Is there such a thing as a lover that got away?

[blankall]

Originally Posted by mariners_fever

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I agree, otherwise I will assume sour grapes on account of the poster because she looks something like this


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rH0Tdxybvic

[GirlySports]

I've never once said I was attractive. I'm just prettier than her

Thanks for all the input. I'm over it now. I just needed to confirm how silly I was being.

[North East Goon]

Originally Posted by hulkrogan

I don't feel bad at all for saying I'd never date a 300 pounder. Shallowness aside, that says a lot about someones lifestyle and the value they have for their own body/health. If someone doesn't value themself or enjoy being active, we aren't going to do well. Plus the highly obvious fact that every person on here is more attracted to someone who is fit than someone who is obese, and if you want to deny that it's just because you don't believe you are capable of attracting someone who isn't obese.

What if the 300 pounder was a billionaire, would that change your tune? Shallow is shallow, any way you want to spin it.

[kevman]

Originally Posted by North East Goon

What if the 300 pounder was a billionaire, would that change your tune? Shallow is shallow, any way you want to spin it.

It might...

I'm shallow. Apparently I'm a bad person for liking fit athletic women...or rich women...

[DuffMan]

By your description of her, I'll bet she is really good at 2 things.

The 2nd is cooking.

[Cowboy89]

Originally Posted by Galakanokis

Perhaps this fella you had a thing for follows the wisdom of Cash Money and Marvelous?

"So if you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Man, find an ugly woman and make her your wife
Cause pretty girls'll have you cryin the blues
But when a ugly girl leaves (she ain't nothin to lose)"

Not that I would condone such things but it does make me laugh.

Actually that's not that far off. Most girls who are total knockouts (I'm not talking the girl on the elevator hot, I mean at least 95th percentile and higher girls) are completely undateable either because of years of being conditioned by the external world to think that they are better than everyone based on their looks and act accordingly, or by the simple fact that everywhere they go there's always some D-Bag who'd kill their own mother trying to get into their pants. Both are very unpleasent to deal with in a relationship.

[Traditional_Ale]

Originally Posted by DuffMan

By your description of her, I'll bet she is really good at 2 things.

The 2nd is cooking.

[OutOfTheCube]

I don't think it counts as 'one that got away' if you never had a chance in the first place. When people say that, they mean someone who was REALLY interested them but neither person ever made a move and they both went on to different things.

Reference 'Sk8er Boi' by Avril Lavigne.

[troutman]

She’s like so whatever,
And you could do so much better.
I think we should get together now,
And that’s what everyone’s talking about.

Hey, hey.
You, you.
I don’t like your girlfriend.
No way, no way.
I think you need a new one.
Hey, hey.
You, you.
I could be your girlfriend.

[GirlySports]

Originally Posted by troutman

She’s like so whatever,
And you could do so much better.
I think we should get together now,
And that’s what everyone’s talking about.

Hey, hey.
You, you.
I don’t like your girlfriend.
No way, no way.
I think you need a new one.
Hey, hey.
You, you.
I could be your girlfriend.

[I_H8_Crawford]

Maybe he's not into Asian chicks?? (I'm assuming you're asian, I think you mentioned it in some other thread somewhere)

I have some friends who won't take a second look at an Asian girl.

Much like I'm not interested in white girls; I can acknowledge when a white girl is good looking, but I will never, ever date one. (for the record, I am white too)

IMO nothing to get your panties in a twist over. Someone will come along that will blow you away, and you won't ever think twice about this other guy.

[Traditional_Ale]

Originally Posted by I_H8_Crawford

I have some friends who won't take a second look at an Asian girl.

Thats mental.

Much like I'm not interested in white girls; I can acknowledge when a white girl is good looking, but I will never, ever date one. (for the record, I am white too)

Also mental.

IMO nothing to get your panties in a twist over. Someone will come along that will blow you away, and you won't ever think twice about this other guy.

Girls! All I really want is girls!

[CaptainCrunch]

We need a new thread

"Is there such a thing as the lover who wouldn't take a hint and go awat?"

