alltherage

After much deliberation, I told her I wanted to just forget the abstinence thing and go for that "second gear." Man... I don't know what the hell I was thinking.

.............her reaction??
I know i wouldn't argue. I also would never suggest or agree to such things....but...each to their own...and thats just me.

[alltherage]

Oh, she just laughed and agreed. We discussed some excellent ideas to spice up the honeymoon, so we'll be just fine.

[HPLovecraft]

Originally Posted by alltherage

Oh, she just laughed and agreed. We discussed some excellent ideas to spice up the honeymoon, so we'll be just fine.

Sex in the wedding dress??! *Runs to confessional*

[Shazam]

Originally Posted by HPLovecraft

Sex in the wedding dress??! *Runs to confessional*

And he's wearing the wedding dress! Kinky.

[jammies]

Originally Posted by FireFly

If your relationship can't handle going without sex for 3 months, it has serious issues.

There needs to be a term for this, which is like the opposite of "friends with benefits". "Uncoupling couple" maybe?

Self-denial is for when you want something you shouldn't have, not for when you want something that not only makes you, but someone else happy. Sex is not a vice and doesn't need to be repressed.

[HPLovecraft]

Originally Posted by jammies

There needs to be a term for this, which is like the opposite of "friends with benefits". "Uncoupling couple" maybe?

Self-denial is for when you want something you shouldn't have, not for when you want something that not only makes you, but someone else happy. Sex is not a vice and doesn't need to be repressed.

Lol, 'repressing' isn't really the point in something like this... It may make them happy or happier to practice abstinence for 3 months before marriage. Is that bad? Because it does make them happy. But if you can't understand why someone may choose to do this with someone else, then, meh, I guess. It'll all go over your head anyways.

[CaptainCrunch]

On your wedding night you can take it up a level

[Traditional_Ale]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

On your wedding night you can take it up a level

Who started the trombone joke, anyway? KipperIsKing? I thought he needed help cleaning it?

Sorry to be off-topic.

[BuzzardsWife]

I personally don't think abstaining is going to make it more special on the wedding night. If anything, it could cause a wedding cancellation!!!!! My husband would have laughed at me if I had suggested this. I think we did it the morning of the wedding day.

[4X4]

Originally Posted by BuzzardsWife

I think we did it the morning of the wedding day.

[ben voyonsdonc]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

On your wedding night you can take it up a level

That trombone isn't nearly rusty enough.

[Sylvanfan]

Originally Posted by alltherage

Oh, she just laughed and agreed. We discussed some excellent ideas to spice up the honeymoon, so we'll be just fine.

Well considering that you started this thread, than posted this, you might as well get a web cam and broadcast yourselves on the Internet. Seems as if you like your sex life being somewhat public.

[Ozy_Flame]

You'd be surprised at how well a swingers club can do your relationship wonders