I can't believe people even ask about how many previous partners. If a girl asked me that I'd tell her to forget about it and not bring it up again. If she persisted, that'd be grounds for dumping.
Think it was the cat who walks through walls where the budding couple went to a machine that essentially gave them a clean bill of health at the time of testing.
Which would also be interesting, broaching the subject of multiple partners and diseases with your SO.
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Yeah, I've only had one partner ever even ask about the number of partners I've had (I gave an approximate number - less than X - and that was good enough for her). Similarly I've never asked any partner (and only one ever volunteered that information). As a married man this is all a pretty academic discussion from my perspective, but if you're looking for a relationship, you should be more concerned about their capacity for fidelity, and asking about the number of partners doesn't necessarily tell you that. There are men and women out there who have had a low number of partners but still find it impossible to commit to one, and there are men and women who have had large numbers in total but who have never cheated on a partner. I've known people who fit into both categories.
Geez... when are girls gonna give guys with 0 previous partners a chance?
I don't think I would have a problem with that.
I should qualify that however, that I am referring to most of you on here and your relative ages. If I was still that age, I wouldn't have a problem with it. If it was someone in my age range then I would have a problem with it because then it would just be strange.
I can't believe people even ask about how many previous partners. If a girl asked me that I'd tell her to forget about it and not bring it up again. If she persisted, that'd be grounds for dumping.
Agreed! I have never asked someone how many previous partners they've had. For myself I really don't find it relevant. If I like the guy, does it matter how many girls he's slept with? Not really. As long as he doesn't have any funky diseases, then I'm good. Plus, I find that once you've been seeing someone for a while, you'll probably hear a bit about their exes, and you'll probably get a general idea about their history. But I'd never straight out demand to know how many people someone slept with... its not really valuable, or necessary, information to me.
Agreed! I have never asked someone how many previous partners they've had. For myself I really don't find it relevant. If I like the guy, does it matter how many girls he's slept with? Not really. As long as he doesn't have any funky diseases, then I'm good. Plus, I find that once you've been seeing someone for a while, you'll probably hear a bit about their exes, and you'll probably get a general idea about their history. But I'd never straight out demand to know how many people someone slept with... its not really valuable, or necessary, information to me.
I don't know. Just look at my friend for an example here. She was recently seeing a guy and ended up meeting one of his work buddies. She told me about how before she knew the first guy, his work friend had taken her drunk ass home from the bar and done all sorts of kinky, freaky stuff with her.
Guess what happened when the guy she was seeing heard the same story? I don't want to take a girl that I really like out and run into three different dudes that have plowed her senseless.
I don't know. Just look at my friend for an example here. She was recently seeing a guy and ended up meeting one of his work buddies. She told me about how before she knew the first guy, his work friend had taken her drunk ass home from the bar and done all sorts of kinky, freaky stuff with her.
Guess what happened when the guy she was seeing heard the same story? I don't want to take a girl that I really like out and run into three different dudes that have plowed her senseless.
Well that I understand, no one wants to be with the girl or guy that EVERYONE has been with. That could make for some awkward situations.
The only point that I was making was just that I wouldn't ask someone upfront that I was with how many people they've slept with. If I like them, that shouldn't matter. But I do agree with you that I wouldn't want to be with someone that everyone I know has a kinky story about. Nor would I want to be the one that everyone has a story about!
I don't know. Just look at my friend for an example here. She was recently seeing a guy and ended up meeting one of his work buddies. She told me about how before she knew the first guy, his work friend had taken her drunk ass home from the bar and done all sorts of kinky, freaky stuff with her.
Guess what happened when the guy she was seeing heard the same story? I don't want to take a girl that I really like out and run into three different dudes that have plowed her senseless.
But what if it was a Victoria's Secret model that you knew was WAY out of your league? Would you care if she had slept with tons of guys? Or would you just be happy that you were involved with someone 99% of guys would kill for?
Well that I understand, no one wants to be with the girl or guy that EVERYONE has been with. That could make for some awkward situations.
Exactly. My friend that I referred to previously is always dating/seeing people but the guy usually takes off as soon as she wants a serious relationship. Her problem is that she usually sleeps with the guys within the first two weeks of knowing them.
I try to explain to her that we're not idiots. We know if you're comfortable enough to sleep with us on the first date, then you've probably gone home with a few randoms and probably have some skeletons in the closet. Not many guys want to see that type of girl for anything other than a short-term physical relationship.
But what if it was a Victoria's Secret model that you knew was WAY out of your league? Would you care if she had slept with tons of guys? Or would you just be happy that you were involved with someone 99% of guys would kill for?
I'd sleep with her but I wouldn't date her. There are lots of girls I'd sleep with. That doesn't mean I want a relationship with them.
No it doesnt. I am sure from the female perspective its the same as well.
There are women who you would date, but not want to marry them.
Well mayube it does, if it does, count me in the hypocrite crowd.
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No it doesnt. I am sure from the female perspective its the same as well.
There are women who you would date, but not want to marry them.
Well mayube it does, if it does, count me in the hypocrite crowd.
I meant more that it's okay for me if I sleep with a high number of random women but it's not what I want in my ideal mate. That being said:
a) I don't generally sleep around with random women. I have two one-night stands to my name and one of them was with a really good friend of mine where we both happened to drink too much rum, which she later admitted had been planned by her because she hadn't gotten any in a while.
b) If I did do that kind of thing and I met a girl who didn't want a serious relationship with me, then I would completely understand.
