Is there such a thing as a lover that got away?

[MrMastodonFarm]

Originally Posted by Traditional_Ale

I'm amazed how quickly a bunch of predominantly male internet geeks will jump so vehemently down the throat of the opposite sex in situations where emotional insensitivity is displayed.

It would seem to me that when the emotional insensitivity is coming from the male, we would be reading a thread about how he was eternally justified and high fives and beers all around.

You go girl.

[Bill Bumface]

Originally Posted by Dion

Way to take a comment out of perspective. If you had asked from a health perspective i'd be concerned like anyone else.

My original point in this thread is that looks aside, someone obese wouldn't do it for me because of lifestyle reasons and the obvious disregard for their health.

It will be a good race between the Crisco truck in reverse and you back peddling in this thread.

[Dion]

Originally Posted by hulkrogan

My original point in this thread is that looks aside, someone obese wouldn't do it for me because of lifestyle reasons and the obvious disregard for their health.

Go out with whoever you want. I have no problem with that.

It will be a good race between the Crisco truck in reverse and you back peddling in this thread.

It will be neither as you are wrong.

[flip]

Originally Posted by Dion

When someone says they're better than THAT, plus the commets of her being short, fat, and ugly I'm not sure how else you could interpret the statement. I thought it was a shallow comment - especially the ugly part.

Be happy for the guy and that he has found someone he likes.

Just to very clear here. You are saying that when she says the other girl is short fat and ugly that she is then a better person.

Shallow comment aside (don't worry GirlySports I see where you are coming from even if you were a little harsh) you are saying that you think that if she says the other girl is ugly that she is insinuating that she must be a better person.

To me it shows that you are associating looks with personality because at no point did she mention personality, but you did assume that is what she meant. Now I'm not trying to say you are wrong or anything but I do find it interesting that you so quickly associated these two things. Are being good looking and a good person somehow perceived to be mutually exclusive to most humans? Unfortunately I think so, and I'm probably one of those people.

Let's look at it in reverse, assume she said she was a better person and had only seen her we would be left to assume it was based on looks?

And from what you've said if someone thinks the other person is ugly, fat and short then they are saying that they are better than the other person now you may not agree but I think you are definately showing that you know that is how people seem to operate and you yourself associated looks with "better person".

[Bill Bumface]

Originally Posted by Dion

It will be neither as you are wrong.

I've displayed your contradictions several times using quotes as actual evidence of them.

You throw out "you are wrong".

Care to fill me in why? Or are you concussed from falling off your high horse?

[Hack&Lube]

Originally Posted by Traditional_Ale

I'm amazed how quickly a bunch of predominantly male internet geeks will jump so vehemently down the throat of the opposite sex in situations where emotional insensitivity is displayed.

It would seem to me that when the emotional insensitivity is coming from the male, we would be reading a thread about how he was eternally justified and high fives and beers all around.

I agree. Good post.

[Dion]

Originally Posted by hulkrogan

I've displayed your contradictions several times using quotes as actual evidence of them.

You throw out "you are wrong".

Care to fill me in why? Or are you concussed from falling off your high horse?

Are you really looking for clarification? Your snide remarks say otherwise.

[Bring_Back_Shantz]

Originally Posted by Dion

Are you really looking for clarification? Your snide remarks say otherwise.

Snide or not, he makes a point, and you've not addressed it. Nor have you addressed mine.

Your original statement was that looks and weight don't matter to you.
You then made statements the directly contradicted this.
So which is it?

[Dion]

Originally Posted by Bring_Back_Shantz

Snide or not, he makes a point, and you've not addressed it. Nor have you addressed mine.

Your original statement was that looks and weight don't matter to you.
You then made statements the directly contradicted this.
So which is it?

Weight doen't matter in terms of someone asking me out for a date. That doesn't mean that i'm not concerned for their health. I'm not going to to turn down a date based on someones weight but i will help them in losing it.

[Antithesis]

If I'm being honest with myself, I've thought the same exact thing as you did on occasion, GS, both in terms of specifically "why isn't she with me?" (obviously no longer as I am terribly happy with my wife and our relationship) or "why is she with him?" I do think there's a distinction there, by the way.

