I wish that after you broke up with a girl, she wasn't allowed to get with other guys. It would make it so much easier.
Just track the guy down, join his rec league, and then before your team plays his, mention how you just can't understand why he'd be interested in your sloppy seconds.
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I'm actually the opposite. I care more about how many guys a girl has slept with before me. It's totally hypocritical, but I would never date a chick who has had more than 10 different partners. I'd sleep with that same girl but I'd never date her.
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I'm actually the opposite. I care more about how many guys a girl has slept with before me. It's totally hypocritical, but I would never date a chick who has had more than 10 different partners. I'd sleep with that same girl but I'd never date her.
I can understand your position. It's likely that anyone who has slept with that many people before you will realize what a terrible lay you likely are.
There's a question in there though... Most of us were horny kids at one point though. What if a person sleeps around as an 18-20 year old but then realizes how stupid that is and learns to keep their drawers on? Do you still hold it against them when they're 25-30?
Worse yet is men who want their gf to be virginal, and yet expect them to put out by date 3 at the latest.
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I can understand your position. It's likely that anyone who has slept with that many people before you will realize what a terrible lay you likely are.
There's a question in there though... Most of us were horny kids at one point though. What if a person sleeps around as an 18-20 year old but then realizes how stupid that is and learns to keep their drawers on? Do you still hold it against them when they're 25-30?
Worse yet is men who want their gf to be virginal, and yet expect them to put out by date 3 at the latest.
Every guy wants his woman to be easy, but only for him.
As to your previous question it sounds like it is right out of Chasing Amy. Depends on how dirty she was. Everyone has done things they were ashamed of. Blowing guys in the parking lot so that they'll pay for your drinks is a little on the dirty end. Also depends on how much I like her and how much she has changed. Some girls just tone it down but have that deeply ingrained whore in there. Some just realize that acting like a whore isn't cool. Some never change at all and become strippers and pornstars.
I hope I don't offend anyone by saying whore so much. Perhaps low standards, sleeps around a lot, or just plain slut would've done.
Every guy wants his woman to be easy, but only for him.
As to your previous question it sounds like it is right out of Chasing Amy. Depends on how dirty she was. Everyone has done things they were ashamed of. Blowing guys in the parking lot so that they'll pay for your drinks is a little on the dirty end. Also depends on how much I like her and how much she has changed. Some girls just tone it down but have that deeply ingrained whore in there. Some just realize that acting like a whore isn't cool. Some never change at all and become strippers and pornstars.
I hope I don't offend anyone by saying whore so much. Perhaps low standards, sleeps around a lot, or just plain slut would've done.
I'm more confused by how you use whore. What would be 'toning it down' but still having a whore ingrained in there? What I'm talking about is someone who doesn't sleep around anymore, but still likes the dirty sex, is just more picky about who gets it. Doesn't every man want 'a lady in the street but a freak in the bed'?
And why is it dirty for a girl to give a hummer in a parking lot for drinks, but a guy who pays for a hummer in the parking lot with drinks isn't just a dirty?
I'm sorry, but men's double standards are ridiculous.
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I wouldnt consider chicks who are a demon in the sack to be whores. I find the pious innocent chicks are usually the ones who get a lil freaky. Like they've got this bad side trapped within just waiting to escape. Whore is a word used to describe the chick you've been dating for months who jumps in the sack with your pals and you're left wondering wtf happened.
I'm more confused by how you use whore. What would be 'toning it down' but still having a whore ingrained in there? What I'm talking about is someone who doesn't sleep around anymore, but still likes the dirty sex, is just more picky about who gets it. Doesn't every man want 'a lady in the street but a freak in the bed'?
And why is it dirty for a girl to give a hummer in a parking lot for drinks, but a guy who pays for a hummer in the parking lot with drinks isn't just a dirty?
I'm sorry, but men's double standards are ridiculous.
WOW. I never once said it wasn't dirty for guys. Try not to randomly rant about something I said without provocation.
We are talking about women, not men. You want to have a discussion about double standards then say so.
Instead we are talking about previous partners that females have had. So your example is a female who had a wild streak, but now has a more normal sex life and standards for partners have increased, so she isn't having 2 partners a week. Yet she has retained the freak in her and likes to be dirty in bed.
Probably fine as long as I believe her. Some girls tone it down not because they want to but because of pressure or other reasons.
That being said being dirty and slutty are not mutually exclusive. I would say there is definitely an association (ie more likely to be dirty if slutty) but by no means is that a proven standard.
I've known many a female that could count all their partners (i consider oral sex and beyond enough to be a "partner") on one hand, but would go ATM in a second if you asked nice.
Vice versa I've know reputed "sluts" that had the fish out water syndrome. Just flop around until you stop moving and then it is over.
WOW. I never once said it wasn't dirty for guys. Try not to randomly rant about something I said without provocation.
Actually, I kept gender out of the question/example in my first post for a reason, thereby changing the discussion to include male sluts. Sorry you didn't catch on to that. That's why when you went back to discussing just women, I thought you were suggesting the man in the situation was not at fault. And if you think that's a rant... well. It's not. It was a comment on how generally, men are given a free pass and a high five for doing things women are called sluts for. If you don't agree, that's fine.
