Nice Guys...She's using you!!!

[Bring_Back_Shantz]

Originally Posted by kermitology

Also.. wear a suit. You look good in a suit. It improves your awesome.

You can be awesome and not be a ###### too.. Just saying.

This is great advice.

Sometimes when I'm sad, I find the easiest thing to do is to just stop being sad, and be awesome instead. Then I suit up, and I feel that much better.

[missdpuck]

Originally Posted by STeeLy

There's a major difference between being nice and sucking up/ass kissing.

Bending over backwards for you, constant compliments, etc... that's ass kissing

Helping you because they are close by/doing something unimportant, giving you a lift home because you live close, etc... that's being nice.

Yeah that is nice but it's not going to make me like you!

[Bring_Back_Shantz]

The important thing to reaize in this whole "Being a nice guy" thing, is that "Being a nice guy" doesn't lead to becoming a "being a nice guy" is a synomym for "Already is a friend".

If you don't belive me (and I realize I'm preaching to the choir here) think about this. When was the last time you heard a girl make a statement even remotly close to the following:

"What a crazy night, he railed me seven ways to Sunday, and in positions I didn't even know were physicially possible. He was such a nice guy."

[missdpuck]

Originally Posted by GreenTeaFrapp

What a brilliant observation! You are truly one of smartest and most observant people on here.

What happened to the nasty disagreeable Frapp I (virtually) know and love? Now get lost you loser!!!!

[STeeLy]

Originally Posted by Bring_Back_Shantz

The important thing to reaize in this whole "Being a nice guy" thing, is that "Being a nice guy" doesn't lead to becoming a "being a nice guy" is a synomym for "Already is and Will only ever be a friend".

I think this works better.

[missdpuck]

Originally Posted by Bring_Back_Shantz

The important thing to reaize in this whole "Being a nice guy" thing, is that "Being a nice guy" doesn't lead to becoming a "being a nice guy" is a synomym for "Already is a friend".

If you don't belive me (and I realize I'm preaching to the choir here) think about this. When was the last time you heard a girl make a statement even remotly close to the following:

"What a crazy night, he railed me seven ways to Sunday, and in positions I didn't even know were physicially possible. He was such a nice guy."

Check the NHL Girlfriends forum.

[FireFly]

I disagree with all that crap. A guy ends up in my friend zone if he isn't attractive enough to be in my bed. Shallow? Sure. But if I don't want to sleep with you, I won't. After that if he's a ######, he'll be in no zone. If he's hot but spineless, he'll be in the friend zone, but he can work his way out. Like the confessions about all of a sudden finding a friend attractive and wanting a relationship... that happens.

[troutman]

Being rich and handsome makes being nice/being a jerk, irrelevant.

[Frank the Tank]

I need to copy this whole thread and send it to my brother.......the perenial "friend zone" male.

[albertGQ]

Originally Posted by troutman

Being rich and handsome makes being nice/being a jerk, irrelevant.

Girls will marry the rich and handsome, but will cheat on them with the jerks and @$$holes

[missdpuck]

Yeah but Tom Brady is Tom Brady. It al depends on what you mean by "nice", or whether you're looking for one night or a relationship. It all boils down to the fact that you can't make someone be attracted to you !

[Rerun]

Wear a wedding ring. Women always want want they figure they can't have.
Plus they see the wedding ring, they think you're one of the good ones thats taken.

Plus, having an affair with someone they think is married, adds excitement and spice to their life.

P.S. This only works on women who are below a certain age. That certain age is when their biological clock starts ticking and they want to settle down and have kids... therefore they usually don't give married men a second look.... thats where they turn to the safe, reliable, friend zone...

[troutman]

Originally Posted by missdpuck

Yeah but Tom Brady is Tom Brady.

This SNL skit featuring Tom Brady, summarizes this thread very nicely:

http://snltranscripts.jt.org/04/04qfunhouse.phtml

Announcer: See? It can be done. You can have sex with women at work without losing your job, by following a few simple rules:

[ the rules are displayed on-screen with accompanying check marks ]

Be Handsome..

Be Attractive..

and Don't Be Unattractive.

[GreenTeaFrapp]

Originally Posted by Ozy_Flame

Trust me, if it's greater than 9 inches she'll at least sit there for a few seconds enamored with it.

What you call "enamored", I call "getting a good description for the cops".

[missdpuck]

Originally Posted by troutman

Being rich and handsome makes being nice/being a jerk, irrelevant.

Originally Posted by GreenTeaFrapp

What you call "enamored", I call "getting a good description for the cops".

Aha those useless extra inches are good for something after all.

[sadora]

I would disagree by saying that guys need to be jerks to get laid. You need to show some backbone and a total interest in self improvement. Whether you're dating or simply friends with a girl, you have to come first above anything and any girl.

There are some benefits to having female friends, besides the obvious insight into the female psyche, they also have many more girlfriends which could turn into something for you. My best friend is a girl and I've fooled around with a handful of her friends, and I've slept with a couple of them.

There is nothing wrong with being nice, just don't let yourself become a doormat who puts girls on pedestals and does whatever they want.

[Gozer]

Originally Posted by sadora

Whether you're dating or simply friends with a girl, you have to come first above anything and any girl.

*snicker*

[Wookie]

Originally Posted by fotze

Now that is the truth right there. Not some elaborate game of crap and future mate testing garbage. Tom Brady is a total ######, she will sleep with him, Tom Brady is the nicest smotheriest guy in the world, she will sleep with him.

Women are just as big shallow pricks as us guys but they dress up the 'prickness' more and better than we do.

One difference, girls usually trade down in looks for money, a guy would do the opposite.

[missdpuck]

Originally Posted by Rerun

Wear a wedding ring. Women always want want they figure they can't have.
Plus they see the wedding ring, they think you're one of the good ones thats taken.

Plus, having an affair with someone they think is married, adds excitement and spice to their life.

P.S. This only works on women who are below a certain age. That certain age is when their biological clock starts ticking and they want to settle down and have kids... therefore they usually don't give married men a second look.... thats where they turn to the safe, reliable, friend zone...

Wow those women are insane!!! Married men have always scared me. Woman can be ....well to each her own I guess.

[sadora]

Originally Posted by Gozer

*snicker*

I knew that was ummm, coming. I'm just glad I got the spelling right.