It's never 'fair' to do and I don't think you're trying to say that it is, in fact, I think you're being pretty upfront about it being not the best way to react, but it happens to the vast majority of people.

My wife's friend was dating this guy who I thought was a complete turd sandwich. He dressed like a G, in fact, if the wind got up, he'd have blown away, he talked like dis and dat, and my wife told me stories about their relationship which were not flattering to the guy. Somehow I determined that he was not worthy of her (it turns out he wasn't) because he dressed like he thought he was a rapper and he talked like he had marbles in his mouth while she was a pretty, educated, successful businesswoman.

I've told this type of thing to my students before as well: no matter what, when you get right down to it, interaction between possible lovers is all about reproduction initially (maybe I don't use those words exactly) and anyone who says otherwise, in my opinion, is not being honest with themselves. How do you determine if a potential mate has a 'nice personality' within three seconds of meeting them? You can't.

[SebC]

Originally Posted by troutman

If spreading genes was the only priority, women would marry rich men, and get pregnant by handsome athletic studs.

Apparently, many of them do: http://fathersforlife.org/fatherhood/paternity_1.htm

At least one in 10 children was not sired by the man who believes he is their father, according to scientists in paternity testing laboratories.

Originally Posted by GirlySports

And haven't you guys all mumbled the phrase, "What's she doing with him?" at least once in a lifetime?

I call this the "Sean Avery" principle. Hot girls go for ######bags. I don't know why. There's even a site devoted to Babes with ######bags.

Also know one super hot young lady who I had a crush on who's now with a fat, ugly man, but that's a lot rarer. And we totally clicked when we met, but lived in different cities. Missed opportunity, but I'm still happy for her and now I'm looking for the next one.

Don't worry about finding someone. Other than this little outburst you seem like you'd be a great girl for many guys:

- total sports fan, not just hockey but also soccer, Olympics etc.
- must have some money, since you're in management
- claims not to appreciate other women, but created a thread specifically so we could post pictures of hotties (and except Taylor Hanson, female hotties).

(Now before you get any ideas, you're a bit too old for me - and oh yeah, that's all useless without pics. Sorry.)

[Coach]

Theres a girl from high school who I had a big ordeal with. I was always very fond of her and at one point thought i was in love with her. She went back and forth trying to decide whether she wanted to be with me for a long time. So over the summer i made myself a better person and made myself look better but near the end of the summer she started dating someone else (They are still together today and hes a nice enough looking guy). I ended up landing the girl of my dreams a few weeks later. We'll have been together for 2 years next month. Sometimes i still wonder how my life wouldve been different if i had changed just one thing i did that probably wouldve landed her for me. But i think my life is better now than it wouldve ever been with her. Theres always hope Girly

[Cliche]

Originally Posted by GirlySports

We were never in a relationship. It was just me fawning over him.
I'm not mad that he didn't choose me. I haven't seen him for 7 years and I'm pretty sure he had chosen someone by now. I was just shocked by the quality of his choice. And because of that those feelings came back.

It's very weird to me.

You should trick yourself and decide that you are indeed out of his league, and that the girl he did end up with, well, he deserves that, and not you. Obviously, you should try to spin it as that high maintenance deserves high cost, and obviously he's just being a cheap . Decide that you narrowly avoided getting entangled with a person with poorer taste than you.

You ought to nip this in the bud, and either take it out on your bf, or find a random stranger so you can call out your unrequited loves name with passion as you do other more physical activities.

[Cawz]

Originally Posted by J pold

Either way it doesn’t mean you are missing out on ‘the one’ because there is no such thing.

I believe in 'the one'. I've met lots of them in my life...

[jammies]

I don't see what the big deal is, I wonder all the time how some ######bag gets with the superhottie, or why some of my buddies have wives that are hideous shrews; it is perplexing how that works out sometimes and asking why is hardly a crime of the same caliber as pitchforking babies into a bonfire.