[GirlySports]

Originally Posted by I_H8_Crawford

Maybe he's not into Asian chicks?? (I'm assuming you're asian, I think you mentioned it in some other thread somewhere)

I have some friends who won't take a second look at an Asian girl.

Much like I'm not interested in white girls; I can acknowledge when a white girl is good looking, but I will never, ever date one. (for the record, I am white too)

IMO nothing to get your panties in a twist over. Someone will come along that will blow you away, and you won't ever think twice about this other guy.

YUP! But he's Asian too and so is his wife.

[Russic]

A little late to the party and it's probably already been said, but here goes:

Actually know just how you're feeling. Chased a girl for way too long back in the good old days. Despite our best efforts nothing ever got off the ground due to the fact that I don't think she was ever actually into me. Anyways, long story short, the parade of losers that she did hit off with over the next few years was devastating to the old ego. One after another I found myself saying "so I'm less desirable then that?"

Took me a while to turn the corner, but once I did it was sweet. Realized that really it wasn't me that the issue was with, it was that I simply wasn't damaged enough for her to find attractive. I spent way too much time trying to figure out what was wrong with me and never looked at the most obvious answer: her taste is hilariously brutal.

Might not apply to your situation exactly, but I urge you to consider that there's nothing inherently wrong with you at all. Chemistry ... it's an unkind master at times.

[Galakanokis]

Thank you Russic, I burst out laughing when I read this; "her taste is hilariously brutal." That is pure gold!

[Hack&Lube]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

We need a new thread

"Is there such a thing as the lover who wouldn't take a hint and go awat?"

Or maybe a new thread:

"Am I hot or not CP edition!"

[mikey_the_redneck]

So many interesting points in this thread. This is a topic that I research fairly heavily.
Attractive/famous/rich people suffer from the "halo" effect, they are assumed to be smarter, trustworthy etc. Maybe the psych majors can help me on this one.
Attraction is not a logical choice, it is an emotional response to certain behavioral/physical cues. A man finds a woman physically attractive and healthy so she can bare his offspring. Women look for more behavioral cues like confidence, self control etc. If I meet a woman who is a total "10", I immediately want to bang her. If I start a relationship with this woman, and find out she has a bad attitude, she drops to a 7 or so, maybe lower, and maybe I will turf her.
Someone raised the point about women marrying the rich guy and having kids with the studly handsome guy on the side. I read about this in a book, between 10-15% of us have a different father than we think. Of course the feminist dominated media would never expose this, because women would look bad! You won't see it on Oprah. This is a problem in the medical community for obvious reasons.
And yes beautiful women live in a completely different reality than most of us. Sadly, their self worth is tied up into their appearance and they get anything they want. Most men are constantly begging for their attention, so you gotta be more of a challenge with them, and lay down the law, be a little different.

[mikey_the_redneck]

Originally Posted by Cowboy89

Actually that's not that far off. Most girls who are total knockouts (I'm not talking the girl on the elevator hot, I mean at least 95th percentile and higher girls) are completely undateable either because of years of being conditioned by the external world to think that they are better than everyone based on their looks and act accordingly, or by the simple fact that everywhere they go there's always some D-Bag who'd kill their own mother trying to get into their pants. Both are very unpleasent to deal with in a relationship.

This is such a struggle for me. On one hand you only live once so do you swing for the fence and go for the super hot girl with the snotty, dramatic attitude or do you find a girl a little lower on your personal attraction scale with a good, giving attitude?

[mikey_the_redneck]

Originally Posted by RougeUnderoos

I don't think that was the point (though I'm not speaking for anyone else).

If you see a couple people who have, err, "disproportionate physical attractiveness", you notice. We all do. And you probably think "how did he/she score her/him?"

I think this depends on their inner-belief systems of those people and how they value themselves etc. Lets say an anonymous handsome, fun, smart man has low self esteem, well he may not have a sense of deservedness enough to land the woman of his dreams you know? He doesn't "believe" he can do it. So he settles for a woman who others think is less attractive than him, and they wonder. Same with women, although a mans behavior can affect a womans attraction more so than his looks.