[rant] Why do our gf/wives talk about their colleagues...

[BuzzardsWife]

Originally Posted by GreenTeaFrapp

That's why god created remote controls with volume buttons. Crank up the volume and you've solved both problems - you can hear the game and you can't hear what she's babbling about.

Okay, this is one thing every smart girl should do. I NEVER talk during a game. But I am so respectful of his need for quiet during games, that when our child was really small and uncontrollable, I would take her out on game night so he could watch in peace.

[guzzy]

Maybe it's because Fred and Janet are swingers who want to do a big line of blow of your girls' arse...

They want you to watch.

[Flame Of Liberty]

Originally Posted by fotze

You could....show this post to potential mates along with your Ani Difranco CD's to show how different, better and sensitive you are compared to the typical mysoginistic alpha male heathen.

That's gold, Jerry! Gold!

[DuffMan]

sometimes, after I listen for about 15 seconds, I'll say..."Hey, get back in the kitchen and knit me a sweater".

[Flamesmom]

Haha... you guys are all hilarious !!!

My hubby comes home, will tell me about things about his day he finds interesting, and even if I could care less, I listen because it's important to him. I freely admit to sharing stories with him that I know for a FACT he doesn't find interesting at all, and he listens because it's important to me. It's called give and take You should try it sometime!

And for what it's worth... there must be QUIET in the house during all games/hotstoves/behind the mask/coaches corner... for BOTH of us. Not just my hubby. Hell, last night when he got home from work, he showed me this COOL picture he took with his cell phone of a huge "monster truck" they're auctioning off at his work, and then I told him about the people I was arguing with on CP about Kipper

Gotta love sharing !!

[4X4]

...and you can forget about watching tv while you eat, do you know why? Because it's dinner time. And do you know what you do during dinner? You talk about your day...

[Cowboy89]

Originally Posted by 4X4

...and you can forget about watching tv while you eat, do you know why? Because it's dinner time. And do you know what you do during dinner? You talk about your day...

Can't watch Youtube at work, but that is the biggest sore point for me. It's not so much about what she's saying is that horrifically boring that annoys me, it's the opportunity cost of watching OOT playoff games, baseball, football, etc.

[Flamesmom]

Originally Posted by 4X4

...and you can forget about watching tv while you eat, do you know why? Because it's dinner time. And do you know what you do during dinner? You talk about your day...

That is hilarious. I forgot about that skit, it's sooo funny. And I do think that's true for a lot of couples, but it's certainly not true for all I'm not a big fan of generalizing...

[GreenTeaFrapp]

Originally Posted by fotze

You could....show this post to potential mates along with your Ani Difranco CD's to show how different, better and sensitive you are compared to the typical mysoginistic alpha male heathen.

Wouldn't it be easier for him to just drop trou to demonstrate his lack of bollocks?

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Flash Walken

you could...maybe pay attention for a bit?

I didn't know Flash was a girl's name...

[FireFly]

I think Flash is a bigger man than everyone else in this thread for not being ashamed to treat his gf with respect. If you have to disrespect your significant other to make yourself feel like a man, perhaps you aren't really one in the first place? Just a thought.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by FireFly

I think Flash is a bigger man than everyone else in this thread for not being ashamed to treat his gf with respect. If you have to disrespect your significant other to make yourself feel like a man, perhaps you aren't really one in the first place? Just a thought.

Forgot to use my green font.

[J pold]

Originally Posted by FireFly

I think Flash is a bigger man than everyone else in this thread for not being ashamed to treat his gf with respect. If you have to disrespect your significant other to make yourself feel like a man, perhaps you aren't really one in the first place? Just a thought.

There many different aspects of respect and while courtesy is one honesty is another

You could listen everyday and really pay attention but judging by the sentiment in this thread that is a pretty flawed strategy

At some level you just don’t care, it’s not important to you and if you keep trying everyday to listen to something that doesn’t have any value to you are just going to bread more resentment in a flawed attempt to show your GF/BF respect

If you really respect a person be honest with them

If you really don’t care about what they are saying let them know, you don’t have to be an ass just honest

That to me is showing someone respect

[4X4]

I'm a bit surprised at the posts in this thread. I broke up with my last g/f because I realized that I really didn't give a crap about what she would talk to me about. No offense to her, we're just interested in different things. It was a turn-off. How do all you people end up marrying people that bore you to death?

[DuffMan]

Originally Posted by FireFly

I think Flash is a bigger man than everyone else in this thread for not being ashamed to treat his gf with respect. If you have to disrespect your significant other to make yourself feel like a man, perhaps you aren't really one in the first place? Just a thought.

what?

[FireFly]

Originally Posted by DuffMan

what?

Exactly.

I was just buggin. I know it's all in fun and games around here.

[Flames89]

Originally Posted by 4X4

.. No offense to her, we're just interested in different things...

This is a good thing. There is only room for one of us with a great love for boobies and only room for one of us that likes certain ... umm ... activities ...

[Madman]

Originally Posted by rubecube

The one thing I'm still trying to train my girlfriend in is not talking to me when the game is on. I've explained to her many times that I pretty much zone anything out that isn't related to what's on the screen but she still persists on telling me inane things and then expecting a response.

PVR is the greatest invention for this. If my wife talks to me during any important part of a game/show, (which seems to be always), I just pause the show and that gets the point across that I can only focus on one thing at a time and she is interrupting what I am focusing on.

[PYroMaNiaC]

Men are too funny.

My husband rambles on and on and on about hunting, fishing, his birds, the "man-shed", his crazy job, the garden etc. I listened attentively for the first 7 or 8 years of marriage. Now, I tune him out.

You wanna know why? (Probably not, but I'm sharing anyway) Because the same attentiveness wasn't reciprocated. His inability to listen to what I was saying has gotten me into hot water a couple of times. He would only hear what he wanted to hear. Then he would go off spouting "man-talk" with his buddies and get the facts all wrong.

He still rambles. I don't listen.

I say nothing. He has nothing to listen to except his own voice.

And they say communication is the best basis for a strong marriage. Bah. What do they know, anyway?

[transplant99]

Women are wired to talk more than men...a LOT more.

So they talk about whatever it is they are involved in, no matter the content.

The average woman uses 7,000 words a day and five tones of speech, he points out. The average man uses 2,000 words and three tones. "Men are talk-impaired, relatively speaking," he says.

http://psychologytoday.com/articles/...26-000013.html