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We are talking about women, not men. You want to have a discussion about double standards then say so.
I'm fine. This is a random thoughts thread, that's a whole thread on it's own.
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Instead we are talking about previous partners that females have had. So your example is a female who had a wild streak, but now has a more normal sex life and standards for partners have increased, so she isn't having 2 partners a week. Yet she has retained the freak in her and likes to be dirty in bed.
As I said, my example was gender neutral. You put a gender on it.
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Probably fine as long as I believe her. Some girls tone it down not because they want to but because of pressure or other reasons.
That being said being dirty and slutty are not mutually exclusive. I would say there is definitely an association (ie more likely to be dirty if slutty) but by no means is that a proven standard.
I've known many a female that could count all their partners (i consider oral sex and beyond enough to be a "partner") on one hand, but would go ATM in a second if you asked nice.
Vice versa I've know reputed "sluts" that had the fish out water syndrome. Just flop around until you stop moving and then it is over.
So then the question is, what's the limit? Why hold it against them at all? Why bring it up? If what really matters is their personality now, what difference does it make if they've had 5 or 50 partners? Shouldn't the only requirement be that it's exclusive?
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Actually, I kept gender out of the question/example in my first post for a reason, thereby changing the discussion to include male sluts. Sorry you didn't catch on to that. That's why when you went back to discussing just women, I thought you were suggesting the man in the situation was not at fault. And if you think that's a rant... well. It's not. It was a comment on how generally, men are given a free pass and a high five for doing things women are called sluts for. If you don't agree, that's fine.
I'm fine. This is a random thoughts thread, that's a whole thread on it's own.
As I said, my example was gender neutral. You put a gender on it.
So then the question is, what's the limit? Why hold it against them at all? Why bring it up? If what really matters is their personality now, what difference does it make if they've had 5 or 50 partners? Shouldn't the only requirement be that it's exclusive?
I'll say fair enough to your earlier comments of this post. I am equally defensive of how angry girls can get about the double standards. I don't want to get into a big debate but genetically and at a primitive instinctual level women have tended to chose the males, while males have attempted to maximize their mating abilities, just like in real nature. But I digress, that is for another debate. Don't let my comments make you think I think guys being sluts are ok, but that there may be an instinctual nature for men to proliferate partners and for women to be more choosy and apportion out sex a little more tightly.
So what is the limit?
I'm not sure. Never met a girl that I really like that I was suspicious that she had more than a very reasonable number of sexual partners. I'd say the limit is directly proportional to how she handled letting me know she had some previous indiscretions and how much I like/love her.
I don't think that exclusivity only matters and that the past is the past. There is a certain aspect that what a person was determines who they are now. Think of the same situation but with an analogy what if they killed someone. If they lost their urge to kill would I still want to be with them? I know murder is a little more serious than sex but still.
I guess the big things for me is that she didn't do anything too horrible. Any chick that has been the subject of video taped stuff - I don't want my kids, or me or my friends to see my wife getting nailed on the internet - likewise if I found out she did things like Bukake or something I'd be pretty appalled.
Furthermore, she'd have to at least realize that that type of activity isn't cool. Not that she'd have to feel shame per se, but that she feels that having more respect for oneself and body is more important than that.
Exclusive to me would be almost good enough. As long as I wasn't worried, suspicious etc it could work. I think anything above 20 and I'd be a little suspicious no matter what. If she's my age, 24, and she started at 16 then that is 2.5 partners per year. That means that she'd avg a partner every 5 months. That means either she had a really bad streak with a partner a week for several months or she has never had a long term relationship, ever. Neither of those two scenarios are cool I don't think.
So you've 'known' MANY women like this? Were you all 18 at the time? Do you suppose they can still count their partners on one hand?
And if you've known MANY (your word, not mine,) aren't you holding them to a standard you yourself cannot reach? (If that is indeed the standard.)
But then we're getting into the double standard talk again. That wasn't the point.
Many in this context is like 4. Not that many girls do ATM.
And like 2 of them are exes.
And no I don't think they could still count there partners on one hand. Well one at least. The other was like 27 and got married about a year after we broke up. (I was 22 or 23 at the time) The other chick though seemed like the type that really wanted to use college to make her stock drop by record amounts. Wouldn't be surprised if she went on a wild streak when we broke up when I was about 20-21. She was only at 2 with me I think. Wouldn't be surprised if she increased that 5 fold, at least. But hey that's my opinion. For all I know she hasn't been with a guy since.
Why do I tend to put off going to bed? I really regret it in the morning when I wish I had more sleep but at night I think that I'll go to bed in five minutes and then keep repeating that thought. It's like a reverse snooze button. The worst is putting it off until I fall asleep on the couch for an hour or two.
I don't want to date a woman who sleeps around and does the same sorts of things as a man simply because that tells me she must have the sex drive of a man.
If that's the case, there's no way I could trust her.