As far as making value judgements about how people look goes, that is hard-wired into the brain and you can't get away from it any more than you can train yourself not to salivate when you are hungry and smell food. Tall, slim, good-looking people are perceived as more intelligent and interesting than short, chubby, plain ones, and that isn't ever going to change. You have a better chance of fixing this by using genetic engineering to make everyone attractive than trying to use social engineering to overcome a bias that has been selected for over thousands of generations of human evolution.

[flip]

Originally Posted by jammies

I don't see what the big deal is, I wonder all the time how some ######bag gets with the superhottie, or why some of my buddies have wives that are hideous shrews; it is perplexing how that works out sometimes and asking why is hardly a crime of the same caliber as pitchforking babies into a bonfire.

As far as making value judgements about how people look goes, that is hard-wired into the brain and you can't get away from it any more than you can train yourself not to salivate when you are hungry and smell food. Tall, slim, good-looking people are perceived as more intelligent and interesting than short, chubby, plain ones, and that isn't ever going to change. You have a better chance of fixing this by using genetic engineering to make everyone attractive than trying to use social engineering to overcome a bias that has been selected for over thousands of generations of human evolution.

Very well said.

I'm sure I'm not the only person who has lowered their standards after meeting an ok looking girl only to realize I really liked her and have her looks grow on me.

On the same token I'm sure I'm not the only one who has had a girl interested in him (well ok maybe I am this is an internet forum afterall) only to turn her down, whether I know her personality or not because I know that I won't be attracted to her based on looks.

[Rathji]

Originally Posted by HelloHockeyFans

Sorry - your reaction and judgement of his wife who you don't even know is ridiculous.

"Better than THAT"? Give me a break. Guess what, she's with him, you're not... keep thinking you're "better than that", but reality suggests otherwise.

This probably comes across harsh, but quite honest, your reaction and statement that his wife is "short, fat and ugly" is a lot harsher.

No sympathy from me... grow up.

+1

[flip]

Originally Posted by HelloHockeyFans

Sorry - your reaction and judgement of his wife who you don't even know is ridiculous.

"Better than THAT"? Give me a break. Guess what, she's with him, you're not... keep thinking you're "better than that", but reality suggests otherwise.

This probably comes across harsh, but quite honest, your reaction and statement that his wife is "short, fat and ugly" is a lot harsher.

No sympathy from me... grow up.

c'mon. Sure Girly was a little harsh but how many of you called the guys from the Funny or Not thread ######s and fags? Everyone in that thread is pilling it on so hard on the lululemon wearing queers who drink coolers, yet for a poster to say she is pissed because she is prettier than her old crush's current wife seems a little bit hypocritical.

Girly comes on here and tells people about a deeply personal experience that she is obviously a little bitter about (ok a lot bitter) and you guys tear her a new one?

I know what she said seemed shallow but let's keep in mind that her being rejected and then finding out that the guy who rejected her is now married to a woman who is far less attractive than girly can be pretty harsh on ones level of self-esteem, especially since I'm assuming girly is in her late teens early 20s as I think most of the people on here are.

You guys have to realize that not everyone has confidence in abundance and if she's showing that by acting rather harshly to finding out a guy she likes/liked is with a girl that she thinks she is prettier than it is quite understandable to me. Like she's the only one to ever feel bitter because she thinks she had more to offer than the other girl?

Here's what any guy who's ever had a girlfriend (heck even just friends who are girls) should have replied:

Girly I'm sure you really are far more attractive than that other cow and that jerk doesn't know what he's missing by passing up on you.

You have a lot to offer any guy and are extremely attractive, in fact so much so that that other guy must be ######ed if he passed on you so you didn't want him anyway.

You'll find a guy eventually and I'm sure everything will work out awesome. hell I'd try CP at least you know you'll have something in common.

Before you PM me too quick post some pics first as I'd have to make sure you're as pretty as you think you are. Because like you I don't want to end up with a fugly life partner.

[Galakanokis]

Perhaps this fella you had a thing for follows the wisdom of Cash Money and Marvelous?

"So if you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Man, find an ugly woman and make her your wife
Cause pretty girls'll have you cryin the blues
But when a ugly girl leaves (she ain't nothin to lose)"

Not that I would condone such things but it does make me laugh.

[mariners_fever]

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